What do people think is the number one cause of divorce today?

Answer 1

Wow, Kelly, you type fast. Just kidding.
I think that the option is there and the legal system just makes it way too easy for people to be let off the hook. Because the option is there, people choose too easily not to honor the committment they made even though they stood before God and man and promised forever. Sad.

Answer 2

Feeling lonesome in your marriage is number 1.
Money, sex, affairs, squabbling over in-laws--all that is about not having a partner or not being a partner or both.
People have the expectation that marriage is going to fix lonesomeness, give you a stable and reliable counselor, a tender and passionate lover, easier finances, and all your dreams for your life will come true.
HA!
Married or single YOU still have to take care of yourself, expect to be let down, and continue to love the person who is not always tender, listening, responsible, or dedicated to your vision of life.
Worse yet, YOU will let down someone you love, be mean sometime, yell, and forget to write down all your checks.
People get married for excitement, passion, and commitment, and freak-out when the new wears off, or they hit a speed bump.
Divorce is a godsend for mistreated, powerless women and immature, mistreated men. Divorce is a great way out of a mistake, before you have kids to screw up. Divorce is better than being trapped or raising a child in a loveless, dangerous marriage.
Marriage cannot fix people/problems, anymore than a trip across country with 3 cats can. You will find out AFTERWARDS that this was not a good idea.
Know when to fish and when to cut bait.
My advice: date for 5 years, then get engaged, and stay engaged for 2-3 years. Do not co-habit unless you are past child-bearing years. Do not have kids, but accumulate a history together, mutual friends and commitment based on RESULTS. Meanwhile, get educated, and established in your own life, figure out what you want, and how this person can help you get it. Or how he/she will interfere.This will allow you some time and choices and stability. Negotiate what you want, and will put up with. Don't be his mommy. Or expect him to raise you.
Then if you want to have children- get married, buy a big house and get going. Have a couple and quit.
You will be in your 30's and they will be a joy. You will be stable, grown, past ready, able to balance your life. YOur marriage will be the most important aprt of your life.You will be in your mid-50s when the kids are grown- and you will still have a life together for 20+years.
Don't change your names, since you are not his property, or he yours. You do not BECOME him-and don't forget it. He can't boss you around and don't forget it.
Rushing into these things often makes them mean less, and easier to ditch. Plan out your life, as if it mattered.
These days waiting for anything is HARD to do. Try microwaving a potato, and not tap on the counter saying "hurry up!"

Answer 3

Divorce rates are higher today than compared to rates just fifteen years ago. The causes of divorce vary from couple to couple, but most commonly stem from one specific issue that is compounded by a lack of commitment to the marriage. The most common causes of divorce include money, infidelity, and career choices.

Commitment to the marriage has little bearing on certain causes, or grounds, of divorce such as infidelity, abuse, or addiction. However, other common causes of divorce such as money, career issues, lack of communication or emotional maturity, and incompatibility are often compounded by a genuine lack of concern for keeping the marriage in tact.

Marriage councilors and experts agree that various communication problems are the root causes of divorce and are just closely followed by the other issues. Though specific grounds for divorce are not required to be filed during a divorce proceeding, incompatibility covers nearly all causes of divorce.

Surprisingly, physical and emotional abuse are not as commonly reported as causes of divorce. This might be because reports are kept private or because physically and emotionally abused spouses find it more difficult to leave the marriage than those in other circumstances.

While money is reportedly the number one argument between a couple, it is unknown if this is actually the number one cause for divorce. Again, this is because the generalized incompatibility grounds would cover a reason for divorce based on money issues.

Far less likely, but reported causes of divorce include disagreement on child-rearing issues. Here again, it is difficult to determine the rate of divorce based on this issue as it is also considered incompatibility. Though incompatibility covers a wide range of domestic issues, it is safe to say that of all the possible causes of divorce, incompatibility is the number one reason people file.

Answer 4

I would say that one spouse isn't satisfied with the others income and cheats. Say the hubby keeps saying he's gonna get a good job so he can stop working at Mcdonalds, but he continues to make $6.00 per hour for the next 2 years. The wife is fed up and starts messing with wealthy men so she can have the life she always wanted. I would say that would be grounds for a divorce.

Answer 5

Honestly I believe it is because divorce is openly accepted in today's society. I am not knocking anyone for getting a divorce or juding those that have but that is just my opinion.

Answer 6

Marriage. I have not known anyone to get a divorce who never got married first.


Haha I could not resist

Answer 7

It's a tie.

Selfishness (need for personal egocentric happiness at the expense of the family unit)

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The wrong belief that love should be like in the movies.

Answer 8

Lack of communication and MONEY! That's my case of why I want a divorce.

Answer 9

Lack of role definition within the marriage and the ease at which the disolution of marriage is today

Answer 10

Dishonesty