should i tell him before the wedding? I dont want to sleep together every night? 3 times a week is good for me. I also want to make sure some days he only sees me for a few minutes.
2007-01-19 05:38:50 · 39 answers · asked by sweetness 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I def. think you should tell your spouse. This is a serious situation that you need to sit down and talk about together. Explain your reasoning. You need to have everything out in the open before you get married so you know it's the right choice.
2007-01-19 05:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by Molly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mere fact you are asking this question. You know you are wrong for this. Tell him before you marry unless your just trying to get money out of him that you can only get after marriage. You'll need to have good reason more then one on why you want to sleep in seperate beds knowing you will then be married. And the only to not see him on some days is to tell him you have to work full days or volunteer or you have to spend time with a loved one and that most likely you will not be able to spend time with him on those days. When someone gets married its usually because they don't want to live another day without that person. They want to wake up and go to bed with that person every night. You sound like you would be better off not getting married, but then you might regret it if you lose him to someone that can satisfy his needs. You might lose him anyway if he agrees to this. Someone is always out there ready to do what the wives won't do.
2007-01-19 05:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by Diamondbch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with you? You are strange. YES tell him BEFORE the wedding. Because married couples are suppose to sleep in the same bed for the rest of your life. Maybe if you have been married for 20+ years then you can make different sleeping arrangements. But when you just get married you should plan on sleeping together all the time.
Explain to him before the wedding what you want and is it ok with him? Tell him your reasons for wanting seperate beds. For example if you snore a lot or he snores and that is your reason for sleeping seperate, then he may agree. But you need to tell him now.
2007-01-19 05:51:30 · answer #3 · answered by Educated 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let him know all of this before the wedding. Why do you only want to see him for a few minutes and you are not even married yet. Why are you getting married in the first place. I know everyone needs sometime to their selves but I think you are over doing it a bit.
2007-01-19 05:46:00 · answer #4 · answered by nj2pa2nc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the purpose of getting married then? Just tell him you want to leave things as they are now. Or better yet, let him find someone who's going to love him and want him in the bedroom room every night. He deserves more than just a few nights a week. How would you feel if someone treated you that way?
2007-01-19 05:45:07 · answer #5 · answered by jazz_lover_25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yes, you should tell him before the wedding. I don't think most people would be very happy with this arrangement.
I'm sure you've got your reasons but it would be dishonest not to talk about this before getting married. I'm guessing there are a lot of things you should have talked about first.
I would postpone the marriage and get a good counselor to guide you through the process of talking all this stuff out before you two get married. There isn't much point in getting married if you know it isn't going to last long anyway. Spare both of you the pain and expense.
Then again, he *might* be agreable to all of this, who knows? But you won't know unless you talk about it.
Good luck.
2007-01-19 05:45:38 · answer #6 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should reconsider getting married. The sleeping arrangements are a little weird. Does he snore, hog the covers?? What concerns me is that you only want to see him for a few min on some days. Why??? If you marry and you don't inform of this first, you will get divorced.
2007-01-19 05:48:26 · answer #7 · answered by alexis09178 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your getting married it's a wife's duty to her husband to sleep with him if you won't there's plenty women that would that cause's cheating if wife will not sleep with her husband that's part of being married and who is going to keep you warm in the winter if your not under those cover's with your husband you should tell him before the wedding he might change his mind and not marry you three nights a week isn't enough for some young men some husbands want sex every day and night some every three hour's it depend's how horney they are
2007-01-19 05:57:23 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want seperate bedrooms??? If you are this self centered now before marriage then dont even get married... You will be better of single and unattached. It sounds like you really do not love him. Dont put him through this and let him get out now.
2007-01-19 05:49:22 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is really something you need to tell him now. Most couples want the factor of being able to sleep together. If you tell him this after the wedding you might be headed straight for court house.
To sleep apart permanent
2007-01-19 05:44:24 · answer #10 · answered by Reggie M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋