her and the kids but that is setting me backwards what should i do
2007-01-19 01:05:11 · 50 answers · asked by o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go...and give her enough money every month for her and the kids. And don't forget to visit the kids every week.
2007-01-19 01:08:36 · answer #1 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you really want your kids raised by someone else? Divorce has been listed as the most significant negative influence on children. The best gift a man can give his children is to love their mother.
At one point you cared about this person. You've had sex so you know how to connect with her. Have you tried focusing on what you like about her? Telling her some small sweet thing once a day. A little bit of sweetness goes a long way in the bedroom. Are you asking for sex when you are showered and fresh? Kids deserve both parents when possible. You can always quit, but if you are asking if you should, then maybe think again.
2007-01-26 20:18:11 · answer #2 · answered by donny_mollysmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may as well just leave. A couple can't go on for very long living a miserable life. I'm sure your children are unhappy and miserable, too. What you have to do is get the divorce, make sure that they have a roof over their head, a means of transportation and pay your child support. Help out with school clothes and school supplies. Help out with as much as you can financially, and be there for your kids. Attend their school functions and visit and call often.
2007-01-26 10:27:28 · answer #3 · answered by Brown eyed girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you 2 talking and do you get along enough to share a home together for those kids?
If so stayed married, share kid jointly like always.
If it ain't broken don't fix it.
Take a separate room or living room your space and be sure kids know that they are loved no matter what.
See how that works out
PS. Keep your relationships out of the home and high lights of children until you are so sure of what you both want. Without children being hurt. BOTH OF YOU.
2007-01-23 09:17:58 · answer #4 · answered by Bluelady... 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok.. have you ever thought that you might be hindering your kids lives by being together with your wife when you dont want to be? You're not truely happy and have to hold back on who you really are and what you want so your kids are missing out on their dad. You may be giving off negative energy that could effect them without you realising. If you do seperate from your wife you will be free to be the person you want to be, therefore you can be a lot happier in yourself and by being happy and content you can put 100% of your attention on making your kids lives happy.. and the same goes for your wife. Break-ups are hard on kids but if you support them enough through it and get out the other side they maybe a lot better off seeing their mum and dad truely happy and will benefit that way? You've got to do what makes you happy.. as long as your kids know you love them and you're always there, all will be fine! Kids are tough and grow into mature adults and when they're older they will fully understand why you seperated with their mum and would probably advise you to if they knew you were no longer in love.. good luck
2007-01-19 01:24:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't say the reason that you are not sleeping with your wife, so it very difficult to tell someone what they should do. If you are sure you want to divorce your wife, then you should do, for both your sake's, just make sure she is financially looked after and you keep in touch with your children, and don't get the hump when she moves in another guy, because its your decision to divorce her.
2007-01-26 05:46:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was there! Distance, lack of sex. I left! The children now have 2 parents who spoil them and we both enjoy a better quality of life with our children through being apart. They now get quality time, and if she feels the way you do, this is going to happen sooner or later anyway. It's a hard choice, and my god, there will be a lot of arguments, but in the long run do what is best for all of you. Get out and move on, but reassure your children you will always be there for them. NEVER ever let them down. Pay for their upkeep and look happy. Talk to her and tell her how you feel, argue, but do not let this situation continue, it won't put itself right.
2007-01-22 04:50:31 · answer #7 · answered by superjock_superjock 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you staying because it's cheaper to keeper?and you don't want to pay a lot of child support you should leave and get use to it instead of staying in a situation you don't want to be in stop being a scared a ss little coward and move on the kids will be grown one day and living their lives and you just might be living still and still unhappy what then are you going to do divorce her then.
2007-01-26 04:29:28 · answer #8 · answered by heavenlli_61 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problem isn't your marriage it is your attitude mate! You seem to think that if there is no sex then there is no marriage - wake up and smell the coffee - there is more to life than conjugal rights ! How can you say that your wife and children (a "kid" is a baby goat by the way) are holding you back? How rude ! I think your wife must be mad to put up with you. You are married - get on with it.
2007-01-25 11:39:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you feel like you dont love her any more that is whats best. Just MAKE SURE you dont miss a beat with your children. Pay child support and pick the up regularly and stay ACTIVE in their lives. When parents spilt, ofttimes the man doesnt come around as much and that hurts children soooo much. My daughters dad did that to her and she calls him all of the time and he doesnt pcik her up any more because I dotn want to sleep with him. Such B.S. Just be there for those children, your wife will eventually move on. But those babies belong to you and you have an obligation with them.
2007-01-19 01:12:39 · answer #10 · answered by Wisdom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi C
I guess in this situation that you know best what to do ... you don't go into detail so it is very difficult to give you good advice.
There is no substitute for good communication so try to talk as much as you can about your situation & what you can both do to improve things for both of you & the children
Arrange to see a marriage guidance councellor
Get professional help
good luck to you & your family
2007-01-25 12:23:21 · answer #11 · answered by healer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋