Here is my situation I am married to an awesome man for 8 1/2 years. Every day I have his supper ready for him the minute he walks in the door and have a big glass of ice tea ready for him too. He knows that i will always have sex with him (I am very sexual). I am a stay at hom mom to 3 and sometimes feel that he takes what I do or give him for granted.... I mean I cook, bake, clean, look after our kids/house, and give him sex whenever. :(
What can I do???
2007-01-19 04:53:18 · 22 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it is not like he is an **** or anything it sometimes bothers me when he teases me that I am a good little wife or something like that I hate that - plus he doesn't really thank me it is more just a half-**** thing he says.... :(
2007-01-19 05:04:11 · update #1
YOU are not his maid you are his wife.
TRY just one night...Don't have supper ready, Don't have a big glass of ice tea ready, don't clean the house, tell him you are going out andhe has to watch the kids, and be pleasantly tired when it is bedtime. Let him be the aggressor.
Try it and when he says something....WHAM! Hit him with SO YOU DO NOTICE WHEN IT IS NOT DONE.....FROM NOW ON NOTICE IT EVERYDAY WHEN IT IS DONE!
I am WOMAN! meow!
2007-01-19 13:09:58 · answer #1 · answered by Penny Mae 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be grateful that you have a man that takes care of you. You are one of the lucky ones. You get to spend time with your kids all day long while he is out keeping a roof over your head and food in your belly. How exactly is he taking you for granted again? You stay home and keep the house up and he goes to work so you can live in a house. Isn't that part of the deal? If its about you cooking and cleaning for him all the time, why don't you talk to him about taking the weekends off or perhaps you should go and get a full time job and he can stay home if you feel unsatisfied in some way. A relationship is a 2 way street. Do you thank him for getting up every morning and going to work so you can have the kind of life that you want? If all your looking for is a simple thanks, tell him about it, not us yahoo answers people.
2007-01-19 12:59:04 · answer #2 · answered by danzahn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like the situation my mom was in, the best thing I would tell you is to talk to him about it and mention that there are some changes you'd like to be made because of your situation. It's a man thing I swear because I'm not married but have been with mine for 1yr and 1/2, I live with him and feel that way sometimes. I got sick of cleaning up after his parties last weekend, let me tell you, that won't happen anymore haha. Good Luck and just be honest~!
2007-01-19 13:01:58 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he is taking you for granted...confront him. Ask him ot make the dinner for a change, just becasue he works doesn't mean he can't come home and make the dinner.
If you don't get to go out at night, organise a night out with the girls so that he has to look after the kids and cook and clean. You can have a rest.
Yeah sure, he works all day, but so do you!!
Take a break!!
2007-01-19 12:59:15 · answer #4 · answered by karyn n 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What does he do to make you think he is taking you for granted? You described what I do to a tee--I gave up a lucritive career because my husband wanted me to stay at home with our newborn. I also have a disabled 11 year old, and your life sounds just like mine. My husband watches the baby on the weekend to make sure I get a break, he always makes sure I am satisfied sexually--BEFORE HE IS--and he brings home the paycheck--I cook, clean, do laundry, pay bills, keep him and our children organized--to the point that he has said his "world would fall apart if anything happened to me'--I NEVER feel like I am taken for granted--he even lets me take a nap if he gets off work early---Maybe I am just blessed!!!!
2007-01-19 12:59:57 · answer #5 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel like that? Is your husband speaking your love language? Read this book The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman or go to his site below. This will help the both of you speak each other's Love Language and keep the Love Tank full.
2007-01-19 13:07:26 · answer #6 · answered by unknown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you thank him everyday for what he does for you?
You wouldn't be able to stay home with your kids if he wasn't supporting you. It is a give and take thing...I am sure you take him for granted as well. Sounds like you have a good marriage, don't mess it up by over analyzing things!
2007-01-19 13:09:28 · answer #7 · answered by Bev 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him... I mean he may feel that him working full time and suporting all 5 of you is enough thank you. Just let him know you need more or just take time out from work and the kids for a mini vacation just the two of you.
2007-01-19 12:57:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Find a reason to take a week off and let him do it all, He will appreciate you then!!!!! Like important reason to go visit a relative or something. Not something fun for you but something he can say no to. And don't going making arrangments for him for the kids and stuff. Make it hard and let him figure it out on his own. He will so appreciate all you do when you get back.
2007-01-19 12:57:58 · answer #9 · answered by prettyfroggy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay...But I think that the problem here is does he appreciate it? Does he say that he does? What does he do for you? Now before you jump on me, yes I am a guy, I do not feel that any relationship is all one way. When in one I try my best to make it fair and I compliment my lady and do my share.
I would talk to him...There is the chance that he does not possibly see what is happening and you need to talk to him and make that known.
2007-01-19 12:57:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋