basically should you have to love yourself before you love someone else.
2007-01-19 03:22:34 · 6 answers · asked by sunnysky4u 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The problem with allowing someone else to make you feel beautiful, smart or any of the other things woman claim is what happens if things don't work out? What happens when the person who made you feel beautiful leaves you for someone else? If they said you were ugly would you then feel ugly? You just can't be that easily influenced by someone elses opinion. It sounds really sweet "he made me feel beautiful for the first time in my life" sounds really sweet but that is giving someone else a whole lot of control over you!! Not to mention you're putting a lot of pressure on this person as well. Being responsibel for someone elses happiness and mental well being is a lot to bare!!
I like the first answer, if you don't accept your own flaws how can accept someone elses?? Not to mention if you don't love yourself it's because you don't think you're loveable and nothing anyone else does will ever change that only you can. Even if they tell you they love you and even if it makes you feel really good you will always question how much, if it's real, maybe they have some ulterior motive for saying so...... it will just always be there. You will be one of those people who always asks "are you sure you love me" or "why do you love me". Ever been with someone who needs constant reassurance? It will get old really fast!!
So in short yeah, it's really true.
2007-01-19 04:25:09 · answer #1 · answered by rocknchickx 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ah, actually quite a profound question. Quite often, we hear people say, "I love him/her sooo much" but it is really a personal ego trip and how a person makes us feel when and if the feelings are mutual. It is the feeling that we are actually lovable and the validation that is the turn-on. Self-love is damn near impossible for most of us limited beings but the soul-mate romance is a fallacy. To be truly lovable? Yes, love thy self. The Bible says love thy neighbor as thyself...the problem is, we do.
2007-01-19 11:35:51 · answer #2 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, not necessarily -loving yourself 1ft however, will make the relationship easier. Sometimes it is in that relationship that you learn to love yourself-because you grow as a person.
2007-01-19 12:21:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definately agree... although before me and my husband met, i hated myself. I had no self confidence at all. But he made me feel like i was the most beautiful person in the world. So he taught me how to love myself and by doing this, i loved him more for doing that for me.
2007-01-19 11:30:50 · answer #4 · answered by iwuvmyhubby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
If you can't love and accept yourself and your own flaws, how do you expect to accept someone else's?
=)
2007-01-19 11:26:08 · answer #5 · answered by Desiree 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely.How can you give to another person what you have not yet given to yourself.Plain simply and short.
2007-01-19 11:36:44 · answer #6 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋