I have been really depressed lately. I am not welcome at my parents house and I really would like to got there to see my family. I found out that my boyfriend is cheating on me... with another guy. He says he still loves me, but I can't stay with him anymore. I don't have anywhere else to go. Nobody loves me except for my brother that my parents wont allow me to see and I have no reason to live. I feel like I should just go ahead and kill myself, but if I did that, my brother would find out. He is really young. If I died, he would be very upset. What should I do?
2007-01-19 06:38:42 · 11 answers · asked by Lisa R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
1st off, why is it that you can't go see your family? secondly, i'm very sorry to hear about your bf doing that to you. thirdly, suicide is not the answer. you will be hurting so many more people than just yourself. try talking to your parents. they may not want you around, but i'm sure that they wouldn't want you dead either! i hope everything works out for you.
2007-01-19 06:44:19 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When there's no one else there's God. Never give up hope honey, I don't care if you don't have a dime to your name. There's always hope. With your boyfriend, ask him if you can stay there until you find somewhere else to live, and start looking as soon as possible, if you have both paid rent he doesn't have the right to kick you out. Then again that's why you never move in with someone you are not married to, at least if they ask you to get out. There's the police and alimony. Anyway, take control of your own life. I'm sure you already have a job, if you don't find one! Stay in a hotel. One of those cheap ones so you don'tbreak yourself. You'll have to check out at the end of every week, but they'll let you check back in. Then put an ad in the paper for a roommate, when you find someone, go look for an apartment. Your parents don't hate you, they could never hate you no matter what they say. But parents can be jerks. Let them say and do whatever they want. Let your main priority be you. Do what's best for you. Forget that snob you call a boyfriend. Get your life together. Good luck babe and if you ever need someone to talk to I am here.
2007-01-19 15:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please seek some help. You are at a very fragile state right now. Not that you know me from a whole in the wall or anything but I'm sure there are so many things that you have to live for. There are many trained professionals out there that can help you through this.
You must take all the negative out of your life. You have to make yourself happy. Start from scratch. Become the beautiful independent woman that you are meant to be.
2007-01-19 14:47:28 · answer #3 · answered by Jfranc1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When everyone else fails, know this, Jesus loves you. He died on the cross and rose again to save you from everything you have done wrong. He also was present and active in creating you who you are. He doesn't make junk. If He cared enough to die for you and make you who you are, you have no right to think you are dirt and take your own life.
Stand in front of a mirror and look at yourself. Repeat these words until you know they are true:
"I love me because there is no one else like me in this entire world. I love me because Jesus loves me and died for me. If Jesus loves me, then I am not junk, but I am someone who is important. If I am so important that Jesus would have died only for me if there was no other person, then I am not going to waste my life, but I am going on in His strength to be whatever He wants me to be."
Then pray this prayer:
"Lord Jesus, I am having a hard time right now. Please come into my life and make it the way You want it to be. Lord Jesus please give me strength each day to live on for You. Lead me and guide me into a deeper relationship with You. Holy Spirit please keep the evil thoughts from the enemy out of my mind so that I will not be tempted to do what I shouldn't do. Thank you for loving me when I needed someone to love me. I pray in Jesus' name, Amen".
If you have prayed this prayer and you really meant it, you have been made into a new creation inside by Jesus Himself. The next step is to find a Bible believing church and join the singles group there. They will accept you as you are and love you. They will be there when you need a friend or a hug, or a shoulder to cry on. They will help you make it through tough times. They also should have a youth pastor whom you can go to with problems and give you counseling when you ask for it. You will not be left alone to face trouble by yourself. Try it and see.
2007-01-19 15:20:36 · answer #4 · answered by Captain Cupcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is interesting in that way, believe me there will be days when you feel like your existence is limited and that you have no purpose- but believe me you want to stay alive so that you can one day feel happiness and remember the dirt-bags in this world that tested you so that they could feel more human. Haven't you noticed that all the people that have made it huge int this world e.g Oprah were once the underdogs! Hang in there, you will really be surprised at the looks on every ones face when one day they realize there is more to you than they could have ever fathomed.
2007-01-19 14:48:37 · answer #5 · answered by allme_pc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about your Bf... your not welcome to your parents house, I guess you did something that makes them really mad... what I advise you to do is, go to your parents house & ask for forgiveness, mean it well... if they can't forgive you, keep on trying, don't give up 'coz no matter what you have done to them , time will come that it'll soften their heart & finally forgive you... they're still your parents... everybody may neglect you but family will always be family... & also remember that God is always there so don't think that nobody loves you 'coz he's love is unconditional...
2007-01-19 15:12:36 · answer #6 · answered by samz_eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lisa, i understand your pain. you sound as if you have a lot going on in your life and all is not well. Things always get better I would suggest seeking support from a counseler, or support group. The worst thing to do is just stay in the house. Seperate those from your life that dont consider you important, your deserve better. i made a pact years ago family or friends...if they dont contribute something positive to my life i dont want them in it. If you ever want to vent send me an email me at jkrnt@yahoo.com
2007-01-19 14:45:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call me and i can help you. just pray to god for help. If you beleive in anything- killing yourself will take eery chanve of you going to heaven. You're still young- jsut give yourself some space and take a deep breath- everything is going to be fine. Why is your family isolating you from them?? just be patient! they seem like they are being jerkls to you. As time passes by- things can't get any worse than that so- take it a day at a time and you'll be fine!
2007-01-19 14:43:37 · answer #8 · answered by mari d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget what your parents say. If they really loved you then they would allow you to come back to their home. And your boyfriend is just sick. Find you another boyfriend and then yall would be doing good. Then talk to your parents and tell them how much you love them. What you do to them.
2007-01-19 14:43:50 · answer #9 · answered by *SexyBrownSuga* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you no longer allowed at your parents house? Fix what they wanted you to and go see them. Ask your parents for help. They still care deeply about you.
Also, make an appointment to see a doctor and talk to them about your depression and get meds for it.
You need help, please don't allow your fight with your parents get in the way of that.
2007-01-19 14:44:58 · answer #10 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋