LOL this is kinda private but has any of your had kids then totally lost their SEX drive. I don't know what happened...Yes I have been with the same person for 9 years but we never had a problem before..Wow..he probably doesnt even notice but I dont get the urge NO more...Has anyone been through this and how did you fix it??Any suggestions:(
2007-01-19 06:11:44 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Talk to your OB/GYN. They can look at your hormones. Sometimes it can be a lower testosterone level (yes we have it too!) There is a cream for it and you apply it on your inner thigh or inner arm.
My OB said that she could be rich if she was able to create an equivalent for women for Viagra.
It is extremely common! Oprah even had a huge show on it!
They won't take it too serious if your youngest child is not at least 3 yrs yet. Your hormones do not fully return to normal until they are that age.
Maybe it's God's built in birth control!! Ha ha!
2007-01-19 06:19:55 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I first met and married my husband our sex drive was amazing and the sex just curled my toes. I got pregnant was ordered on strict pelvic rest then 3 months of bed rest. Which meant you guessed it the entire pregnancy no sex. I had our son he's beautiful and guess what, no sex drive..lol Ive been to my OB and he's done tests on me to check hormone levels all come back within normal ranges. I have also gained a few pounds and maybe that is why because I am no longer the size 8 I was prior and I don't feel as pretty though he tells me I am still beautiful to him. His sex drive hasn't changed so I give in and let him have his way so he's happy. I don't know if its because I'm totally exhausted or what but mine is gone and maybe one day I'll find it again. I mean I am still totally attracted to him and think he's hot as hell and just love snuggling, kissing and being with him but I just dont want the sex aspect of it. So I dont have suggestions because we've tried toys too and well at times it curls my toes but takes a while for me to even start to enjoy
2007-01-19 06:28:35 · answer #2 · answered by **Damn its cold up here** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, yes and yes!!! Been married 15 yrs. Was on Depo Provera for last 9 and had zero sex drive. Finally got off it and am much better! Medications will do that to you. First, examine any medication you are on and the side effects. If that is not the problem, then maybe you need some help, like a stimulant, like a good romantic movie or some wine? Do things you always said no to before to spice it up. Lock the kids out of the bedroom! If your kids are like mine, they always wanna sleep with us and we had absolutely no privacy for years. That's not good! Plan a "date" night for you two and go out to a movie and dinner. Or stay in and send the kids to a babysitters or grandmas overnight and watch movies and just relax. If you both are in love and into each other, this effort won't fail! He will see you are really trying and are available to him. Spice it up, and make it fun for him!!
2007-01-19 06:20:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean!! After I had my youngest, I so lost my sex drive. I've been with my boyfriend for 10 years and we've never had a problem either. I'm still trying to find a way to bring my sex drive back. I just wanted to answer and tell you that you're not alone on this!!
2007-01-19 06:31:54 · answer #4 · answered by Smilies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll bet he has noticed. It's hard to get in the mood sometimes. Especially after a long day of dealing with children. Be sure to have some alone time with him. No kids, no telephones, just you and him. It takes time to let down your guard and loosen up for "quality time". Forget that you are a mother and think of yourself as a sensual being who deserves intimate pleasures. Good luck and most of all, don't give up!
2007-01-19 06:19:23 · answer #5 · answered by what can i do 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK well yes no, ummmm....were to start....i know you still (I'm sure), do you find him attractive, is one question, and do you think of sex as a chore, or it don't feel good, do you get off when you have sex......well with all these questions i want you to think bout, what I'm getting at is you need to find a way for the both of you to make sex fun again.....make sure you both climax....do what it takes, a night out on the town getting drunk, or just get a nice hotel with a hot tub, or if he needs to go get some toys, whips hand cuffs ext ext, try using a vibrator while having sex, have you ever tried it up the butt....and don't knock it till you try it, cuz my girl LOVES is lies on her tummy with me behind her (use lots of lube) she uses her vibrator on her puss with me in her butt and she sayz she cums harder like that then i could ever do it with me in her puss.....and it don't make me feel bad cuz well i *** hard has heck like that i love he she loves is....its just something to think bout and try, but if you are unwilling to try that, maybe something less there has to be something that was once there that isn't no more, or things that are repetitious get boring, if you play the same card game every day for 9 years or watch the same show, not diff episodes same one over and over for 9 years you are going to get bored....have to mix it up, make if fun :) explore and experiment
2007-01-19 06:37:13 · answer #6 · answered by dom_parnell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that was immature as hell. Sending us to a crappy LOUD rock piece of s....t. You're just thinking of yourself guy. This is a rude answer in your books. She is FIFTEEN YEARS OLD. In many states you'd be arrested and thrown in the slammer and register as a sex offender. Both of you are immature as hell too. Get a life and masturbate. You get the same effects only you don't puncture her hymen.
2016-05-23 22:01:57 · answer #7 · answered by Cynthia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nature's trick to keep us from having children too old, I think... sounds pretty normal to have that happen - has no effect on how you love your partner. Most couples I know who ever mention the subject are all in the same boat!!!
2007-01-19 06:15:46 · answer #8 · answered by waynebudd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alot of things can be affecting you. do yoou feel resentment towards him? are you overly tired? are you happy with yourself? Does he or can he turn you on? this answer is impossible to answer because only you should know the answer. you said that "he probably doesnt notice" is that because when you are together he usually wants to just get into it without any foreplay, if that is it then honey you got to let him know and explain the situation to him that you need to feel him and intesify your foreplay before you get ito it.
2007-01-19 06:20:35 · answer #9 · answered by jugku 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't lost it. It has just been covered up with raising kids, taking care of other motherly things. What needs to happen is your husband needs to work at bringing it back to the surface.
2007-01-19 06:17:55 · answer #10 · answered by Spider John 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋