No oral sex and she wouldn't even let me do it do her. She rarely was in the mood unless I did some kind of chore for it....
She claims she was sexually abused as a child and it screwed her up.
Well, I finally got sick of it and dumped her.
2007-01-19 03:52:47 · 13 answers · asked by Dick Richards 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Smart move.
2007-01-19 03:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good plan. I'm in the same situation but am being very patient.
hmmm, I wonder if there is away to offset some of these short falls with something else. Perhaps poker and a bottle of wine................
How is your girlfriend after she has a few, is she more submissive? Mine is, and she loves it. When she wakes up in the morning after our night she is all over me. Doing things she wouldn't dream of without a bottle of wine.
In fact buddy, try this: Get a nice toy like a pocket missle (very nice toy) and have her get on her hands and knees: Vibrate her very deliciousness while her own head is near your second one, perhaps she will find her way; get some tasty edible lube and ask her to put it on you while you are pleasuring her.
There's always an answer people.....we just have to think outside of our stupid limited box.
Ladies, what say you?
2007-01-19 12:00:21 · answer #2 · answered by NoAnswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you weren't willing to help her deal with her emotional scarring, then you really didn't love her to begin with anyway.
Sex, oral or otherwise shouldn't be expected or bargained. She probably really needed someone that could see to her emotional needs. Maybe she just didn't want to because you weren't pleasing her on an emotional level.
A woman is very emotionally complex especially with those types of issues. Try being more patient and working it out in the future.
2007-01-19 12:02:01 · answer #3 · answered by DeanPonders 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a partner of an abuse survivor is never easy, and takes love, patience, commitment and the willingness to work together.
Obviously it's not something that you are ready for, and that's fine, you best move on so she can be with someone who is ready and willing to take this on. Good luck.
2007-01-19 11:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wasn't getting any help with her issues then yes, you were correct in leaving her. I only hope it wasn't as abrupt as it sounded in your details. She has been traumatized enough over the issue of sex. If it is difficult to imagine what she went through then imagine yourself in prison and what would inevitably happen to you while you were there. Now picture yourself a child.
2007-01-19 12:35:34 · answer #5 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this happened early in the relationship then yes. If you stuck it out for a while then maybe you should have talked about it more before you bailed. Maybe she would've sought some counseling to help understand and deal with it.
2007-01-19 12:00:45 · answer #6 · answered by Xam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was better to leave than stay and be miserable. the poor woman needs to get therapy and work on herself before she can be with anyone.
2007-01-19 11:59:36 · answer #7 · answered by marinewife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people were abused as kids...you work through it. You don't have compatible libidos...nobody's fault...move on! Stop making it her fault that you didn't do it for her.
2007-01-19 12:24:49 · answer #8 · answered by Bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smart man.
2007-01-19 11:57:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you were right to dump her.
2007-01-19 12:26:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want to be with a person than dont. But when you begin to miss her dont be shocked when she doesnt want you back.
2007-01-19 11:57:56 · answer #11 · answered by FASHION*DIVA 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋