I pay child support.
2007-01-19 06:52:02 · 24 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
call a lawyer and get visitation rights set in place & then she can't stop you from seeing or calling your child
2007-01-19 06:56:09 · answer #1 · answered by ♠ JƏSSƏ'S GiRL ♠ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh gosh sweetie, I'm sorry to hear that. My boyfriend is in the same boat after 20 + years of marriage, and he has two young ones.
How old is your child?? What are the grounds of the decision? Do you have any visiting rights at all? Unless the child has said that they do not want to hear from you, that is the only way you wouldn't be allowed to communicate with him/her. Whatever the court ordered is what is set, not what your ex wife wills. However, If the child is of age (12) to make their own informed decision (this is the legal age) such as communicating with you, you can always write a letter to him/her asking if they would feel comfortable seeing you, but not alone. You may at first have to have someone accompany you. That is if you are not suspected of child molestation or considered an endangerment to the child's safety and well-being in which that case, visitation may be more traumatizing then beneficial. And in that case I'd say stay way, and allow the child to heal. However long that takes.
I am glad to hear that you pay child support, because that at least shows you care....even though it is manditory, there are those who simply do not.
Anyway, why not try sending a card in the mail on his/her birthday and all other holidays? If you are religious and do not commorate birthdays etc, then just send "thinking of you" cards. If they come back to you undelivered....just keep them. Keep every picture you have, even ones of the ex. (keeping the ex shows the child that you are not hostile and they ment someting to you) One of these days he/she is going to look you up. ( I did with my Father, and he IS a convicted pedophile.) Then you can give them to your child so at least they will see that you always thought of them.
Another thing you can try, is creating a website ( this is if you have by no means been convicted of any type of abuse against the child) dedicated to her/him. Write in a blog, tell him/her how you feel, all the things you love about them, your favorite memory, anything you can think of. Make sure you have it accessible so that if he/she so much as searches your name on google, it will show up. Name the page, "For my daughter/son .."(whatever their name is)" or say your child's name is Sarah or Jake then name that page "Sarah (your last name)'s page...love Dad". Make the URL something like www.geocities.com/(your name) - that's just an example.
Trust me there are things you can do. Thank god for the internet. Don't give up. Miracles do happen hun. Dreams do come true, and never say never.
Good luck, God bless, and keep your heart and mind open.
2007-01-19 07:15:55 · answer #2 · answered by safireblu64 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NON custiodial parent just means the kids dont live with you for the majority of the year. however you have rights and you NEED to get counseling about her behavior. i take it there wasn't a visitation order made. because then you wouldnt have to be asking this. so get a visitation order. go to legal aide if you cant afford a high price lawyer. the process is so simple. by the way if you pay child support you need to do it with checks or money order (or through the attorney general's office) then there will be a record that you are making payments of some kind. GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-19 07:20:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plenty of rights depending on how the divorce settlement is/was written. If the court papers (divorce settlement) state that you have visitation rights (by the way non-custodial ONLY means the child does not live with you full time it does NOT constitute no rights). Read the papers you signed. If you have visitation rights, SHE is in violation of the divorce decree by not letting you see them. I urge you though DO NOT withhold child support even if she is in the wrong, it will reflect on you and damage your reputation. Sad to say but it is all dependant on the settlelment papers. Good luck.
2007-01-19 06:58:32 · answer #4 · answered by Mickey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have rights, check your divorce decree. You for one can take her to court and get a judge to make her let you communicate with the child. Now if there is some reason why you should not communicate with the child such as physical abuse, etc. then it's best that you leave it alone. But if everything is clear, then you have every right to communicate with your child. See your attorney.
2007-01-19 06:57:02 · answer #5 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have visitation rights? What do your custody papers say?
Talk to an attorney. As far as I know non-custodial means the child does not live with you, but you may have visitation rights
2007-01-19 07:01:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are there other factors, such as not getting along, spite or just being selfish, or abuse? Things like that play into a woman's way of getting revenge, if she has been hurt in some way or cheated on. But a child needs to have contact with both parents if the relationship is good. You may have to go to your local authorities for some advice.
2007-01-19 06:58:33 · answer #7 · answered by sunshine 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have recently went through a divorce myself. I have 3 children. In my divorce papers it clearly states that it is against the law to prevent the kids from communicating with either parent. This includes telephone, email, postal mail, or any other ways of communicating. You should check your state laws on this subject and if you are kept from your children in such a way, press charges. I know it sounds harsh but your kids need you and you need your kids. In my opinion it would benefit your family. Good luck and God bless.
2007-01-19 06:59:41 · answer #8 · answered by cbr_rider 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were denied your custody rights ENTIRELY, then you have none. But you might want to talk to an attorney. If you are a good guy, then you may be able to get some visitation.
2007-01-19 06:57:15 · answer #9 · answered by jennifer d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you do have the right to see the child, you need to check on the state laws were you live first, then file a motion for visitations, if she will still not let you see the child, also check your divorce papers see what was written, if no divorce, or orders placed .she has to let you see them
2007-01-19 07:01:45 · answer #10 · answered by armympmom1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have court ordered visitation periods, take your court orders to the police station and ask them to assist you in picking up your child for visitation. If this does not work, get an attorney and take her to court. If visitation has already been ordered, she is in contempt. If not, file for visitation rights.
Don't give up.
Also, it is great that you support your child.
2007-01-19 06:58:11 · answer #11 · answered by swanser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋