i fell in love with this guy, who is same nationality as mine, but different religion. i am not too much religious but i respect mine becoz thats the way i am raised. whereas this guy is completely different. our parents met and decided to take wedding next jan. i am familiar with the way they live but still scared. becoz it is a joint family and i will have to learn alot. there is a chance of me being not liked or not accepted too. what should i do?
2007-01-19 04:24:50 · 5 answers · asked by champa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am very unhappy when I see some of these answers.
It can be scary to get married, even if there are no issues, religious or otherwise.
What you really need to do is take a bit of time and really focus on the two possible futures you have. The one with him and the one without. Think very carefully which one will make YOU happy.
2007-01-19 04:51:31 · answer #1 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went to something similiar with my husband. Except he wasn't too religious growing up and I was. So he ended up converting to my religion and we got married. We were worried that if we had kids what would we raise them as. He has embraced the religion and really found his place as far as religion is concerned. I am very proud of him. Is there any way you or your guy would convert to the other religion? I mean unless you guys decide not to have children. It may not pose a problem now but it might in the future after the honey moon phase is over. Good luck!
2007-01-19 04:41:03 · answer #2 · answered by PrincessShine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe love is love and sacrifices are made both ways. Is he willing to respect your religion as well. Both of your parents shouldn't decide a wedding date, both of you should. If it remains that you must do all the sacrificing, it will not be a good thing. Just imagine how it will be after you get married, you will be married to the whole family.
Compromise, sacrifices, decisions, choices have to be between 2 people. If you are okay with him and his family making all the choices and decisions, then I say go for it but if you aren't, I would definitely reconsider parents plans for your future.
2007-01-19 04:41:59 · answer #3 · answered by LM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry this man. It's really hard to marry someone of a differnt religon. Think about your children when you have them, how will THEY be raised? You can't force them to be both..and if they are one religon, they are going to hold some resentment for the other parent because they don't belive them same things they do (or sin more, be considered immoral ect...)
Love is a silly emtion you have to overlook sometimes when marriage is in the future. Yeah, you marry for love, but you also marry for other reasons...
So break it off and find a guy who shares the same beliefs as you. I know thats not what you want to hear, but it will save you fights and arguments later on down the road...
2007-01-19 04:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by Pandora 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Champa,
Prayer is your best weapon in this situation. Pray for wisdom to handle this change in your life. Be respectful of his religion and make a study of it before you marry him. Look for similarities with your own religion. Perhaps, they are not so different once you look at them carefully. Get him to talk about his family so that you are prepared to deal with them on an equal footing. You need to remember that God placed this situation in your life for you to deal with...with His help. Good luck, and make certain that your husband values you enough to stand up to his family for you if it needs to happen. :)
2007-01-19 04:35:11 · answer #5 · answered by Peanut 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋