Why is it that we find change so difficult even when we desperately need the change?

Question

Is it because we percieve change as a threat to our security ?

Answer 1

Extremely insightful question!!

Yes, indeed, it is our sense of insecurity arising from uncertainty, that we hesitate apropos change and feel comfortable with no change.

But then life is defined by change and inconsistency. The comfort from 'no change' soon makes life dull and almost like inanimate and we start craving for change. Change is like risk.... it can end up in gain or loss, yet there is no excitement and liveliness without it.

There may be another deeper reason why we seek change even though we do fear change. Because of constant change and uncertainty in the environment, adaptation is a must and the comfort of 'no change' can become a greater risk... this is what has given rise to the survival and evolution theories.

Answer 2

Change is always hard. Think of an uprooted plant, happily growing along, transplanted to a new container. At first, it struggles, and then it thrives. Living growing things always struggle with change because it stops their growth for a moment in time, so we percieve it as hurting us.


C. S. Lewis indicated there is often pain in change when he wrote of God’s expectations for His children: “Imagine yourself as a living house. God comes in to rebuild that house. At first, perhaps, you can understand what He is doing. He is getting the drains right and stopping the leaks in the roof and so on: you knew those jobs needed doing and so you are not surprised. But presently he starts knocking the house about in a way that hurts abominably and does not seem to make sense. What on earth is He up to? The explanation is that He is building quite a different house from the one you thought of—throwing out a new wing here, putting on an extra floor there, running up towers, making courtyards. You thought you were going to be made into a decent little cottage: but He is building a palace”

Answer 3

Getting stuck in a comfort trap, fear of regrets. I have been ambivalent about a situation for awhile now and recently realized that I need to make some baby steps because the thought of making a major change in my life overwhelms me and I get caught up in paralysis by analysis.

Answer 4

The only thing guaranteed not to change is the fact that everything changes.
People in general are comforted by routines and repetition, because this allows for the illusion of being in control. Control of
the environment. Control of other people. Control of one's fate or destiny. Order is good. chaos is haphazard, and therefore if not bad then certainly undesireable.

Answer 5

the overall public of the individuals who attempt this accomplish that because they sense they turns into in direction of their faith. also, the idea is that we are ALL decendants from the Arab international (The Holy Lands being the cradle of existence) and to that end they seem to be a minimum of in part Arabic. some human beings actually have names that denote them being non-Muslim. Christian is for sure no longer a Muslim call. neither is Krishna. interior the case that your call ability something unIslamic, that is required to modify your call. As for me... My call is high-quality. i'm a revert and my call is Amanda. It became Amanda earlier i became even born and that call will save on with me to the afterlife. yet another reason is they want to call themselves after someone who had a serious result on Islam as a way to exhibit what they want to be like. Or by technique of which ability. someone who needs to bypass into nursing or develop right into a nurturer might want to come to a decision to call themselves "Asiyah". someone named "faith" might want to imagine that the Arabic be conscious "Iman" is prettier. enable's settle for it.. some Arabic names are tremendously. :-)

Answer 6

It is called Attachment which is a form of selfishness.
Free Beings love 'change'.

Answer 7

Sure, it is because we can not predict the future and we afraid changing make everything get worse.

Answer 8

I don't understand why some people resist change. I enjoy change, even when it isn't necessary!

Answer 9

Change is traumatic - even when its good change or good trauma.

Answer 10

I don't think it's nearly as sophisticated as that. I think it's sheer laziness, nothing else.