My boyfriend and I have been dating on and off for 5 years. i moved in with him a year or so ago and we have talked about marriage a LOT. we both know we want it, but he is the shy type. if we know that its going to happen, and that we want to spend our lives together... is it wrong for me to propose. i would like to do one and go all out- spontaneous. Should I????? HELP!
2007-01-19 02:14:23 · 43 answers · asked by wp_ashro7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok i accept,
2007-01-19 02:16:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
To propose some one is a right of proposer but acceptance / availability will rest upon the proposed personality. Liking and disliking belongs not only to heart but it also belong to mentality because sexual appeal will take a short while when mutual understanding will take a lot of time to live, etc. to discuss on ideas, for example; A animal also like opposite sex but it will be only for time being, but there is much difference between human being and animal, therefore, only proposal is not sufficient, As you have said that you both have lived a lot up to five years, therefore, remaining together shows your attachment with each other and after remaining with each other, there is no need to propose further. When there is frankness then there is no need of shyness.
2. Every religion allowed men and women to get marry according to there choices. That is why, at the time of marriage, a question, to both the sides, is raised that whether “You accept the man/woman to be a husband/wife or not”.
3.Keeping in view the above, if you both are still thinking – over this problem then it shows that you have zero knowledge about your religion and trying to act upon religion. It is my proposal to please spare some time for gaining knowledge about your religion also, because knowledge of every religion is a light on the invisible problems of the society. Thanks, your friend.
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2007-01-19 03:19:34 · answer #2 · answered by Zakir Hussain Ranjha Hatim Ranj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, this is the 21st century. If you are sure you and he should be married, then do something about it. Tell him that you have discussed this enough and it's high time that he made he made his intentions crystal clear. Five years, including a year in co-habitation should have given him plenty of time to think of what HE wants. Tell him it's high time the two of you got engaged. That should be enough to get him in gear. If it doesn't, go through with your own proposal plans. If he won't give an answer then, then it's time for you to decide if you want to live happily un-married forever or move on. It's obvious he's happy with the way things are and isn't gonna budge till you light a fire or two under him.
A bit of food for thought. I hope it helps. Good Luck.
2007-01-19 02:31:07 · answer #3 · answered by Captain Jack ® 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not? If you really love him, PROPOSE! It's doesn't shows that you are cheap or eager to get married. You just plainly love him with all your heart and want to spend your entire life with him. The proposal will served a good old times memory for recall when you guys are having white hairs, sitting in the garden, laughing over it. Since you mentioned he is the shy type, GO GO GO FOR IT! I wish you all the best!
2007-01-19 02:22:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. Let him propose. I would say yes if he wasn't so shy. Maybe he is not ready. What if he says no? My bf of 9 years told me no when we were together for 1 year( but knew eachother for about 5). I was hurt...very hurt. Then he asked me when I was doing very well and he was not doing so good. I said no. You need to be sure it's what he wants before you ask. Or you will be hurt. And that kinda hurt is deep.
2007-01-19 02:20:22 · answer #5 · answered by Suu S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong if a woman proposes marriage to a man. So go for it if that is what you want. Good Luck!
2007-01-19 02:19:49 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women propose all the time there is nothing wrong with it at all. If that is what you want go for it. If spontaneous is what you want do it. Don't hold back and have fun.
2007-01-19 02:20:05 · answer #7 · answered by Jody Lynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that's cool. Just don't pressure the guy. If you're living together and he hasn't proposed after 5 yrs, it's more than just shy. He's not sure yet.
2007-01-19 02:18:58 · answer #8 · answered by penhead72 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can sweety. I proposed to my hubby 22 yrs ago. He was shy back then too so I felt I had to take charge or things would get nowhere. Some men don't know what they want until you tell them....just kidding lol...............Good Luck & let us know what happens.
2007-01-19 02:20:56 · answer #9 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead.
In this day and age princesses don't sit around and wait for the knight to propose. They have their own horse and propose to the knight of their choice :-)
Good luck!
2007-01-19 02:18:21 · answer #10 · answered by Great Dane 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you proposing! It's the 21st century and women can do anything men can do - including proposing marriage!
2007-01-19 02:17:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋