This girl has been my best friend since at least 8th grade. ( I am a sophomore) At the end of 8th grade she moved to a farm in the same school district, but it made her go to a different high school. She and I only see each other at church on Sunday now, and we haven't talked on the phone for more than a couple minutes in a year and a half. We still have sleepovers every once in a while. Last Sunday I confronted her about her being kind of bitchy to me the last month or so ( she brings people from her school and completly ignores me and invites people over to her house in front of me and doesn't ask me) and her response was "I can be a ***** if i want to." My boyfriend says I should drop her for being a loser friend and not caring that she was hurting me, but I don't want to lose her. I have no idea why she is mad, and I want to fix this. I love her to death, but I don't deserve to be treated like dirt.
2007-01-19 05:49:04 · 10 answers · asked by purplemallkitty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ouch. I'm sorry. That must really hurt. The only way to try and make it better is to talk to her. Don't try calling. That gives her the choice of answering or not. You need to drop by when you know she's be home and have a serious heart to heart. You sound like a nice person and I don't think it's anything that you've done. Maybe she had a hard time adjusting to a new school and is hanging out with people that have bad attitudes. I don't know. Definitely have a talke and hopefully you can get through to her that you are a good friend and you deserve to be treated like one.
2007-01-19 06:29:23 · answer #1 · answered by azjen77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OUCH!! How does it feel with the knive in your back. I am talking from experience on this issue. I had a bestfriend of 15 years (so I thought best friend) I really thought I could help her out of her dark stage. Then REALITY hit me. I would not hate on her but give her her thime that she needs. Go on with your friends...I am sure that you will find another bestfriend. It will take time for you to realize that you are sick and tired of putting up with the drama that she makes for you in the friendship. I understand that you don't want to loose her but don't take a backseat to a friendship. You don't deserve that. In life you will see that you have Bestfriends and TRUE friends...Goodluck!!
2007-01-19 14:52:06 · answer #2 · answered by blondieoftexas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds very jealous.
I was best friends with a girl since the age of 5. The "best-friendship" lasted 11 years. It just seemed that as we got older, she began showing a jealous streak, so we drifted apart. She wouldn't even invite me anywhere anymore. I was the one who did all of the inviting and organizing our get-togethers. I finally just brushed her off and moved on. I asked myself, "is it worth giving up 11 years of friendship?" But ask yourself this, "who's being the friend?" It sounds one-sided. It's not worth it.
I'm 21 now. I miss her at times, but I have such wonderful friends today!
2007-01-19 13:57:21 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to let her go and move on with your life! You don't deserve to be treated like dirt, just because she has a very bad and funky attitude! Besides, you deserve to have a best friend who will RESPECT you and be more considerate about your feelings!
2007-01-19 14:23:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I'm going to have to agree with your boyfriend. If she acts like that when you try to talk to her she doesn't sound like she's someone you want to be friends with. People change when they go to new schools or move but that sounds like she changed for the worse. Find some new friends that will treat you better.
2007-01-19 13:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by Shannon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before you drop your friend find out if something is bothering her and that is the reason why she is acting this way. But if her attitude towards you continues than the best advice i can give you is drop her. Life's hard enough without other people adding to it.
2007-01-19 14:36:52 · answer #6 · answered by unique-diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like she doesn't want to be friends with you at all. my friend moved away and we known each other since we were 5. and she found a friend. but that never got in between us. she needs friends too(near her). i got over it. and i think you should either drop it or drop her as a Friend and as a person. tell her you have problems and see if she will listen. if she doesn't then drop her. say good bye!
2007-01-19 13:55:40 · answer #7 · answered by LIlSis K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i can tell you from experience that it doesnt matter how long you know a person they can still end up stabbing you in the back i say she doesnt deserve a friend like you live your life and dont worry about it you go on to your school and she'll come around when she needs her best friend back in her life..
2007-01-19 13:54:25 · answer #8 · answered by jenny m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your friend is going through changes just give her some time to come around. Just watch her back still. a calamity is bound to happen.
2007-01-19 13:54:07 · answer #9 · answered by Chris T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel then if she doesn't listen find a new one
2007-01-19 13:53:31 · answer #10 · answered by niece m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋