My husband of two years never got me a wedding ring. The other day he bought me a 50.00 fakey. I'm too embarressed to wear it. Is he so clueless, or trying to hurt me?
2007-01-19 01:34:46 · 41 answers · asked by sky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He just sounds cheap. You married a cheapskate. My ex husband bought me a $100 engagement ring and then told me that it is not the size of the stone that matters. I could not even see the stone. He called it a diamond chip. I never worried about the ring but I did find out that he was very cheap throughout the marriage. He called the money his and never wanted to share. He was always broke and wanted to spend every penny he made on himself..
2007-01-19 02:01:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He might just be clueless as to how important a wedding ring is to you, OR he might simply not have the means of making such an expensive purchase at this time--which is why he bought you the $50 one.
If this is the case, you might make him feel worse by refusing to wear it.
You should at least wear it around the house, and if he does ask why you don't wear it when you two go out, simply be honest (and tactful) and say something along the lines of
"It's a nice ring, but I really expected something else..." and see what he says.
Also, keep in mind that although it does hold sentimental, as well as monetary value.....a ring is just a ring, and the marriage is so much more than that.
2007-01-19 01:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by WickedCute 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt he is trying to hurt you, he more than likely does not put the same kind of value on a wedding ring that you do. Chances are that he will spend good money on something that he thinks is important or useful, but then he looks at a wedding ring and just some kind of decoration that has little use and is over priced. I honestly do not think he means any harm by it, just does not see the big deal. That does not mean it is not important to you and you do not deserve a real ring, you just need to get him to understand how important it is to you.
Let him know that you view the wedding ring as a symbol of his love for you and his commitment to you and by him giving you a $50 ring he just placed a very low value on that. Also let him know that you want to show it off to everyone and when they ask you how many carrots it is, you do not want to have to reply with, "do they measure cubic zirconia in carrots?" If he understands that people will develop an opinion of him based on the ring on you finger, maybe he will re-think his purchase. Give him a chance to fix it.
2007-01-19 02:36:33 · answer #3 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing your circumstances, it is hard to answer this question. Does he have the money to invest into a wedding ring and is it a wedding ring or an engagement ring that you are talking about? If you guys are struggling financially, then no, I don't think he is trying to hurt you. I think he is doing the best that he can. Are you embarrassed to wear the ring b/c it is small and maybe doesn't compare to your friends? If so, I think you are being out of line on this one. Like I said in the beginning, it is difficult to answer this question without a little more info. Maybe you can suggest that he buy you a ring with you guys tax check, but only if you can afford to do that. Because in all honesty, you know that you are married and so does the court system.
2007-01-19 01:49:02 · answer #4 · answered by surelycoolgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he is not trying to hurt you. He is too cheap. Why not save up enough to buy yourself and him wedding rings? Take the initiative since he doesn't seem to care about it. Don't wear the fakey. It is not good to wear a fakey to represent your love for each other. Your love is true, so too the ring should be real or valuable.
2007-01-19 03:24:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be embarrassed. My ex gave me a set of rings that turned my finger green. I later learned he won them at the state fair. That's ok. He was as worthless as the rings.
Much depends...what is your income like? Can he afford to buy you a ring? Did he feel badly that he wasn't able to buy you a ring when you got married and he's trying to fill that space for the time being with a faux ring?
If he dropped $50 for a fake rock because you have been nagging him for a ring, then you deserve what you got.
There are too many missing details to properly answer this.
2007-01-19 01:40:48 · answer #6 · answered by Blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He never bought you and Engagement ring, or a wedding band? Tell him the truth. A cheaper alternative to a diamond engagement ring would be to get you favorite colored stone, in you favorite cut. I wish I would have thought about that before I picked out what kind of ring I wanted. It is very unique and stylish, and like I said, cheaper than a diamond, but still a real ring.
2007-01-19 01:40:36 · answer #7 · answered by Snow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well No He doesn't want to embarrass you. You should wear that cheap $50 ring with pride. I have a $50 dollar one too!!! Besides I dont think it matters how big your diamond is or how expensive it was, the only thing that matters is that he loves you. But if you need something nicer to make you happier I would talk to him about it and see if you can invest in a nicer ring for you.
2007-01-19 04:02:42 · answer #8 · answered by cireniod 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I think that the problem lies further down than just the wedding ring sweety. While the wedding ring is a symbol of the solidarity of the two of you, it is really nothing more than just a symbol.
what matters is the feelings that you have for each other and the vows that you took.
I just get this feeling from the tone of your question that there may be deeper lying issues.
If you would like to talk to someone about it, you can email and I would be more than happy to listen.
2007-01-19 01:39:22 · answer #9 · answered by degendave99 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why did you marry him in the first place, and maybe he can't afford a better one than 50 bucks, If your happy with him than does a ring really matter? If the ring is from the heart than weather it cost a million dollars or 50 cents it shouldn't matter. If your to embarressed to wear it maybe you have a problem
2007-01-19 01:39:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋