Is it sexual preference or not???

Question

Ok,
I keep hearing conflicting views on this site (shocker)
Someone called it sexual preference.
The meaning of the expression contains a choice, or rather preference.
So how can one be born as a tiny undeveloped infant with a predisposed sexual preference?
I really want Truth and not prepackaged societal delusions.
I'm sorry but no matter what you call it bullshit all smells the same.

So Kedar...according to your statement there are 2 kinds of people?
The narrow minded and the gay? Did I get that right?

Oh and to answer your pinpoint. I CHOOSE every time before I have sex.
I ask myself 'Do I choose to have sex with this person or no' So you see it happens many times in my daily life.
Shoot dress you up real pretty and justy maybe.
But that would be my CHOICE!

For those that chose to address the question and seek a real answer...thanks!
And for those that chose to insult and ignore the actual issue while perpetuating the same stereotypes you claim to abhor...thanks also!

Indy...
I am afraid it is you that repeats the same behavior. You personally attack me and choose to try and bring me down rather than ponder the question.
I seek no excuse for my behavior. I am a man and fully accountable.
Guess I was just born this way. So by all means ignore Truth and attack me.
Heres one...you can claim I eat my own buggers while bashing bugger eaters.
Puhleese. I am on to you bud and I won't bite anymore of your weak bait.

Indy Indy Indy...
Do you really think vicarious cyber babble is an accurate window into someones character?
I do not harass anyone. I ask ALL to reevaluate and really think about what they do and why.
I fully understand that the denial is so deep that folks like you will never see the forest for the trees but if I cause one person...just one to say I never thought of that before. Or if...God forbid...you actually address the questions and win me over thru reason and not 'rationalizations' then you would have an ally.
Unfortunately you have me pegged as some closet case that hates himself and thus hates Jews...err I mean gays. And this could not be farther from the Truth.

Answer 1

You hear conflicting views because there is no correct answers. There is insufficient evidence to support the theory people are born gay. Also, there may be certain characteristics that some gay people are born with, but that doesn't necessarily mean they are gay (I've know some straight people who I would have almost bet my life on were gay). However, I do know gay people who say it is just a preference, for them, and they don't really think they were born that way (not too common I know, because it doesn't offer as much support to the lifestyle choice).

So, that's honesty, and it's what I know for facts. Outside of what facts I have seen I try not to judge. I have equal respect for those who say/are gay and those who aren't, just like I respect all cultures, races, gender, etc.

Good luck, but if you find what you're looking for it most likely will just be an opinion, which is only as good as the credit you give it.

Answer 2

There's scientific proof that people are born gay, although not all gays were born like that. Male brain orders in a female body and viceversa in the case of those born gay.

Now, when it comes to the non born like that, here's a fact:
Men have this unique membrane that connects their anus to the prostate. If well stimulated, will cause them pleasure. Is why some known heterosexuals end up gay when they decide to try that kind of relationship.
Women don't have that membrane. They are more sentimental and emotional than physical. Heterosexual women can end up lesbian when seeking mutual comfort during a deep depression. They could end up falling in love with their best friend.

I am not God or anything similar to judge or blame anyone here. Hope that clears up ignorance and blind fanatism.

Answer 3

Some bisexuals literally choose their sexual preference. Not all, but some. Aside from that, YOU developed, at adolescence, a desire to be with women in a way that you would never want to be with men. For gay people, the same thing happens. Yes, we could CHOOSE to ignore our attractions, and lie to women and ourselves just to make YOU feel more comfortable, but the fact is we shouldn't have to.

You can very easily choose to have sex with someone of the same gender if you wanted to. You're right about that. But you couldn't choose to really enjoy it. It wouldn't feel right to you, because it isn't right for you; you are a heterosexual. In much the same way, trying to live straight would just not be right for gay people.

As for "born gay" or not, I think it's silly to phrase it that way. No one pops out of the womb saying "I want to date that nurse!". There is some evidence for biological, pre-natal factors influencing eventual development of sexual orientation, but I wouldn't rule out other FACTORS. There's probably a lot that adds up to someone turning out straight or not straight.

Answer 4

A straight person can have sex with someone of the same gender, but it does not mean that they would find it enjoyable because they are sexually attracted to the opposite gender. Gay people happen to be attracted to the same gender instead of the opposite gender. Those who dislike gay people prefer to use the term sexual preference since it has the connotation that it is a choice that is made. The term that most accurately reflects the sexual attraction of a gay person is sexual orientation.

Here are some facts (if you are interested in facts) that show that having a same-sex attraction is not a choice:

Survival of genetic homosexual traits explained
http://www.newscientist.com/article.ns?id=dn6519

Male sexuality may be decided in the womb
http://www.newscientist.com/article.ns?id=dn9413

Moms' Genetics Might Help Produce Gay Sons
http://www.forbes.com/lifestyle/health/feeds/hscout/2006/02/21/hscout531088.html

Having Older Brothers Increases a Man's Odds of Being Gay
http://www.sciam.com/article.cfm?articleID=0005A6D3-7ADC-14A0-B6C483414B7F4945

Homosexuality Again Linked to Biological Factors
http://www.forbes.com/forbeslife/health/feeds/hscout/2006/06/26/hscout533470.html

Sex and the brain - neurobiologist Simon LeVay found a link between brain structure and homosexuality
http://www.findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m1511/is_n3_v15/ai_15242680

"Sexy" Smells Different for Gay, Straight Men, Study Says
http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2005/05/0510_050510_gayscent.html

Linkage between sexual orientation and chromosome Xq28 in males but not in females
http://www.nature.com/ng/journal/v11/n3/abs/ng1195-248.html

Gay genetics
http://www.newscientist.com/channel/sex/mg18424690.800

Also, these sites describe how homosexuality is a natural occurrence in regards to animals:

The Gay Animal Kingdom
http://www.seedmagazine.com/news/2006/06/the_gay_animal_kingdom.php?page=all&p=y

Homosexual Activity Among Animals Stirs Debate
http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2004/07/0722_040722_gayanimal.html

Biology Behind Homosexuality In Sheep, Study Confirms
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2004/03/040309073256.htm

Gay animals out of the closet?
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15750604/

An Unusual Love Story - Penguins accept same-sex commitments.
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/4352011/

Answer 5

You aren't looking for truth, you are looking for an answer to back up what you already believe. You look for the same things you always look for, rationalizations, much in the same way you seem to feel that pointing out what you consider wrongdoing by someone else somehow excuses your own wrongdoing.

The only "choice" you've made is whether or not to actually have sex. Considering your Bisexuality you do have a "choice" in whom(male or female) you want to engage in sexual relations, for strictly heterosexual or strictly homosexual people that "choice" does not exist. They are orientated in such a manner that they are only attracted to male or female, not both. The only "choice" that would exist for us is whether or not we will have sex with that person(male or female) we are attracted to.

No I claim you harass homosexuals while on other questions you both claim to have a wife to whom you are faithful yet come into this area looking for recommendations for areas in which to cruise for anonymous sexual encounters with males in the Phoenix area(including the fact that you are looking for submissive males). There's no "bait". You are a hypocrite and a disingenuous person seeking nothing but rationalizations to back up your behavior.


You just keep telling yourself that Bub. Your past history in answers as well as questions that have been asked(those that weren't removed that is) are open for the rest of the community to read/see. Lying, when the truth lies behind you written for everyone to see, is a very foolish thing.

Answer 6

Why not go read some of the answers to the 20 or so other questions that have been asked, in the same vein, in the last week?

Alternatively, why not do a web search and seek out the information for yourself?

Personally, I'm sick of debating it.

Answer 7

Sexual preferance doesnt nessicarly mean choice, your preferance can be born in you, like a dislike of something, you dont have a choice. People say you can learn to like things, but really, you're just supressing your disliking, its the same with sexuality. Ur prefeance in it is not a choice.

Answer 8

Your hormonal system is set before you are born, your sexuality, either male or female is set long before you are born and your brain is hard wired in many aspects long beofre you are born. You have no choice as to what sex you will be why is your hormonal process suddenly a choice in the womb.

Answer 9

No.
"Preference" implies choice, as you correctly state.

The correct term is "sexual orientation," which is the one used by learned people such as psychologists.

Too bad you had to throw in that last bit of ignorant bigotry - this WAS one of your least objectionable questions, up until that point.

EDIT - Hey United, I though you were going to go away and stop defaming and bashing us? I guess actions speak louder than words.

Answer 10

The conflict you keep hearing is between narrow minded people -- such as yourself -- and gay people. The only issue is that my answers will not convince you, because you, and some others, choose not to know that truth, at least according to the answers you usually give.
Keep telling yourself that -- just quit telling us.

P.S. please try to pinpoint for us, the exact date, time and hour when you personally chose your sexual 'preference.' We doubt that you ever thought about it, let alone ever made a conscious choice to be heterosexual.