My friends I have been in this fight with another friend. we are all college seniors or graduates. She started dating aboy kinda dropped us and goes to see him every weekend. She never has time for us anymore. My friends b-day is in a few weeks and this girl told us she put money down on a downpayment for take out food and the name of the place. Well we called there to find out if she was telling the truth about anything and she lied about that whole weekend. What do we do, how do we tell her we found out she lied to us about the reservations (whcih the place only takes for 8 or more) for the money down on the food if they want to do take out and all these other things that are adding up. How do you confront her about this with out soundsing "stakerish" i mean we had a feeling she was lying that is why we called. What to do NEED HELP ASAP!
2007-01-19 05:35:31 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she had make these so called plans for her new boyfriend and her the weekend before valentines day and that is the weekend of our friends bday---- but how do we say it to her that we know she is lying about the money and reservatiosn for her and they guy
2007-01-19 05:41:46 · update #1
You could lie yourself (bad i know) and say that you needed to call the restaraunt as someone is allergic to something and needed to know if it was in the food and tey had no idea who the party was supposed to be. When you catch out a liar, you feel bad that you had to do it, but the thing to remember is that you didnt lie, you just caught them out, so your fear was justified.
2007-01-19 05:41:10 · answer #1 · answered by PleaseNoMoreNumbers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...my suggestion is to grow up...stop getting so irate over what your friend is doing or not doing...plan a party or get together for your friend's birthday...and then send this friend that you are upset with an invitation....it will then be up to her if she wants to participate or not.....But as far as her being wrapped up with a Bo right now...that's life...you might as well accept it...once things calm down in the relationship, she will come around...all of your lives are going to change and stretch...it is the real friendships that can chill and just go with it. P.S. You aren't her momma, or her significant other....you are her friends (supposedly)...real friends take the bad with the good and don't make demands...it is free...
2007-01-19 13:43:12 · answer #2 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone. YOu don't want friends like that. If you just never call her after the birthday weekend she'll get the point. Wait for her to call and apologize. If she doesn't, then you know she's not a friend.
2007-01-19 13:41:51 · answer #3 · answered by jennifer d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is lying about something so important, don't feel like you have to worry about seeming stalkerish. OR make your own plans for your friend's birthday, including everyone but the friend who is lying. this may be one of those times in life where one friend just drops off. it shouldn't be that big of a deal to her-if she's that serious about her man.
2007-01-19 14:04:42 · answer #4 · answered by starnami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you and your other friend should just stop pursuing the lying friend. Stop calling, stop relying on her, tell her you're busy. If she calls about the restaurant, just say that was her deal and you don't know anything about it. I think it's better to move on, stop wasting time with this other girl, and enjoy the birthday without her.
2007-01-19 13:40:29 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break her off as a friend and explain why. There is no reason why you should hold on to somebody who isnt honest.
You should confront her and say ask her, "So what happened to the reservation you had planned for our friend?" she will obviously be caught in her lie. Then you should say, " Look, we know about you and yourboyfriend and ...."just go from there I think that you should break it off though
2007-01-19 13:39:46 · answer #6 · answered by tika ukie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop being her friend and tell her u know and dont want her involved iwth the plans anymore
2007-01-19 13:38:26 · answer #7 · answered by jenivive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new friend
2007-01-19 13:40:49 · answer #8 · answered by jim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋