ive been divorce for 1 year, and my girlfriend is wonderful, i love her with all of my heart. my boy and girl are 6 and i want to introduce her to them. i think i have waited long enough after the divorce
2007-01-19 01:21:26 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It depends on how where you are in this relationship. if you think its long term then have her meet you at the mall or a playground, ect. and let them meet. and slowly let them get to know her. If it isnt long term, then she doesnt need to meet them.
2007-01-19 02:33:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Boy...looks like the "SingleMom" guy is back, with all his loving ways and insight...PIG!
Now, back to the question at hand. Hopefully, you and the ex are on peaceful terms. Once she finds out you are dating someone seriously, that could change. It isn't even jealousy, it just hurts to move on and feel replaced. I am saying this because you don't want the kids to meet your Ms. Wonderful if you aren't sure you will keep her around. That is too confusing for them at this age, and depending on if your ex is an adult or not, she may express negative feelings to the kids.
I would start to introduce Ms. W by going to lunch, or going to some event the kids really enjoy. It helps to have a good memory associated with meeting her. I hope she is a good person and will appreciate your kids. Good luck to you!
2007-01-19 02:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by Bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's usually a good idea to wait several months before introducing children to dates. My rule is 6 months. It's very upsetting for children to meet dates so soon after their parent's divorce. Children at that age have magical thinking, and they want you and your ex-wife to get back together. It will set them up to dislike any dates that they meet.
When you do introduce them, it's good to start away from home. Meet them for some short activity, like a dinner out, and talk to them afterward. Skip a week or two, then try another short activity away from home. Judge their response to decide when to move forward.
2007-01-19 01:29:09 · answer #3 · answered by Faith 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to take it slow. Meet in a public place (like a mall or park), and introduce her as your "special friend". Give the children time to get used to her; remember, they are still getting used to mom and dad not being together. Take the time to let your girlfriend know that you love her, because having an "instant family" takes a lot of getting used to! If the relationship is truly serious--as in perhaps getting married in the future--go to family counseling, for all of you. That way, you can adjust to the change in circumstances, and learn how to be a blended family. Good luck and God bless.
2007-01-19 01:58:10 · answer #4 · answered by Judy W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having no experience in this area, I can only guess at this.
At this point, I would introduce her as a friend and limit the public displays of affection in front of the kids.
I'm sure at one time you "loved your ex with all of your heart" and we see how that ended up. It's one thing to wear your heart on your sleeve, it's quite another to involve the kids. After only one year, there is still a part of them that hopes and prays you will get back together with their mother.
Good luck.
2007-01-19 01:30:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is time to do so and do it at a fun place like Mcdonalds play land or a park or something like that... The kids will be much more comfortable that way and more open to meeting her. Take your time and do it only when you are ready for it and talk with the kids and see if they want to meet her.
2007-01-19 02:12:01 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my kids I had my gf (now my wife) meet us at a restaurant for dinner. That way its at a nuetral place, the two of you arrive seperate and leave seperate
2007-01-19 02:24:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you have and it should be a little more easy because your kids are so young just invite her over for dinner and let your kids know how wounderful and meaningful she is to you
2007-01-19 01:29:48 · answer #8 · answered by spawnof_thedevil 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't. They have no need to meet your new h o.
2007-01-19 01:25:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋