Is it normal to still have some type of feelings for an ex even if your happily married.
2007-01-19 01:03:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm happy within my marriage. My ex and I end on bad terms for those who have smart *** remarks
2007-01-19 01:09:05 · update #1
I meant we didn't end on bad terms
2007-01-19 01:09:34 · update #2
My ex is in afghanainstan
2007-01-19 01:16:08 · update #3
No. Because if you have feelings for your ex, you are not happily married.
Further, if it is normal and you are happily married, tell your husband about the feelings you have for your ex. He shouldn't have a problem with it.
2007-01-19 01:06:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's okay to not hate the ex and even look back fondly at the good times you shared. But if your feelings are more romantically inclined, in such a way that you think about getting back together with him or you think he was the one love of your life and he's gone now, that is not normal. If you feel that way, you should never have gotten married. Those feelings need to be put into perspective in order to move on, and you did break up for a reason, so don't forget that. Instead of dwelling on what you're missing out on, dwell on what you have right now. Is the grass not green enough with a little tending too?
2007-01-19 09:10:00 · answer #2 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Totally, we tend to fall for certain types of people, which means we often find the same traits attractive in the people we get involved with. So here you are married. Done. Decision made, option to change your mind revoked and you remember this other person who made you feel a certain way.
Totally natural. During the course of your marriage you will even find yourself powerfully drawn to someone whom you may meet in the future. Again, totally natural. Try not to dwell on it, or give it more weight than it deserves. And remember this other person isn an ex for a reason.
2007-01-19 09:17:39 · answer #3 · answered by Musetta F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal. Lots of people have feeling for an ex. Feelings are hard to turn on on off. Your feelings are hard to control and the more you try to control them the harder it gets. It is very normal you allright hun... Just dont mention it to your spouse because he wont understand and it could cause major problems. Just remember there only feelings as long as you dont act on them..
2007-01-19 09:10:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No. If you are truly in love, then you will not have feelings for anyone else. You may want to do a double check on you marriage. Are you really "in love" with your husband or do you just have feelings for him too?
2007-01-19 09:18:28 · answer #5 · answered by finallyfree 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes it sure is but it should not be love... Feelings are normal and if it is not what it should be then you would need counseling and help for getting past those feelings.
2007-01-19 09:54:17 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh yes,. Our minds are memory banks...of course sometimes forgetting the reasons why he was not ÃT'' I think it is normal to every so often reflect back ...if you see this person. Remeber, thoughts can lead to action...so be careful not to allow yourself to think too much or too long over him.
2007-01-19 09:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by michelle h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, you have regrets as well as remembering the happy times. It is normal, you just can't "act" on your feelings.
2007-01-19 09:10:03 · answer #8 · answered by morahastits 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my 6 ex's tell me they miss me all the time
2007-01-19 09:06:41 · answer #9 · answered by wally h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, of course, he was a part of your life. It depends which kind of feelings. Try to forget him, and love your husband.
2007-01-19 09:08:41 · answer #10 · answered by Joka B 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋