I'm almost 6 months pregnant, and had that ultrasound that every woman dreads and looks forward to. I found out that we're having a girl! I confess, that IS what I wanted, by my eight-year old son does NOT feel the same way.
I explained to him that we, as humans, don't make these choices. I told him that God makes these choices (it's the only explanation I think he'll understand at his age). He's furious at me, at my husband, and at God.
Has anyone been through this before? Is this something that he'll eventually chill out about, or is this going to be a struggle until he's old enough to move out of the house?
Help!
2007-01-19 04:38:10 · 19 answers · asked by <3 The Pest <3 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I am sure he will change his mind once the baby is born. My daughter told the ultrasound lady at my ultrasound for my second that she would make her brother a girl. She was not at all happy, but was still thrilled when he got here. I now have 2 boys and 2 girls, and the oldest girl diffently prefers her brothers. She says her little sister is very mean, and she is right most of the time.
2007-01-19 05:23:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't have but one child and if we had another no matter what the child was I would fear for its life because my son is autistic. lol He is all about himself.
Anyway, my sister in law went through a similar problem not long ago. She had Three boys and one girl and she had one on the way. All the boys wanted a boy so that it would be four against one, and the girl she did not care she was 6 at the time. Anywho, so when they found out it was a girl all the boys pouted around almost till the kid was born. They were upset that it was not a boy, and it was all about them. Then mommy went in the hosptal and had the kid. She came home and it was like nothing ever happened. They were happy that the baby was born and didn't seem to care that it was a girl.
I think if you just leave it alone as she did, and let him discuss it with people other than you and your husband it will be OK, let him know you understand him wanting a boy and you don't blame him for being mad, but you love this baby very much and you do intend to keep it. After that say nothing else and let him work it out on his on. If there is still a problem after the baby is born I would seek out some counseling for the family but somehow babies have a way of changing that.
2007-01-19 13:49:58 · answer #2 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will get over it. When I was 8 my mom was pregnant and I wanted a sister. She told me the baby was going to be a boy and I cried. I was very upset, but to be honest, I got over it pretty quickly and by the time he arrived, I was so excited about him. As we grew up, we didnt get along in the first few years because I was a teenager going through my phase and he was at his annoying kid stage where he always wanted to play. But by the time he was like 9, he and I were closer than most siblings and it's still the same way to this day. I'm 24 & he's 16. He's my only sibling and I can't imagine my life without him. So don't worry, your son will fall in love with his little sister and be very protective over her. Remind him that even if he had a little brother, the little brother wouldnt really be able to play ball and boy stuff for a few more years, by the time the baby is old enough to really play, he'll be a teenager and wont be interested in playing anymore, so he's not missing out on a playmate.
2007-01-19 12:59:54 · answer #3 · answered by Monica B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 4 kids, and my son already had 2 sisters when I got pregnant the fourth time. They all came into the ultrasound with me, and when he founf out no. 4 was a girl too, he cried. He did this with no. 3 too.
Trust me...your explanation was good enough. He will get over it, and once the baby is here, he'll come around. My son wanted a brother, but loves all 3 sisters dearly.
You may also want to explain that by the time the baby is old enough to actually play with, he'll be too old to want to play with him anyway. A 12 year old wants to play Playstation, not Playschool.
2007-01-19 12:52:01 · answer #4 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your son is just going through a phase right now. he is use to being the baby and getting all the special attention and now that the new baby will be hear soon he realizes that he will no longer be the baby. he does not like the sound of that. encourage him. tell him that once the baby is there you will be an even happier family. tell him that he'll finally have a play mate at home. and since he will be the older brother he will be able to help raise the new baby. and eventually he will get over his phase and move on.
2007-01-19 13:03:37 · answer #5 · answered by Roboito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We prepared my son well in advance for the chance that we would be pregnant with a girl. We explained the cool things about having either or and by the time I was 20w pregnant and we found out for sure he was happy with either sex. I know that doesn't help you much now after the fact, but maybe tell him he never has to share a room or share his stuff because the little one will have her own things and that might make him relax.
2007-01-19 12:47:59 · answer #6 · answered by Gig 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will deal with it as long as he gets to see her and be with her he will love her to death!!!
I have 2 brothers and one sister and we are all very far apart from each other, and we love each other, and were the best of friends since we were little ones!!
So give him time, let him know you still love him no matter what and that this baby will only came to complete your house, not divide, you won't take love away from him, but find some more for the new baby!! I think he is just jealous, confused, but he will get over, don't let him get away with everything, but take a little extra attention to him at this point, and he will understand pretty soon!!!
GOOD LUCK! and don't worry to much!!
2007-01-19 12:46:42 · answer #7 · answered by Raquel_02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhhh, he's 8....eight year olds really don't like the opposite sex. He'll grow out of it. But you could ask him why he's so disappointed. Maybe he had big plans for a little brother...find out what they are...and explain that he can do the same with a little sister. Then give him other benefits of having a little sister.
2007-01-19 12:44:35 · answer #8 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The second he hold HIS little sister in his arms and she opens those bright eyes he will change 100% I felt the same way about my mom having a boy when I was his age but the second I held Him I Just Knew He was My little bro FOREVER and I got over it....Just remind him she is HIS sister No one elses and no one can take her away from him...Good Luck and God bless your family and may god be with him on his road to happinesses
2007-01-19 12:53:52 · answer #9 · answered by mommy2faithat19#3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's old enough that he should be able to understand. He should calm down after the birth. Hopfully he won't start hitting. Some kids do. My brother was sweet as pie until I was born. He made me into his little brother though. When my sister was born we just threw dirt on her and she'd go away. We made her eat mud and drink milk with dirt in it. Play with dead things and all sorts of gross stuff. Hopefully your daughter won't have to o through any of that.
2007-01-19 12:47:50 · answer #10 · answered by Kimi is 31 weeks 1/7 w/#2! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋