who loves his beer and a baby on the way. It seems like now that he found out hes drinking more (beyond moderation!). How can I get him to stop. I dont want to leave him over it but I dont want that atmosphere for my child. How can I get him to stop?
2007-01-19 02:17:55 · 18 answers · asked by amanda8410 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
wow this is a hard one, and i have never been in an experience.
i would talk to him and tell him all your feelings: that you dont want a drunk father for your child, and it it really important for him to stop
after you try that, you could also take him to a doctor or something like that so that he can get into treatment and stop
if he doesnt want to, you could take all the beer in his house and hide it or throw it away while he is gone... better off if you live together
i cant think of anything else... hope something works out!
2007-01-19 02:24:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry,but you cant that is up to him.and you knew befor the baby that he drinks alot dont think that he is going to stop just because you are haveing a baby. look thing will get better he is going to be a dad for worman that not to much but for man it is a big thing. he is just thinking alot right now all you can do is be there and talk to him.... and look just tell him that you just dont want him to drink to the ponit that he does not know were he is...but help him and let him know that he will be a good dad sometime man just need to see that being a dad it not so bad...you think about it if you were him and your gril said that she was haveing a baby you would be drinking too.look when you tell a man that you are haveing his baby his think that he will not have a life and he will not have fun and now he know he has to stop,so give he some time and dont be so hard on him,you have to talk to him but dont tell him to stop becaues of the baby comeing you tell to stop or to slow down for him and the family dont make him feel that now that the baby on the way he has to stop what he like to do just tell him to slow down...and be there for him it is hard to stop and more now just knowing that a baby on the way. he knows that he has to stop dont keep telling him just take care of your self and if by the time the baby comes he is still drinking or drinking more then sorry to say but you have to move on and do whats best for you and your baby and you know how he is befor you had the baby.so dont be mad at him if your family dont work be mad at yourself because you did not look at all of that befor you had the baby.dont forget you cant make him be the man you want him to be he has to want to do it for him self and the more you tell him the more he will do what he want.man dont like to feel as if your there mom and your telling them what to do so just dont for get that ok just keep that in the back of your hard..and sorry if you think that i was hard on you but sometime woman dont look at the big pic and they start haveing babys and then they are mad when it does not work out you know how he is so way does the baby that to live a life like that . then they get mad at the man no get mad at yourself a baby will not keep your man or make him better that is up to the man...so if you think that i was hard on you sorry just think about the baby not just your self.
2007-01-19 11:02:16 · answer #2 · answered by mami 04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to tell him that you feel uncomfortable when he drinks and remind him that you both have a baby on the way. When he notices that you are serious he should stop, not just for you but for the future family.Okay
2007-01-19 10:41:26 · answer #3 · answered by drcrim07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get him to stop my love, he has to do that for himself. I had an alcoholic ex and they will never stop until their health is on the line and even then it might not deter them. Once a drinker always a drinker and with a new born you will need support not a p1ss head. I would tell him straight to either smarten up his act or get the heck out of your life. You and your baby deserve better.
2007-01-19 10:22:25 · answer #4 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't. You should tell him how you feel and have an open discussion. The fact is though, the only one that can get him to stop is himself. IF you tell him you will leave if he doesn't stop, follow through if he doesn't. Otherwise, he will see that you are just empty threats and it could encourage him to drink even more because you don't follow through.
2007-01-19 10:23:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he depressed? How does he feel about the baby being on the way? If he's depressed, he might be using the beer to 'self-medicate' himself
Talk to him, and explain your concern, but make sure you do so in a NON-nagging way
2007-01-19 10:22:05 · answer #6 · answered by Mister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him we got a baby on the way i am sory but i dont want you to be drinking youcan drink like 2 beers for a game or party i know how you like it but we got a baby ok
2007-01-19 10:26:45 · answer #7 · answered by mamagirlbri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seem young....i am too...we just had a baby almost a year ago...and i was a big party person...i changed...let me tell you...when the time comes you wont even have to tell him to stop...you have to let him drink sometimes but he will understand soon that he has the biggest responsibility in the world....if you want to talk just email me...im 21 and happy now....it was hard for my gf as well, she said the same thing.
2007-01-19 10:23:08 · answer #8 · answered by jeff m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to him and let him knoe that you are serious because if you just tell him he won't stop but if you let him know the right way he will listen and probably stop drinking.
2007-01-19 10:23:06 · answer #9 · answered by D'Asia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down with him and have a long talk about the matter at hand, but do this before he starts drinking. talking about this while hes drunk will most likely have him saying things he really doest mean.
2007-01-19 10:25:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋