sex with my husband. I have a high sex drive and have never turned him down - usually it is the other way around. He calls me a nympho in front of others - in a teasing way - but I still don't like it. My gf's suggested holding him off on sex (turning him down) until he appreciates it more and doesn't take it for granted. What do YOU think?
2007-01-19 05:06:06 · 19 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Never make a habit of turning your spouse down for something you don't want them looking for somewhere else. This goes for more than just sex, but the same principle applies to sex. Also, that doesn't mean it has to be "on demand." Think of it in terms of food. If you decided to stop providing your husband with food, would it be fair to expect him to just stop eating until he learned to appreciate it? On the other extreem, if you're making him dinner every night, it's not unfair of you to expect him to come home to eat instead of going to his favorite resteraunt because he likes the food better or they make a dish you don't.
That much said, cutting him off completely isn't an option, but slowing it down a bit might be. Make him start have to ask for it, maybe turn him down every other time.
2007-01-19 05:31:10 · answer #1 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gf's are definitly right he needs to appreciate you more. Sex is something to be shared between two that love each other. Tell him you do not like to be call a nympho it is very rude even if he is jokeing around.
2007-01-19 13:22:35 · answer #2 · answered by angels192002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should not call you a nympho in front of others, this is not a joke. I am sorry to say that your husband does not know how lucky he is to have you as a wife, that is what I think and what I mean!
2007-01-19 13:21:46 · answer #3 · answered by markos m 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is bragging by calling you a nympho in front of others - that is what every guy wants. I don't really know what to tell you; turning him down will probably not make you feel any better.
2007-01-19 13:09:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think this is a very mature way to deal with issues in a marriage. You are adults. If you cannot communicate with him on this issue in words, perhaps you need to talk to someone.
And if you don't like him calling you a nympho, tell him to stop! That's just childish.
2007-01-19 13:10:53 · answer #5 · answered by queenie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am not sure on this one but just remember if you hold out on him it may make him want to look elsewhere and he will be more open and vulnerable to temptation if he is not getting any at home... We as wives have to keep our husbands interested and not deprive them of sex just like we would not want them to deprive us of love and attention and things like that.... I dont think he is taking it for granted and tell him you want romance involved with it.
2007-01-19 13:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that will only cause pronlems in your relationship. Sex should not be a reward or punishment but an act of love between two people. Talk to him about how you are feeling and let him know his comments are hurtful.
2007-01-19 13:09:55 · answer #7 · answered by brandeeteer 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you want yes but i think you should punish him in another way instead of the sex thing girl men get vex when u don't give them there honey think about another way to punish him ok or sit down and tell him how you feel communication in a relationship is vital especially in marriage
2007-01-19 13:21:23 · answer #8 · answered by sugargirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think thats a great Idea because even in a playful way no one likes to be disrespected, and It wouldnt make too much of a diffrence if you did it to him around his friends because some guys think its cool to talk about thier sex lives in public.
2007-01-19 13:12:26 · answer #9 · answered by tameka r 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont play those games. They will backfire on you all the time. He's going to feel like theres something wrong and he's going to get upset and things will just snowball out of control. Just tell him how you feel! Plus, theres no point punishing yourself just to teach him a lesson. ;)
2007-01-19 13:11:49 · answer #10 · answered by helplessromatic2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋