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I always knew the way men thought of single Mom's and never really have it a thought but now that I am one, I realize just how hurtful it is. This is why I havn't dated, people look at you differently and it is really hurtful. To the guy who complained about the ex husband calling about the kids...grow up, she has kids, I wish my ex would be so considerate as to call to tell me he isn't picking them up or to take them out for dinner.

And to the one who wants to blame single Mom;s for a**hole men who cheat on their wives, get a life, it's never your fauld huh? Must be some slut that threw you down and took advantage of poor little you, huh?

Single Mom's have enough to stress about, worry about and feel guilty about without everyone passing judgement. I never thought I would be here, I wasn't out just sleeping around getting knocked up and looking for someone to pay the bill and I am sure that is the case with most Mom's out there. So back the hell off.

2007-01-19 03:42:00 · 25 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

Leading cause of today's criminals???? Screw you you arrogant ***, I was married for 13 years, never in a million did I expect to be here and I can't wait till life happens to you and when it does I hope there is someone there to make you feel like the piece of **** you are.

2007-01-19 03:50:34 · update #1

25 answers

AMEN

as a single mom it is us who really know how it makes us feel to tell our kids oh i don't know where your father is maybe he is running late then we are the ones with an upset child when the MEN don't show
we are also the ones who have to say sry honey but we cant get apples or your favorite cereal today i had to pay the light bill or car ins
if men would be men and grow some balls instead of us single moms having to have brass ones the size of melons
we get backed into corners looking like the bad guys and the bearers of bad news ( sorry no $$ or dads not coming)
men don't have the guts to show their true selves and say yep I'm just a big jerk and i really don't care about you or your mom

and the worst ones are the ones who think they are hurting the ex wives well guess what buddies your NOT hurting us in the way you think you are JUST HURTING YOUR KIDS
we just take the brunt of it and yes like the writer said we feel the guilt we feel badly don't let our fake smiles and everything will be ok fool you
we are only human and trying to survive and cope with fools and ball less men

2007-01-19 03:54:51 · answer #1 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 1 1

I do have to agree with you and simply because I am a single father with 2 daughters (sole and full custody), and it is hard making ends meet sometimes, and it is hard trying to go back out there and look for another mate, and hope this ones does not do the same as the last one. Yes, on a scale most of single parents are women, but there are a few men out there. I don't bash anyone, and I give very much credit to the single parents (men and women) for not giving up on their kids when the other half did. I don't care for the reason why people got divorced and it should no longer be a factor once you have accepted your single and have moved on. Now, I live by one reasoning, the children did not have a choice to come into this world, that choice was made by their parents and even though the parents do not get along, got divorced, whatever, they still "both" have a duty and responsibility to those children, no matter what!!!!! People don't seem to understand that many people are single parents by either choice or were made single by life. I do bash the dead beat parents who do not pay child support, do not play a part in their childs life, and just forget their child. Yea, my ex was a total witch, but she is still their mother, she carried them, and now shes a dead beat mom and I just can't figure that out. Hey, divorce happens, and it does not matter whose fault it is, and its hurtful and resentful, and people want revenge, and many other emotions are in play, but please don't take it out on the children. I won't bore you anymore, but please remember, the children are innocent, no matter what. God Bless you all, single parents or not.

2007-01-19 03:58:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3 0

OK I think this issue is not addressed enough. I was raised by a single women. Not because she was a tramp, but because my father was killed. And it's funny but she never re-married because she cared to much about me to throw guy's in my life. She worked her butt off to make sure I had a good life. True there are some women out there who use children as leverage, and just want a man to pay the bills for them. And those women give the rest of the single mom's a bad name. At the same time there are men out there that get women pregnant and don't feel like they are responsible. But it goes both ways. If you are man enough to have sex, then your man enough to except what comes of it. You sound a bit bitter towards men, but understand that not every guy thinks the same. And yes you have to find those guys, they just don't fall out of the sky. Stay positive and understand the rite person will come along, but for the mean time I would steer clear of the guys you hang around now, they are negative, and feeding a negative image of men. Hope this helps. Thanks.

2007-01-19 04:00:45 · answer #3 · answered by Tyler C 4 · 3 0

I am not saying he is lying, but sometimes kids over exaggerate things. I wouldn't tell someone that I knew for only one day that my mom beat me. I would maybe try talking to a member of his family about it, not his mom because if it were true, then it would probably make it worse. Don't report it before you know it is forsure true. I have had people lie to me like this before, which makes no sense whatsoever. But if it is true, tell him to call the police.

2016-05-24 07:05:04 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

I'm right along with you! A lot of men are low lifes, my ex is! Sure we had a decision to stay or leave but wake the hell up and look around, this is the age of the women and why would we want to stay around #1 a bad example for our precious kids and #2 someone who doesn't have enough respect to keep it in their pants and actually pitch in, they sure did love pitching in to make the kids...we are rising up and beating the men down. A lot of men can't even begin to touch the things a woman can accomplish...kids and raising them by ourselves. I think a lot are just angry that we leave them and don't NEED them. I'm happy to say though, I found a man that loved this single mom and respects her and also made her his wife. There are good men out there, so not all are bad but poo on those who are!!!!

2007-01-19 03:52:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

Keep your head up Mia

if it wasn't for single mom's, where would the world be?

In my opinion (and I'm a guy) single mom's (the good ones) are the toughest people there are, simply because they don't have a choice. They put their childrens' happiness before their own, and live a hard life making sure that the children have everything that they can provide for them.

It's the deadbeat dads out there that make lives harder for the single moms

2007-01-19 03:55:44 · answer #6 · answered by Mister 4 · 2 0

I personally think you and all single mom's or single dad's deserve all the credit you get because you all if you are a good perant are doing one out standing job. it's not easy being a single parent today. and you as a single mom deserve to be loved just like a single person with no kids. and it give the rest of us guys a bad rep when so many guys do not take care of their off springs.
so the best of luck to you and keep trying.

2007-01-19 04:08:06 · answer #7 · answered by stanley w 3 · 0 0

I'm married & a stay at home dad, so I get a small share of smack for being at home with my daughter while my wife is at work. But I will say that if REAL men took thier responibility seriously to take care of their families we wouldn't have as many troubles as we have today.

Unfortunately the church is not doing as much as it should be doing in also supporting their single parent families. For example helping out with the housework once a week would be an opportunity for a ministry to help out a single parent household.

My thoughts & prayers are with you.

2007-01-19 04:06:07 · answer #8 · answered by Phil P 4 · 1 0

Listen, dated, been there, done that, met many single moms: It's a generalized statement that is short sighted.

Don't everyone get so peed off with it.

I've met single moms with one intent "daddy and money" and some with "I'm independent and don't need you to be daddy and money"

The statement was just to open.

For you single moms who didn't do anything to deserve where you are; I'm sorry' But there are guys out there like me that don't care that much to mesaure you because you have kids, we are just looking for a wonderful woman, kids or not. In fact in my case (and through much change, acceptance) my single mom situation has worked out fabulously for me.

I hope the rest of you have the same success.

Love my single mom, and her kids.

2007-01-19 03:51:37 · answer #9 · answered by NoAnswers 2 · 3 0

Well you understand that each of us have pain for different reasons you hurt because your a single mom, Some of the men that are posting were hurt by there wife's who are now single moms. so they are afraid that another single mom will hurt them. you are afraid that a man will not like you because a single mom.
lets try to understand each others pain and help each other.

Good luck

2007-01-19 03:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by xxgq 4 · 0 0

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