I am having a baby in 6 weeks and I am keeping her! I am 16 and got lots of support from my mother now ( we just got close when I moved back in 4 months ago!) The dad is 24 with other kids and we talk all the time but he moved out of state because he was in some other truble! Well Now there is a guy that is talking to me and I don't know if I should talk back with him because I know I won't have time when the baby comes but will it hurt to flirt now! I don't need a baby daddy just a friend for myself!
2007-01-19 02:03:27 · 18 answers · asked by baby_mamma123456789 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It is not a online thing and The guy is 17teen! (I have never been with someone my own age!) Well he knows all about the baby and even talks to my belly! I like that but I do wish it was the dad doing that!
2007-01-19 02:37:21 · update #1
You have a LOT going on in your life now. Let your MOM be your best friend at this time. Focus on yout baby. Men come and go, but your baby is your forever!
2007-01-19 02:09:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is great that you are living with your mom and she is supportive and close. I would suggest trying to focus on your health and the care of your baby. If it helps pass the time to talk to your friend that is okay but do not make him the focus of your life.
After the baby comes see if there is a new mom's group at your local hospital. Also see if you can enroll in some childbirth preparation classes and parenting classes before your baby arrives. They will be helpful and you will meet some other new moms there. I think that meeting other girls who are going through a similar experience would be more helpful than a relationship or firendship with another male right now. Believe me, the guys will always be there but you need to be there for your baby right now.
Congratulations on your preganacy and for being so strong at your age to go through with being a Mom. Your baby is very lucky to have you! Take care.
2007-01-19 02:17:39 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok i think that you made a great decision to keep the baby if you ask me. I also think you should talk to this other guy. If you want to be just friends then just be friends but if you and him develop more than a friendship then let it be and go with the flow because if you develop more than a friendship maybe thats how god wants it to be and maybe he would want someone to help you raise the baby so your not all alone and so the baby will have a father figure. Just go with the flow and talk back.
2007-01-19 02:08:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course talking isnt a bad thing. I had my oldest at 17 so I understand where you are coming from. Her dad was a complete jerk and never cared about either one of us. So I was pretty much alone too. My friends kinda kept distant and my parents were divorced and too "busy" for me. The thing that kept me going was knowing my baby would need me and I was her only hope for life and happiness. (yess very cheesy) You need to understand how much this will change your life and that I think you should enjoy your life as much as possible before your baby comes and then when your baby is here enjoy all the moments she will create. Do what makes you happy for now and when your baby arrives you must do what makes her happy GOOD LUCK
2007-01-19 02:18:45 · answer #4 · answered by felixnstacey@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby is a special thing! In spite of the conditions the baby was conceive!! It takes a lot of time and effort to mother a child. You really need too take inventory of your life and how you can improve it for you and your baby!! Right know the last thing you need is a man!! I mean your emotions will be on a roller coaster and you don't need to start a relationship or a friends with benefit relationship up!! You need to love your child and love yourself!! You need to be your own best friend!! You will make it if you plan to!!
2007-01-19 02:09:55 · answer #5 · answered by sexychocolatecity21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a girlfriend (one or more) for this time in your life.
Flirting with a guy as you approach delivery sends all kinds of wrong messages. Your body looks very different now than it did one year ago. It will change again as your child grows.
Your parents, who are now supporting you, would NOT look favorably on the presence of another young man in the picture when the father of your child is currently out of state and probably not contributing a dime toward your financial support.
2007-01-19 02:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends are very importent right now. I am not saying that you should be going out with them and leaving your baby with mom, but they are great to talk to, and believe me you will be very greatfull of the friends that stick by you even when you have no time for them. Tell the guy the truth, you cant get into anything serious but you would like a friend to talk to. Hopefully he will understand.
Congratulations and good luck
2007-01-19 02:15:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't hurt to talk or flirt. You never know what happens in the future. You two might actually have some time together. I know the baby is going to take up most of your time and if he is really wanting to talk to you then he will understand that you have a responsibility that comes before him, He may even help some....you will never know his intentions until you find out. I say talk to him.
2007-01-19 02:09:05 · answer #8 · answered by Jack P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank you for choosing to keep the baby!!!!!!!
Back to the question..... does he know that you are having a baby in a couple weeks? Is it a on-line thing or a real thing? Maybe tell him that you don't know what your going to do after the baby comes, your going to be so busy you won't be able to go out at night on dates because you have a baby to take care of, no going to the movies.....
And if he asks you out, tell him its not the right timing, you can't start a relationship right now, duh, your about to have a baby!!!! you need time to get to know your new baby.....
Good luck and congrads!
2007-01-19 02:08:28 · answer #9 · answered by mrs. ruspee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no longer with the father of my baby to be and in the begining of the break up I felt very depressed thinking that this was it for me, i won't be able to find anyone who a) wants a girl who is pregnant by someone else or b) wants a girl with a kid. Consider yourself lucky that you were able to find someone who doesn't mind the situation. Just take things slow because your child comes first and if he's as understanding as he sounds he'll understand that. GOOD LUCK!!!!
2007-01-19 03:07:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I must say I applaud you for having the baby and not taking the easy way out.It's great that you have support because it's not going to be easy.I would be honest with the guy and put all my cards on the table.Let him know what kind of relationship your looking for.If your honest now it might lead to a long term relationship later.I wish you the very best and God bless.
2007-01-19 02:12:48 · answer #11 · answered by Henry B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋