I am not easily discouraged, but throughout my years of being an engineer, i've been told that I would not make it. Even my own boyfriend discourages me. He said "if you really wanted to be a programmer, you would've done so as a kid when you first got a computer. Otherwise, you won't make it". I know exactly what he means: you really need a passion to stick to it. However, it seems like men are more readily tuned to dish this sort of discouragement out to females.
I am smart, most likely tougher than you, and I absolutely adore spending 16 hours in a library. learning is my passion. I'm just very upset that he would discourage me so much from even GIVING it a shot.
What do you think? Ladies: have you had this problem? Men: Comments and questions?
2007-01-19 05:16:58 · 5 answers · asked by amber 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think it is a male dominated industry. It is slowly changing but it is getting there. Personally, I know a lot of smart women who would make great engineers. I happen to have hired one.
I think the discouragement comes from insecurity. Women are encroaching upon "man's domain" and men feel threatened, or irrelevant. Its a pride thing.
It may be harder from that standpoint but get through it and you'll be stronger because of it. Do what makes you happy, if someone can't hop on board then leave em behind. You'll find a man who is secure enough to handle a smart girl...
2007-01-19 05:23:35 · answer #1 · answered by Emperor Insania Says Bye! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have this problem with men
Men just think that we are lower, they always have, and they believe that they are better
It's only natural
My experience (among the many):
I was told to go and work with this boy with helping load boxes
the idiot wouldn't let me life the goddamn things, he thought they were too heavy for me
The boxes were so light you wouldn't believe!
I got so angry at this
2007-01-19 05:30:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well You Go Girl!!! I am sure you can and don't stop till you achieve your goals.My Husband Discouraged me and says you can't do that and so on But I just prove him WRONG because us as women are very smart and Very strong we are not these dumb little doormats.
My Advice is to.............DREAM BIG
Have you heard of that song by..Keith Urban? It is called Stupid Boy.Awsome Song Listen to Very closely.
2007-01-19 05:30:42 · answer #3 · answered by Dew 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that everyone gets a little bit of flak for pursuing their ambitions. People want to test your resolve. Other people fear your success.
But I do see that men are always telling women that they can't do certain things. I always hear men telling women they will never succeed in certain fields.
The women always prove them wrong....so stick with it.
2007-01-19 05:27:01 · answer #4 · answered by CoolLuke 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's crap. You just try it, and probably get yourself a new boyfriend too.
2007-01-19 05:35:21 · answer #5 · answered by Buchyex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋