my bf is studying in France. Last time, when i chat with him, he let me know that he got a new gf who is french. several days after, his closed friend told me that my bf is making decision, stay in France or back to my country. He has only 3 months left for studying.
If he stays in France, he got that girl but not-a-good carreer. If he lives in my country, he got me and a very good career. Besides, he got tendency to live in my country.
The fact that he got a new girl is very unacceptable. But i dont wanna lose him.
what should i do now?
2007-01-19 02:29:26 · 19 answers · asked by coconut12 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He sounds quite shallow and weak. Although it may tear your heart in two, it sounds like you need to ditch the cheating dog and find someone who will be more loyal to you. My heart goes out to you!!!
2007-01-19 02:33:26 · answer #1 · answered by Obi-wan Kenobi 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It appears that yr bf wish to remain a bf and that is all. However, you can wait for another three months and the position would become very clear. it is quite probable that he stays behind in France and decide for the French gf. His preferences seem to be obvious. He wants career and financial growth with neutrality toward relationships. This may not be wholesome in the long run but then this is what your bf actually is!
2007-01-19 02:42:55 · answer #2 · answered by braj k 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If hes not be faithful to you while hes away perhaps hes not really your sole mate. Perhaps you are both too young to settle down now. its really hard to be the one left behind when a partner leave to study abroad as they are effectively moving on and experiencing things which are new and exciting, it changes everything including your expectations of a relationship. You need to be honest and talk frankly about what you expect in a life together even if you don't want to hear what he as to say. A little hurt now better that than a life time of resentment.
Good luck xx
2007-01-19 02:37:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately the decision making is out of your hands with him. Take control of what you can: Yourself. Take a quick audit of your best attributes and realize that life is short and that you have a lot to offer. Let him make the decision and hope for the best but remember there are several good men out there.
2007-01-19 02:35:51 · answer #4 · answered by Fahkovan Gehtout 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all he's not your bf if he has a gf in France. Just drop him like a 10 pound sack of stupid.
2007-01-19 02:34:17 · answer #5 · answered by **brainy licious**J;-D 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He said he had a new gf, right? Sounds like you already lost him. Move on. It'll hurt for a while, but you you have to deal with the situation before it deals with you.
2007-01-19 02:34:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to get rid of him! You will never be able to trust him if he isn't standing 2 feet away from you. Trust me do it now why he is gone. Find another man and if and when he comes back.....by then you should be over him!
2007-01-19 03:15:46 · answer #7 · answered by mzmo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to lose the boyfriend and find someone who loves you for you and will not have another girlfriend on the side while dating you.... Let the loser go!
2007-01-19 02:34:00 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
But you've already lost him. Why the hell would you want to give him anything more worth having.
Grow up a bit from this and move on to better guys............there no matter what is always a better guy.
But choose wisely grasshopper.
2007-01-19 02:33:47 · answer #9 · answered by NoAnswers 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let him know how much you are looking forward to being together with him. Then wait and hope for the best. Keep the lines of communication open.
2007-01-19 02:33:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋