i'm popular but the people i hang with aren't true friends they just use me, my truest best friend is an emo (kind of like a goth) so is it worth not having true friends aslong as ur popular and everything?
2007-01-19 01:30:29 · 36 answers · asked by SeaSide,x 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No it's definitely not worth it.
2007-01-19 01:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by strawberrycrush 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he has grew to develop into right into somewhat an fool to be honest - one of those use & abuse form - precisely what you've been declaring about he needs you at the same time as no man or woman else is there. i'd basically get on mutually with your existence and if he contacts you, basically tell him you're busy. at the same time as/if he realises that you're continuously 'busy' at the same time as he calls and tries to make up then possibly there is something nicely worth saving. If he's so up his new self that he would not even note then i'd basically be happy that he hasn't wasted any more desirable of a few time xx
2016-10-17 02:16:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it isn't. The people you are "friends" with are like you said, using you. when someone that they like more than you comes along they're gonna move over to the next kid and you will wind up being old news...and that's not fun. You feel empty after a while because you are no longer ignorant to the fact that your friends are not really your friends. then you will feel used which is also not a good feeling. Get out of it while you can, but don't make a scene. don't start a fight and end it tha way, just slow down on the hanging-out-with-people-constantly thing....mingle with other groups and expand your circle of friends. search for someone that may have the same interests...join a team or club and bond over that.
my point is don't keep hanging out with people you aren't really friends with. its not worth it, it gets annoying and its stupid. And also don't do stuff you don't really like. its boring and a REALLY huge waste of time. Popularity and beauty will fade over time....real friends, intelligence and stupidity can last forever...and taxes but that's not really the point.
2007-01-19 01:43:24 · answer #3 · answered by LadyT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are only popular with people who don't respect you, then are you really popular?
Nope.
Do the popular kids in high school grow up to have better lives?
Nope, usually they can't handle the realities of life in the real world, where colleges and employers and co workers don't treat them like royalty because they are popular.
Find a true friend, be a true friend, develop some lasting relationships with people who mean something to you, perhaps even in your own family, and you will be much better off.
2007-01-19 01:35:39 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet n Sour 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have experienced something many don't ...a moment of clarity and truth. Congratulations! I tell my children that you only have one or two REAL friends and at some point and time they may and probably will forsake you but that's life. We have to learn not to throw the baby out with the bathwater. If a person is mostly trustworthy and has good character, then they are probably good to keep. But if the person has too many flaws in their character and can't be counted on, they should be put in a "acquaintance" category. Not many earn the right to be called "friend" in my book. Being popular means that you have please alot of people and that can be dangerous or scary or tiring.
2007-01-19 01:39:22 · answer #5 · answered by MeHurdu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be popular now and have everyone following you around like lost puppies and trying to imitate you but in the end those are not your TRUE friends. They are the ones that will find the first opportunity to make you look foolish and try to replace you. Being poplar is nowhere near important than having true friends.
2007-01-19 01:49:21 · answer #6 · answered by tiffany s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is no worth being popular if that group you are hanging out with is not your real friends! Think of it this way when you graduate (I image you are still in high school), you will never talk to those people again! I would hang out with the people that will respect you as a friend not as their user! High school is a short experience start hanging out with the people you really like and that like you, it will make it funnier for you!
2007-01-19 01:38:32 · answer #7 · answered by ~*Sweet Pea*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion it is not worth being popular if your friends arent true. I think a relationship should be based on trust and pretending to be someones friend is not trustworthy. I think that you should forget about being popular, stop getting used and keep in contact with your best friend who is an emo.
2007-01-19 01:40:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you're popular for. Maybe you're hanging out with (and trying to be accepted by) the wrong people. Apparently, they aren't into the things that you are. You can be popular by being known for something good and loser (who are into goth or death) don't like that. Why try to impress losers. Impress yourself and do what makes you happy. You may just develop a whole new system of really great friends.
2007-01-19 01:33:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a self-answerng question.
there is no value in people who just use you - if you know that this is what they are doing - so it is inappropraite to refer to them as friends.
You seem to be able to tell the difference beteen a true friend and someone who is using you.
Popularity founded on exploitation is not true popularity - and you are fooling yourself if you see it as such.
Stop allowing yourself to be used. Start valuing yourself. respect yourself and love yourself - and popularity will grow with worthwhile people who you have yet to meet - when they see that you are a person who appreciates their own worth.
It is a painful process making a change like this - but continue to value those who are true, and build your defences against those who are false friends.
2007-01-19 01:37:19 · answer #10 · answered by fumingpuma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mother always told me that if you can count your true friends on one hand then you are very lucky. im 22 and i can count only 2 true friends. all the others are aquaintances.
now its nice to be popular and always have ppl around but like you said u know they are not true friends. you got to ak yourself 'will they alwats be there for me?' you have said that they are using you. if i thought some1 was using me id tell them how i feel and tell them where to go.
when i was litle i had a friend who i thought the world of. but hen, when we went to secondary school she got in with the popular crowd and ditched me as a mate. then she became my bully.
kids are cruel and teenagers are worse! wpuld u rather be in the popular crowd or have some really good friends?
personally i would rather only be able to count my mates on 1 hand than have lotes of ppl to hang out with who may do the dirty on you one day.
stick with your true friend.. you know she will be there for you through thick and thin
2007-01-19 01:40:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋