I’m 24 years old, and I have never been on a single date, and I would like to here from you why this might be. I would also like to know that I’m not the only one with this problem, because I really feel weird that I haven’t been on a single date yet. Do you think subconsciously I might just be waiting for the right girl. If so why do I think that way? Also am I the only one thinking this way, waiting for the right girl? I really hope I’m not the only one.
2007-01-19 03:25:56 · 20 answers · asked by Trev R 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
After reading Muppet’s answer I do feel like that, but how can I force myself to go on dates if I feel like that?
2007-01-19 04:13:42 · update #1
Trust me it's not just you.
I didn't date for ages and everyone thought I was weird. Maybe you should try and resolve why you're not dating? I didn't date 'cause I had trust issues (I didn't want to be alone with a guy), confidence issues (I was pretty much a recluse) and I was scared of making mistakes (perfectionist to the extreme, we're talking OCD).
I just forced myself to go out on dates (during college - UK), but on my terms. At first I found it really difficult and freaked out in public places (which was embarrassing). But by going through those hideous experiences and making loads of mistakes, I've got to where I am today. I have a few friends who I trust and love dearly and am in love with the most amassing guy - who incidentally I met on a blind date through a mutual friend.
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2014-05-30 16:49:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to start dating before you end up looking weird, by this I mean that if you leave it too long you will be totally inexperienced in relation to emotions etc involved in a relationship compared to the girl and she may find this off putting.
You don't have to go sleeping around that's not what I'm talking about, dating isn't necessary about starting a relationship, it is about interacting with the opposite sex and experimenting a little until you've ascertained what you are looking for in a woman.
Get out there and have some fun while you're still young!
2007-01-19 11:45:09 · answer #3 · answered by Poppy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like me....I'm an extreme introvert but I have had the opposite problem in my life...with just as much turmoil......starting very young I latched on to the first one and did everything in my power to hang on...and that went on and on for years....guy after guy......it took me til I was 30 it get it right(and I was 30 before was able to say that I'm a introvert...this is not a changeable thing and no I don't have self esteem problems. I just don't like to speak.
These days the right girl is not going to come along if you wait for her......the only thing that is going to happen is that your life is going to pass you by and you will have spend most of it waiting and that's no way to be living.
What about meeting someone at work......
If you are an introvert meeting someone who is the same is virtually impossible. I have never met someone as introverted as myself yet!
There are a couple of yahoo groups...party of one and hermitwannbes...I am not saying that this is what you are like cause I don't know. But you may find some helpon this topic there from people who are not socially outgoing.
I wound up meeting my husband at work(we are going on five years together) he's not an introvert but he tries to understand
I don't know if I offered the right kind of help....but good luck and don't wish your life away....it'll come
2007-01-19 12:12:01 · answer #4 · answered by kardea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have serious social problems, a complete inability to socialise. Even if you were the Elephant man, if you had normal social skills, you would have had a date by now. It is not that hard, unless you do not go out.
How on earth do you expect to find the "right girl" if you have never had "any girl" Do you expect the right girl to come to your house and introduce herself?
If you think I am wrong add details to your question that show examples of how you are out with all your mates on a Friday night, and they all pull, but for some reason you don't.
I don't wish to generalise, but I'd suspect that you belong to a more geekish clique. On your computer all night, or playing music with mates in a bedroom all night, but I will stand corrected if you publish more details.
2007-01-19 12:00:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Start dating, if you dont the 'right girl' may have been and gone. Just cos you go on a date doesnt mean its forever, its as long as one or the other of you want. You need to start getting some practice at the dating game. Its the weekend now, so get out there.
2007-01-19 11:35:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've never been on a single date either, but then again, I'm just 15.
You shouldn't force yourself to date anyone. The right time to do those kind of things is the time you feel like doing it.
2007-01-19 11:57:09 · answer #7 · answered by Buchyex 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hi i think u might be sarced of commitment or it just because ur havin the time of ur life at the min u cant be bothered with all that ,but what ever ur reason its ok to be single at 24 my best friend is a good lookin girl and she still single she likes it like that , when we go out on girls nites out really nice lads come up to her but she does want to now she belives in love at first sight u c so she is still waitin but there is nothing wrong with bein single live life to the full and when ur ready go for it good luck to u and dont worry theres nothin wrong with u .
2007-01-19 11:36:33 · answer #8 · answered by Saz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problems might stem for your belief that your the only one with this problem. Trust me you don't need to worry, relax and enjoy yourself. Your proably so worked up that you haven't had a date yet that when the situation does come along you'll probably be so nervous that you won't realise or enjoy yourself.
Best of luck and relax
2007-01-19 11:34:02 · answer #9 · answered by joanna b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
about the age of 17
2007-01-19 11:28:37 · answer #10 · answered by dave 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋