Why do people think that the solution to a troubled relationship or friendship is to BREAK IT OFF?

Question

dont people understand that advice is what you need and if you were going to break it off you dont need help with that?

like questions on marriage, you ask "my husband doesn't help me with the housework" and there answer is break it off and find a new husband. are these answers for real why do people think its so easy?

Answer 1

Well I definitely DON'T support divorce unless it's due to adultery, desertion, or physical abuse. I say stay, pray, and fight the good fight for your spouse if you're just having disagreements about housework, etc.

However, as far as just a DATING relationship goes, then reason people and myself recommend you break it off is because if you're already having problems and aren't legally committed in marriage to one another, then imagine what's going to happen if you do get married.

It's more of a preventative measure. If you're looking for a spouse then find someone to date you're more compatible with from the beginning. For instance, you and your boyfriend can't get along and you're not even living together. Well put you in a home together as husband and wife 7 days a week and see how ugly things get lol.

That's one of the joys of dating, you can just dissolve a relationship easier and move on to someone else.

Answer 2

Okay it is like this, people, well I, believe that it is time to go your separate way if the same issues keep arousing and you have a husband who does not consider your feelings or feel the need to change. Break it off is a last resort. I mean simple things like your example or any other encounters you may have would be to sit down and express how each other feel. As long as anyone has a husband that is willing to bend a little then keep him. If someone has a one of those "Im not changing for anyone" attitudes, then break it off cause it will go no where. Now on this site you do get some people who say whatever just to be cute but common sense says to ignore them. Stay blessed!

Answer 3

Because that is the way of the world these days. I think it is pathetic, and if they've been in a relationship for some time they owe it to one another to try to resolve the problem. Seems if they are in this relationship there must be some connection between them. To many people just Break it off and then spend years regretting it. It is best to try and then if all else fails it will be most likely a mutual decision and less heartache for the both of you.

Answer 4

Unfortunately most people want to take the easy way out. Working things out is hard to do. Trust me I know. I didn't put a lot of effort into my marriage, and now regret it. I am now in a new relationship, but things are much worse, and i think that i keep trying to work it out because i didn't the first time.

the men not helping with house work, is universal, it is the one never ending battle you will find in probably 75% of all relationships. IT SUCKS. but is it worth fighting about?

I would say seek counciling but i did that and was told that i should leave him....

I think that you need to find what is missing. I am beginning to think i need to start going back to church. That may sound lame to you, but I think it will at least help me find myself again, i grew up going all the time and now i don't go, and haven't in many years. In those many years, a lot has happened, and i think it is time i start finding that part of my life again.

Answer 5

Hi.....well breaking up a marriage is not the answer unless life threatening abuse is going on..or there is another person in the situation....even then sometimes the marriage can be mended..it won't be the same...but mended....sometimes if your husband is not helping you with the house work...he might truly be wore out from work. Sometimes those are medical issues. A good check up from time to time with a doctor can most usually pin point something like that...or if your moody...you don't have a devil..your harm ones might be flip flopped....mens harm ones get out of wack too....a counselor from your church, going to church...and changing up your activities might make a great difference. (Of course if someone if forcing sex with you then you might literally want to cut it off...) Just kidding...

Answer 6

I think because when it isn't your relationship you're talking about, it's easy to say break it off. It seems obvious to them based on the info they are given. In reality, there is a lot more than a few lines on Answers going on in the relationship. Not to mention the heart and time that's been committed in the relationship to be considered.

Answer 7

i dont want to sound rude, but i think BREAK IT OFF is an advice too...but some answers to some questions are not meant to be really taken seriously... well that's up to you... after all you asked for advice...people have different opinions...cause if you know your answer to your problem then in the first place you will not be looking for advice... hope that make sense

Answer 8

I'm completely opposed to BREAK IT OFF, if you have a troubled relationship. I'm all for working things out kind of person. I believe if you break things off, you're taking the easy way out and just totally throwing out something out the window. You gotta work on and nurture relationships to keep them healthy and happy. IT's hard work, but it's worth it.

Answer 9

The answer to most relationship questions is found in communication with the parties involved. The question then becomes,how long do we try till we know it's too late to save it. Some people will naturally be more impatient than others. Ultimately it will be up to the questioner to answer their own question.

Answer 10

I think people today r just so insecure that they pretend not to care but there are those few that really dont care,they make the world unbalanced with their selfserving ways. It is easier to break it off for those types cuz they dont want to do the labor of love.