my husband loves me ..i know.. but there s problem , i hate him when his cousins ( particulary that rascal) call s up and talk like bachelors talk abt having fun ( like partying around )which to my knowledge means seeing gals around boozing and gng to clubs ..
now when i spoke to my abt this he says , they just talk they dont do anything and it shud n matter to me as far as they are just talking .
but it get into my nerves ..i hate when his that particular cousin
calls up .we always land up fighting after he hangs up ..
is my husband lying
plz guys tell esp males y u do this .... ??? dont u remember that u r married !!
additon to this my husbands very broadminded , he is least bother where i go whom i talk to , what material i talk , i tried same thing with him .. he was normal ..that makes me even madder .
he says he trust me ..
2007-01-19 06:46:12 · 7 answers · asked by orange p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
jus a few words
"chill out"
"be happy"
and let him do wat he want and do wat u want
2007-01-19 10:38:01 · answer #1 · answered by @b$o1ute $1ngh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband does this sort of thing, too. He has two bachlor cousins that talk and act like girls are just something to have sex with and always want to go out to drink and go to bars with him when they are in town. I trust my husband to most extent, but it is frustrating, and disgusting how these other two guys act. So I have let it be known to my husband that I do trust him, but I don't trust the girls around and when he wants to go out, that I feel more comfortable if they would just go over to this married friends we have and drink at their house. I tell him that he can visit over there pretty much as long as he wants and I know nothing will happen because one half of the married couple that owns the house they go to drink at is my friend, and I know she would tell me. I can understand if you have problems with your husband talking to his cousin and going out with this jerk. If you have made it known, then he should respect your wishes and you two can hopefully come to a compromise, too. Is there some where that you have friends that work there or where you have friends that hang out alot? You could tell your husband that he can hang out somewhere like that where you have friends and they will tell you if something happens or how he acts when he is out.
Bottom Line if you let it be known that it bothers you then he should respect your feelings and listen to you. Being married means compromise, and just because he says he trusts you doesn't mean that you necessarily have to feel the same way and he should see that.
good luck
2007-01-19 08:17:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 20:44:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, i can very well understand how u feel.i 'm in a similar situation i don't mind if he is going out with his married friends but bachelor's i do feel insecure.he says the same thing and doesn't mind at all if i go out with my friends in fact he encourages. i too try to be calm about it but somehow show my anger in other ways.why do we feel this way. i know that i can trust him ,he is a very good person but just get scared about the influence his friends have on him .unless you have a solid proof you can't say things or blame just imagining things. best advice is to be calm.the more u try to stop him the more he wants to go with them.it will get even worse.
2007-01-19 14:35:51 · answer #4 · answered by tina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have faith in your husband he may be having a broad out look .Talking with women does not make any diffrence in the relatin ship with you. Is he faithful with you. Dont make up and thik wrong about him unless there is some ample proof
2007-01-19 19:15:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Be casual and trust your husband. Try to convince your husband and love him more. What ever you want to tell him, tell very cool and soft. Definetely he will agree and understand. You also move like friend and brother with his causine and later try convincing him.
2007-01-19 07:11:46 · answer #6 · answered by Ravindra B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur husband seems to be a coool and interesting man, ur very lucky that he is broadminded............... even i think u shud not bother as they jus talk and do nuthing................dont unnecessarily spoil ur reln for such small reasons........ dont say enything abou this matter 4 sumdays.............jus chill...he vil only stop it............ and even if he doesnt there no harm to u or ur reln..... so try to b cooooool like him
2007-01-19 20:07:32 · answer #7 · answered by Ramya R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋