How do you feel about getting revenge on a person or person(s) who have hurt you or your family? I'm not talking about pussyfooting about putting grass seed on carpets and damaging cars, I'm talking hard hitting PAYBACK. Anybody waited for a while and got someone back or just went straight for it? Inflicted serious damage? How did you feel... satisfied or sorry?
2007-01-19 04:41:08 · 18 answers · asked by Welshdragon 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
if revebge is what you feel you must do.. do it intelligently and in a caculating manner so as to not have them know is you...revenge though is a double edged sword....
2007-01-19 04:48:22 · answer #1 · answered by red_klinik 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The desire for revenge is a normal human reaction. It has some MAJOR downsides, however.
- You have to remain deeply angry to do it, which will create enormous stress, enough to depress your immune system and contribute to illness
- If you do what you want to do, it is probably illegal, which will make you a criminal, someone who risks being caught and punished, and you may have to worry about that for a LONG time, or even suffer getting caught, etc.
- You'll probably experience guilt from the act...who needs that kind of burden?
- You could turn the butthead who wronged you into a raging enemy, who could really ruin your day someday
- Ultimately, revenge doesn't satisfy the way you think...you're left with lots of new negative feelings instead of the peace of mind you thought you'd have
You won't believe this, but the smartest thing you can do is just LET IT GO. Walk away from it entirely before it becomes serious baggage. Get to the point that you don't give a flying flip about this person anymore, one way or the other. It may take a while to get to this place, but it's where you want to go...if you want what's best for you.
2007-01-19 08:06:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Karma is real--- sit back, take a deep breath, and watch it happen. You must understand that it was YOUR karma that got you into the situation which hurt you. You can continue the vicious cycle-- he hits you.. you hit back... he hits back etc. OR you can just step out of the game.
By removing yourself, you don't perpetuate the cycle. If you really "need" to see that person hurt, just keep your eyes open. It will come from some other source--- and not incur the 'karmic debt' for you.
But you will probably find, no matter how angry you have been at that person, that watching another person suffer gives you no joy.
This does NOT mean that in all instances we should be non-violent, however. It is justified to defend ourselves--- or to prevent someone from harming someone else. But that is not actual revenge--
2007-01-19 06:33:13 · answer #3 · answered by Rani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once, I took revenge on a guy that date raped me. I couldn't really take him to court because I would have gotten hell from the community and probably lost anyway. But, oh the revenge was SWEET. I felt sooo much better! I didn't hurt him physically, but I got him back. I'm not sure I could ever intentionally do physical damage to a person.
2007-01-19 04:54:53 · answer #4 · answered by L T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to have this philosophy when I was younger. If someone did something to me, I would make sure I did the same to them, only worse. Until things started happening to me and I went from having a virtually trouble free life to one filled with strife and grief.
Not to mention that you are consumed and sometime's obssesed with getting revenge, which eats at your very core. I now know that it's better to forgive and forget. And by experience I know that what comes around goes around. And when you intentionally hurt someone....what comes your way is far worse than say, hurting someone unintentionally. And besides, the way I see it now is that God has far more resources and is far more creative than me....so I just leave the business of revenge to Him...I have been a lot happier since living with this mind set.
2007-01-19 04:49:38 · answer #5 · answered by onecrazypeach 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People have been documented as saying that after seeing those who have harmed, raped or murdered their loved ones or family members get put to death or given consecutive life sentences for their crimes. Never ever get a sense of satisfaction from it...
Nothing brings them back, nothing makes it right and no suffering that you cause anyone else will ever heal you... People make this mistake in thinking that it will because of this eye for an eye misconception. It is in the Bible... yes, But in the Old testament which was the old covenant which Christ came to forfill and ammend. He taught forgivness, not hatred wrath or revenge.
Forgiveness is not offered for the person that harmed you for them... for their sake or pleasure, not offered to clean their heart or any proverbial slate so to speak...
Forgiveness is for you... Anger makes you physically and mentally ill. TO forgive is divine because it heals you, there fore releasing you from the control and power that another mans actions or deeds had over your heart or emotions in the form of anger.
Anger and bitterness, resentment and hatred are all disease causing emotions and should always be cut away for the sake of your quality of life... not theirs.
Let go and let God I always say.
"Pray for those who despitefully use you, and I shall heap coals of fire a top their heads." The Bible.
2007-01-19 04:50:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to go right after it but as I got older I realized it was wrong. I now will pray for that person and offer them forgiveness in my prayers. It makes me feel better knowing I am being the better person. The funny thing is usually something messed up happens to that person
2007-01-19 04:47:50 · answer #7 · answered by regg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is not what it is cracked up to be, it is NOT sweet, it does NOT undo the wrong or hurt inflicted on you. It only begets more violence. Where will it end? When the warring factions kill each other off?
2007-01-19 04:46:32 · answer #8 · answered by WC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No point of getting revenge; if that person has done something terrible to you; chances are they have done it to other people.
What goes around comes around; even if it takes awhile.
Karma its a great thing
2007-01-19 04:50:26 · answer #9 · answered by Tbay56 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i cant stand those bumper stickers, "an eye for an ey leaves the whole world blind" no it doesnt, it leaves the whole world with one eye, and no depth perception. as for the question, it depends on the circumstance, but more times that not, revenge is not the best way to go
2007-01-19 05:04:09 · answer #10 · answered by andrew b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋