What to do? Abortion or keep it??

Question

Now that my pregnancy is out in the open I dont know what to do. I dont think im ready to take care of a baby but if i do have it i dont think that i could let somone else take it away. I could also have an abortion and that swhat my mom wants me to do but she s letting me make my own decision. and what is so bad about an abortion...???? I just dont know what to do. Im really scared about getting an abortion if thats what i plan to do I dont know if it will hurt or what?

Answer 1

you are going to get a lot of awful answers and people telling you that you must keep the baby. I do not approve of using abortion as birth control, but I also believe that it is your choice in the end what you are going to do. We don't know how old you are, what your living circumstances are, or any other pertinent information about YOUR specific case. I included a pretty good site, it's called Abortion Facts, and goes over a lot of different options, even adoption. Read the information, talk with your doctor, your mother, the father if he is still in the picture. Make an informed decision for yourself. No one else has to live with your decision but you. (and the father if he is around) Good luck with your decision.

Answer 2

I would suggest that you talk to your dr about all your options. This is going to be a choice that is entirely yours alone. If you don't think that you are ready to take care of a child, then you really only have two options. Myself, I couldn't have an abortion, and I understand that while it may be hard to think of giving your baby to someone else, that may be the best way to go about it. There are so many people that really want to be parents, but they can't for whatever reason and they would give your baby a great life, that you may not be able to provide at this time.
The physical pain that may or may not come with an abortion should be the last thing on your mind right now.
If that's what you decide is best for you then you need to be willing to deal with all the consequences that may come with it, such as any physical pain, and the emotional pain that may follow.
If you do adoption, you'll know that the baby is getting the best possible life that they can, and while you may not be the one to give it to the baby, you should be happy knowing your baby is well taken care of.
If you do keep the baby, well I'm sure that you'll become a great mother...although if you know without a doubt that you can't possibly take care of a child they way they should be then adoption would be the best idea.
Don't let anyone bully you into what you do though. Remember this is your choice alone. Just talk to your dr and they can give you all the options and answer all your questions.

Answer 3

Hi I know what you are going through. I found out I was 12 weeks pregnant by my long term boyfriend. When I found out I was scared to tell anyone about it as I was only 17 at the time. I told my mom but nit my dad and my mom was telling me all the reasons not to have the baby etc. In the end I had an abortion and I can honestly say that I still don't know if it was the right decision to make, but I do know that if I would of had the child I would not of been able to look after it the way a child should be looked after in terms of I had no money or my own place to live. The abortion didn't hurt, it was a day thing. You go into hospital they put you to sleep and away it goes. Afterwards you will bleed but for how long depends on the person. I had complications with mine because about 5mths later I thought I had a miscarriage but I had hemorrhaged. This was due to the fact that not all of the remains had been scraped away. I was bleeding for about 2 years due to it throwing my hormones all over the place. At the end of the day ask yourself this: Can you bring up the child in a way that a child should be bought up, or will you just end up being another single mother who can't afford to cloth her child.

Good Luck x

Answer 4

Before I had my little girl I thought that it should really be a persons own choice as to what to do. And now that I see my sweet little girl I could not imagine having "gotten rid of her". I also watched a video on how an abortion is performed. Its terrible, they litterally rip the baby apart. Its so sick and sad to watch. But again like another person answered its really your choice and you have to live with the memories. My sister has had two abortions and she is not a bad person, and neither are you. She was just young and did some stupid things. She now is older, married and has two kids, not a day goes by that she does not think about the two she aborted. I know she looks at her two kids now and thinks about what the kids she aborted would have been like. I have tried to talk to her about it and all she will say is that it was the worst pain, physically and emotionally, that she has ever had to go through. Again this is your choice and your not a bad person for choosing whats right for you, but also remember that you can't only think about what you feel now but what you will feel later on in life. You may like my sister end up having regrets. If you don't think you can live with that but still feel that you are not able to care for a child then I think your best bet would be adoption, sometimes you can even pick the parents. That might make you feel a little better. Please don't feel like you are a bad person because everyone else is telling you you are. No one knows your situation but you. I pray for you that you make the right decision for you. Good luck and stay strong whatever the outcome.

Answer 5

Is the father in the picture or not at all? This is not your mother's decision it is your own. A baby is an awesome blessing and at the same time a LOT of hard work! Are you ready for the responsibilities of being a parent? Who is going to support you, will your parents help you out if you decide to keep it? The other question is, this is a life long responsibility- are you ready for that or do you have other plans? Having an abortion is more than just the physical side- you may feel empty, alone and depressed. At the same time, having a baby might make you also feel depressed and alone. Weigh your options very seriously because either decision is a big one. Talk to your mom and tell her that this is a difficult decision for you, and that you want her to be supportive of your decision no matter WHAT!

Good luck with all of this, I'm sure it is very hard.

Answer 6

Abortion

Answer 7

You can't give a baby to a loving home where someone will take care of him/her but, you can actually kill a child? Your way of thinking scares me. What do you mean what is so bad about an abortion!!! You are killing a child because you were too reckless or too cheap to buy a condom-if you have an abortion you will think of that child when you see children out playing or hearing a child and you will regret that you did that. You really need to rethink your decision, your Mom is wrong! Now that you have created that child, at least give him/her a chance to have a loving family. I'm not even a religious person and I'm against the fact that someone would take a child's life just because they don't think they could care for it,sorry to be so harsh but, this really touched a nerve in me.

Answer 8

Sweetie, your mother seems like she would be behind you no matter what. In that way you are lucky. It's not an easy decision. Contact me if you want to. I knew a lot of people in your position. Some chose to keep the child, others chose abortion. It is your decision. I understand that caring for a child is difficult but there are great things about raising a child as well. What does the father of the child believe. What does he have to say. Abortion shouldn't HURT, although it could be uncomfortable. You will be out of commission for a few days and you can't have sex for two weeks after. Again, it is your decision. Try babysitting a baby for a few days to see if it is something you could do full time. It could give you an insight. Again, please feel free to contact me if you would like an objective opinion.

Answer 9

Hi there, I'm sorry to hear about this predicament, here are my thoughts:

I know a few girls who have had an abortion and I've come to notice that they NEVER forget about this baby, and they all hurt and regret it...

I know if you have the baby you will want to keep it... Have you though about open adoption? I know that that seems like a very hard choice, but hear me out. YOU can choose your babies parents, and you can visit you child. You'll be able to see her, and know that she is okay. She'll know why you gave her up and neither of you will wonder about the other-You can still be her mother and have a special bond with her and give her another mother & father who are prepared to take care of her and be there for her in ways you may not think you can!

Isn't that better than abortion? It will be hard to hand her over, but I truly think it's the best option. Why kill her when someone else is waiting to love her AND they are willing to let you know her- no questions asked?!

Please consider it.

Answer 10

You really shouldnt be asking this question here as you'll get all kinds of fruit loop pro lifers answering and making you feel guilty. I have 2 kids and am pregnant again however im not against abortion as some people just are'nt equipped to deal with kids, choice is yours really. Ask yourself these questions though:

Can you afford a baby

Do you have support

Can you offer a child a loving and nurturing role

Can you live with your decision?

I dont understand how you can say that you want an abortion and the next you say that you cant give it away? That doesnt make sense. As an adopted person myself I see no wrong in giving a baby to a couple unable to have their own.

The choice is yours and I wish you well.

Answer 11

It depends on your age and situation. It is a terrible situation for a young girl to be in, if you have no qualifications, no job and a baby to take care of, you can almost never escape the cycle of poverty and you cannot give your child a good start in life.

I can't advise anybody to have an abortion and I have not had one myself. But a few friends have had done it and what they have told me it that it is more discomfort than pain and there is a feeling of loss. But they have recovered from that and gone on to lead full lives and had children with someone they love.

It is your own decision, do what is best for you and don't let anyone tell you what is right and wrong because they are not you. I'm sure you will make the right decision. Good luck.