My boyfriend & Myspace?

Question

So, a few months into our relationship i caught my bf sending girls messages on myspace. Nothing really bad, but just stuff like "hey i like ur pics". If he carried on conversation, he always mentioned me so he wasnt being unfaithful or anything. I also seen him commenting pics calling women beautiful and stuff like that. Now we have been together over a year and it is 7 months later, but I STILL am mad at times and do not trust him even though I have his password. He thought he wasnt doing anything wrong and it was harmless. Should i chill out and let go or still have issues? Am i crazy? LOL

Yes, I am all through his profile its obvious we are together

He hasn't done it since i told him it pisses me off and he deleted every friend he doesnt really know

Answer 1

I think it's normal for guys to flirt with other women.....the question is, what is his intent here, why does he need to do this if he's hurting you and why does he do it behind your back. Watch out for this one sis..................

Answer 2

Girl, i think this whole myspace fad is driving me crazy too. My boyfriend has been doing the same thing ever since we have been together(3 years). I also have his password and every once in awhile I log in to see what hes been up to. He saves all his messages and at times it gets to me. At one point I didn't check his stuff for almost a year and then when I did- I was shocked cuz what I found I did not like at all. He had found a local girl and was talking to her on the phone while he was at work. When I confronted him about it - he made this big deal about the whole thing. So I let it go, but one day she called his phone and I answered it.. he apparently told her that we weren't dating anymore and that I was crazy.. He told her he wanted to take her out and give her the world. Hell, he even got a phone contract with the same provider as her so they could talk for free.... It's almost as if being with you isn't enough, ya know? Well we are still together.. but I would be careful with myspace. I just don't trust that site anymore. It brings a lot of drama and hurts a lot of people. Talking can be harmless,but it can end up being something more. be careful.

Answer 3

YES CHILL OUT! he hasn't touch these women, did he? NO! its only internet, its so harmless and he hasnt cheat on you. Why don't you do same thing? leave some messages to some guys, post the comments about guys' pictures, i am sure he doesnt care if you do. But hey if its bother him then you can teach him a lesson, if he doesnt comfort what you just do like him then tell him that he has to stop doing it and you will do same. Fair is Fair. Also chillllllllllllllll out, its only words, so what

Answer 4

Darlin, you have his password and he knows it. I don't think his activity on myspace is anything for you to worry about, especially since you can see everything he does and receives. As for him commenting others pics, well you should get used to that. My girl is the only one I truly LOVE, but I still think that lots of girls I see are beautiful. It's all about trust, so don't go doubting until he gives you reason to do so.

Answer 5

You are not crazy.
I hate myspace !
It is so inundated with perverts and predators and underage girls and boys posting seductive pictures of themselves and flirting with older men that the whole thing is just Amber Alerts waiting to happen.
I would suggest that you discourage your guy from participating in that kind of behavior before it does become a problem.
That is just my opinion.
Even if it is not a problem now it can incrementally become a problem.
Besides, what is to keep him from just making another account and leaving you with the password for the decoy account?

Answer 6

I guarantee he's still doing it. And he is being unfaithful. My space is no different then picking up the phone and calling someone, which I bet he's doing to. If you made him happy he wouldn't be trolling for girls on My Space. He's probably hanging with you cause he's got a girl while he's looking for another. Are you really that naive.

Answer 7

There is nothing wrong with a LITTLE jealousy. But, don't take it to the extreme. He's not doing anything wrong...you said so yourself...and he quit when you told him it bothers you....I'm not sure at this point what it is that you have to be angry about? Sounds to me that he cares for you deeply. If he didn't enjoy "looking" at beautiful ladies...he'd be a strange man! Better cool your jets before you run him off!

Answer 8

i did the same thing as your boyfriend and my gfriend got pissed off. But I explained to her that I was just complimenting them. I also told her that at the end of the day who do I come home to?
I love my girlfriend and she loves me he is just having some harmless fun. But one way to show him how much it bothers you, you should go on myspace and compliment a man and let your boyfriend see what you wrote. see how he reacts. My girlfriend did that to me and it made me realize where she was coming from.

Answer 9

Face it, men like attention from different women. Men are visual creatures and love to look at other women. Most of the women he is messaging are probably no where close to you so it really is nothing to worry about. Just let it go.

Answer 10

First of all, he isn't that clueless and he shouldn't believe that you are.

He disrespected you by being on myspace, talking to other women and openly flirted with them and you STILL kept him around?

You are an enabler - you have now given him the right to disrespect you on a daily basis.

You need to cut your losses and gain back your respect.

Answer 11

Tell him it bothers you, but I wouldnt dwell on it. IF he always mentions that he has a girlfriend, Does his profile also say he is in a relationship, or anything about you? If so, then I really wouldnt worry about it. My husband did the same thing. He is just complimenting them, I dont think it has anything to do with wanting to hook up.