2007-01-19 02:21:35 · 12 answers · asked by bella0104baby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Be as understanding as possible as they are going to go through guilt, anger, sadness, just the whole gamut of "should have's". I always put flowers on graves, something people tend to forget to do after years have past. It is a tradition- and I always feel that the families are happy to know someone remembers their loved one.
2007-01-19 02:28:38 · answer #1 · answered by live75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the family. It is only natural that we want to comfort someone after a tragety like this, but take a look at the others point of view. They realize what has happened and may feel like holding back. The best way to comfort someone is to get them back out into the world and back to their routine life. Never be around them in a down mood, and NEVER try to get them to talk- they will come to you in due time depending on the person and their behavior. As in a whole family, just bring laughter from something different. You know that they are missing someone, so remove some of their though process from that individual. Change the subject and in awhile, you will change the mood. They need someone strong. If it were me, and a family member passed, died, suicide- I know that everyone around me would be down, thats where i would come in and just do my pesonal routine. I would be myself, and get everyone back to themselves. Do not confuse this with trying to get them to forget someone. Everone heals differently. Possibly planting a tree or something as a whole would help down the road to help symbolise (sp) that persons life. But in the beginning, just be you normal self. Even if those around you are crying, sucluded etc. All it takes is one to make a change. Just like in a relationship. You want the other to change, dont force them, you change yourself first- and the other is forced to change.
2007-01-19 02:32:31 · answer #2 · answered by mcgregorjt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it truly is so unhappy and also you're form and courageous to face by her, yet as you properly understand, she desires help. it truly is an excuse for her to decline man or woman is conscious her. in the starting up, provide up annoying about her because you could't administration what she does, you could in reality administration what you do--experience, act, etc. it truly is puzzling to appeal to close even as your are "assisting" or "allowing" unacceptable habit. i'd advise calling her Granny, yet except you've some type of information, your pal will deny it and then you'll become the undesirable guy. So, provide up annoying, be there for her, pray and change it over to the Lord. delight on your youthful existence and do not tackle human beings's issues no count number how a lot you're taking care of them. i do not understand the way you would possibly want to kindly say on your pal, "have you ever each and each considered remedy, because you do not understand what to assert yet per chance a pro might want to help." i do not understand, yet do not enable this weigh you down.
2016-11-25 20:18:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was put in a situation like that a few years ago. My fiance's brother was hijacked and shot and he unfortunately passed on. It was the hardest thing ever to deal with, for me that is...
To be honest with you, there is absolutely nothing you can say or do that will comfort them or make them feel any better as it isn't going to bring their loved one back.
Just leave them be, but be there for them. As long as they know you there, that's all they need for now.
The grieving process is quite a lengthy one, believe me! It's something that they'll deal with and come to terms with on their own.
Don't do anything! Just be there!
2007-01-19 02:29:08 · answer #4 · answered by *Flutter* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listening is often more helpful than talking, just being there. If they are religious then help with scripture that is positive about death. Or there are books of poems about hope. When there is a suicide it can be especially tough and may require some counselling.
2007-01-19 02:28:21 · answer #5 · answered by doktordbel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how close you are to the family
condolences, a card, a dinner or two maybe, maybe just say, I feel for you, if you want somebody to talk with, I'm here for you.
Even if they say no, just knowing somebody is there if and when you need them is really good.
2007-01-19 02:26:29 · answer #6 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them that it wasnt their fault, and it was just her destiny to have the urge to kill herself. it was her decision, and she is probably in a happy place right now, looking over them.
2007-01-19 02:29:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to let them know she's at home now and she is in good hands and the Lord will take care of her and let them know she is no longer suffering.Give them as much support as possible
2007-01-19 02:31:15 · answer #8 · answered by patty p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there beside them, and if they want to talk let them just listen, tell them that it is fate and no one can change it except God.
2007-01-19 02:27:37 · answer #9 · answered by Janelyn B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there and listen to them. Let them talk.
2007-01-19 02:24:33 · answer #10 · answered by wildbill05733 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋