My 11 month old still doesn't sleep through the night...help please!!!?

Question

I have a lively precious 11 month old son. He is the light of my life but he still doesn't sleep through the night. It is really wearing on me. I give him a bath, use the lavender baby wash that is supposed to help him sleep through the night, he gets a meal and a bottle before he goes to bed to ensure he's not hungry, a clean diaper, everything I can think of. He still wakes up 1-2 times a night, every day of the week. He's almost a year old and lately I've been getting really frustrated with the situation. I'm so tired. I'm tired of getting up twice a night. When you get up in the middle of the night for almost a year straight, you start to get upset! He currently isn't teething or anything. I don't understand what's waking him up. I got up and put him back to bed twice last night and he woke up for a third time. I was so exhausted I let him cry it out for only the 2nd time in his whole life. I feel incredible guilt. Any suggestions? What should I do? Is cry it out wrong?? Help!

Answer 1

It took me forever to stop feeling like the worst mother in the world for letting my son cry it out. It is the right thing to do though. He will keep doing this until you show him that he can't control the situation anymore. Don't pick him up! Tell him is is night-night time and to go back to sleep. It may take sevral times and sevral nights for him to catch on, but he will! and then you will feel like a new woman! :) and you will have more confidence in your ability to be a great mom. good luck..........

Answer 2

Letting him cry it out isn't wrong you should do it more often. He is getting up because he know you will come running. My son didn't sleep through the night till he was almost 2 so I know what you are going through. I finally found a cure that was a stuffed bear who he calls Mr. Snuggles and I convinced him that Mr. Snuggles AKA snuggy will protect him and keep all the bad dreams away and will be there for him to keep him company while mommy and him get all the rest for a good day. He is now 5 and Mr. Snuggy is still by his side every night. THANK YOU MR. SNUGGY!!!! Just let him cry it out it will take about a week of crying until he gets the picture. GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 3

By the 3rd month, a newborn baby should learn to sleep thru the night and wake up only in the morning about 5 or 6 am. Last feed is about 9 or 10pm. Crying is part and parcel of baby life.

Hence, the training has to start early. The longer you drag, the longer the baby will continue to wake you up in the night. My friend's kid woke up every night for milk till he is 4 years old. Both my kids sleep through the night when they were 3 months old. They were on pacifiers. That helps. They were wean off their pacifiers when they are 3 yrs old.

When I give my baby her/his last feed, I will tell my baby that mommy has to work the next morning, please sleep till morning. Then I sing her a lullaby and that's that.

Try it out, it's my mother's advise and it works for my neices and nephews too..... Good luck.

Answer 4

My son didn't sleep all night until he was over 14 mos. Does your son get gassy? mine did, I would take a small bottle of water and a suger free peppermint candy, so that when he did wake up I could give him that and in the morning he always had almost a full bottle left. Its very frustrating especially when you know they should go to bed with bottle, but I had 3 kids my girls sleep thru the night almost imediately, but with my son I had bags under my eyes. Sometimes a good cry is healthy, just keep checking on them mine usually stopped after 20 min. good luck.

Answer 5

7.30 to three.30 is 8 hours - you somewhat can't anticipate a lot more effective than that. maximum toddlers who sleep by ability of the component of the evening that adults also sleep are not positioned down for the evening till 10 or 11 - then 8 hours for them is waking at 6 or 7.

Answer 6

When my son was 11 mo I was so tired I just couldn't do it anymore. I took him off formula at 12 months or a few weeks before and I told him..."No more baba's" he would laugh but that's what I did. I got him off that bottle and got him on more solid food during the day. I offered him food, snacks every feww hours to get him used to it. He still got his milk and jusice from his sippy cup. it took about a week but it seemed to be pretty easy. believe me, I was so glad to sleep. Also I made sure that he took a nap around 12:00 so that he would be tired around 7/8. He still has the same schedule and he's 16 months.

Answer 7

don't feel guilty about letting him cry out i let my daughter at 5 months when she woke up cause i knew she wasn't hungry and needed to learn to fall asleep on her own we have to teach them lots of things in life and they won't and we won't always like it but i will assure you this even if you let him cry out he will still love you and you will be greeted with smiles in the morning and you'll have the energy to give one back after a good nights sleep the first few nights will be hard so do it at the weekend so hubby can help good luck xx p.s i did the let them cry for five Min's go in ans say sleepy time now or what ever you would say I'm a shh person and then next time 10 Min's and so on xx

Answer 8

I'm not sure about 11 mths old but both my girls where sleeping through the night by 2 1/2 mths. I got advise from my doctor who told me I should teach them how to fall back asleep on their own. When they were small they slept in a rocking bassinet. When they would wake at night I would gently rock it for them until they got use to falling back asleep. Crying will not hurt your child to a certin degree let him cry for a little bit and see if he can settle himself back down. It will take a bit if you keep at it he will learn good luck

Answer 9

It's time to suck it up and let him cry. Truth is, even as adults we don't sleep through the night every night. But, as adults we've learned to roll over and put ourselves back to sleep. It's time for the baby to learn to do it.

The alternative is to keep rescuing him like my best friend's wife did their only son. The child was in first grade before he slept through the night without disrupting his parents.

Answer 10

Here are a few questions/suggestions that helped me.....

Does he have a pacifier? My daughter would wake up every time she lost hers. If this is the case you may have to ween him.

Do you put him to bed when he is asleep or almost asleep? Putting my kids to bed when they were almost asleep helped them learn to fall asleep on their own. Also, I would play soft music in their room. If they did wake up during the night, I would just turn the music back on and they would go back to sleep on their own.