But she still loves him she said.I romaced her the first time we met together,and she didn't say a word,i stoped moving foward cause i still respect the love she have for her hubby,so i ended up the meeting and never get in contact with her any more but she still come to our house .Now here are my questions 1.Should i have gone further
2.What would she be thinking
3.Will she tell my wife all that happened?
2007-01-19 00:23:19 · 44 answers · asked by o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
During these meeting i told her that i love her which was true.And she asked me to leave my wife and the kids and i was thinking maybe she want's my wife to be in the same problem which she is having with her husband though she don't have any kid.All these helped me to call it a quite with her anyway.
2007-01-19 00:49:25 · update #1
Oh come on in todays world you get a divorce
2007-01-19 00:26:56 · answer #1 · answered by peg42857 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
1. No you should not have gone further - you are both married.
2. No one knows what she would be thinking except her. If she still loves her hubby then that's a clear signal for you to leave alone.
3. It is quite likely that she might tell your wife what has happened at some point - maybe not now, but later on.
If you have moved a bit forward and she has signalled to you to stop you need to just stop and have a bit of respect for your wife. If you're not happy and you can't work it out then it's not worth staying together if you are miserable. Good luck, it's a hard situation to be in I think.
2007-01-19 00:32:17 · answer #2 · answered by JoJi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. NO, you should not have gone any further
2. She is probably trying to forget it and move on.
3. I would think she would never tell her best friend, not to hurt her. But you said you think she wants to break up your marriage. She wants you to leave your family, so she may think that telling her might to the trick. I hope, for your wife's sake, that she doesn't tell her. But I also hope that you will change you ways and start respecting your wife and marriage.
Maybe you can try some counseling, But spend some real time with your family and especially with your wife. Take her out on dates, buy her some flowers, and make a real effort to make it all up to her. No woman deserves to be deceived like that.
If you do not love her anymore, be a real man and do the right thing, Free her so she can move on and find a real man who will appreciate her.
2007-01-26 16:08:32 · answer #3 · answered by coolkatt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is the grass always greener? No, you should not have gone further. Isn't it bad enough that your wife has to deal with a spouse that cheats but it has to be with a good friend so now it is a double betrayal. She is thinking she is not happy so why not cheat who cares if it's w/ her friends husband (nice friend) She will tell your wife and give all details as well. This is what an unhappy woman will do. Also note, if you respect the love she has for her hubby where is your respect and love for your wife?
2007-01-25 04:04:59 · answer #4 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a commitment-supposed to be "till death do you part" many many years later. Being married has it's ups and downs-that is normal. l) No-you should not have gone further-not even step one. 2) She may be confused, or regretting what happened. 3) She might tell. Yet, she might not. Just back off from the friend, and get back to concentrating on your wife. By the way, if the friend had done even the littlest bit of "cheating" with you, and you both hypothetically divorced your spouses, and married each other, what makes you think she would stay fatithful to you? Or she think you would stay faithful to her? One rule to keep in mind: when you are married, you are off limits to every lady except your wife.
4) If you want to romance someone--romance your wife. Take care.
2007-01-25 15:39:14 · answer #5 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your wife needs a new best friend. If you leave your wife for her, then your wife will definitely know that you guys had your "meetings". She will hate both of you. The best thing to do would be to leave her alone!! If you are not happy with your wife, then you need to tell her so and get a divorce. Leave her friend out of it. I'm sure she isn't going to be volunteering any info to your wife, so if you just drop it, you may get lucky and she may never find out.
Just pray your wife doesn't find out, because something like this could put her over the edge.
2007-01-26 23:51:07 · answer #6 · answered by Spacey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you did can be described as "playing with fire". And you are lucky, for if she has not said anything to your wife yet, the chances are that she will never say anything.
I'm glad you opted to get out of that mess that you were about to create for you, your wife and the best friend and her husband.
As for what would she be thinking, it will be a matter of guessing. She most likely put that in the past, and will try to forget it ever happened for your wife's sake.
Try never to get into that kind of mess again, buddy. Work the problems that makes you unhappy with your wife. One of the advantages of living in a civilized country is that you have family/marriage counselors a phone ring away.
2007-01-19 00:34:20 · answer #7 · answered by David G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why does everyone want to cheat????? If people spent more time concentrating on their partner, and what makes them happy, and finding that together, the world would be a much better place. If you are not content with your marriage and your life with the woman you vowed to be with in good times and bad times, get divorced and be single, and find a single woman, quit picking up sloppy 2nds. Be your own person and quit wrecking others marriages, you both are home wreckers, hope your wife finds out all about this, and your wifes friend, both of your partners need to wake up and see the deceit you are allowing to ruin your marriages. Hope theres no kids, and if there is, shame on you, hope you make it to heaven!
2007-01-26 10:20:51 · answer #8 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. You should not have done ANYTHING.
2. She is thinking that she shouldn't have done anything.
3. She will only tell if her conscience won't let her sleep at night knowing that she cheated on her husband, and with her best friends husband at that.
If you're not happy, then grow some balls and end the relationship. If you don't want to end the relationship, grow some balls and learn how to make your wife happy.
When the grass looks so much greener on the other side, you can bet it's because there's more shxt.
2007-01-19 00:30:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. No 2. She will be thinking "phew that was close". 3. One day when you think everything in the garden is rosy you will return home from work and find that over a cup of tea your wife happened to complain to her best friend that you left your boxers on the floor yet again and her friend will say "well that's the least of your problems, he is also a lying, cheating, disrespectful piece of s.....!
I think you should be asking "will she tell her husband?" How big is he by the way, have you thought of that?"
There is a name for men like you ....... dumped!
2007-01-24 00:53:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A) she still love him and is married b) is you're wife best friend c)no you shouldn't have gone further d)most of the time the wife find out but not from her best friend but from another friend which her best friend talked to (you put her in that position ) if you really are not happy and you don't think you can work out something with your wife ,divorce her and then try to be happy again .not because you are not happy you have to make miserable everybody
2007-01-19 00:37:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋