i have this best friend of 9 years, we had a big blow up recently, i felt very betrayed (she backstabbed me to her boyfriend), she also accused me of revealing her secret (breaking up with her ex) to another mutual friend. I try to talk to her about our disagreement but everytime she told me to forget about it. I feel we both have the resentment but because she was unwilling to talk about it, we are stuck and staring to drift apart. She is a very shy and passive aggressive person. Should i try again (knowing she would refuse to discuss) or should i end this friendship?
2007-01-19 00:14:54 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hey dont do anything. Let ur life move itself nd one day surely everything will be fine. Coz if u now say anything may be she will not understand u. Give her time she herself will realize. One thing more dont try to make distance from her coz there is already distance b/w u both nd if u make more then things can change nd that distance can be difficult to decrease. As u told that u were friends from last 9 years,simple friendship have too much power nd that 9 years will make it more powerful nd u will be together again.
Hope it work for u.
2007-01-19 01:27:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I've just read, it seems you're torn between moving on and giving it another chance. Obviously if you have been trying to bring up the topic of your argument and wish to discuss it, and get blown off everytime, your best friend has decided that maybe she wants to move on. You need to be honest and straightforward with her. Ask her if this one fight is really worth losing 9 years of friendship.
Eventually she will come around, she might be having problems which you don't know about. Give her time and space, ease off a bit.
Hope this helps you
=D
2007-01-19 00:26:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all best freind or not I would not want to be freinds with a person accusing me of things I did not do. Sounds like the reason that she does not want to discuss is that she already knows that she crossed the line. If this bothers you that much perhaps a I am sorry from both parties and go on would be the best solution. Not all problems and issues have to be taklked to death there are some things left better unsaid.
2007-01-19 00:20:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should allow your friend to deal the way she feels she needs to. You have tried to approach her and talk and that's all you can do. It appears that she chooses not to go any further and you can't make her. Prepare yourself to go through a painful period but understand that you both are getting older and going in different directions that may be for your benefit. I am sorry for the friendship being at this point though. I just ended a 18 year relationship because it was draining me and becoming very toxic in my life. So I truly understand.
2007-01-19 00:22:22 · answer #4 · answered by MeHurdu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in this situation also, and what I did was, I approached her and said, "Look, I value you as a person and as a friend. It would make me sad if we stopped being friends over this, I'm asking you to please talk to me and tell me how you feel. If you choose to ignore this situation and me, it shows me that you are not a true friend which makes me even sadder. Can we please work this out so we can go back to being friends and having fun?" If she still doesn't respond, something is wrong with her, and you need to move on.
2007-01-19 00:43:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i might say your friendship is over :( yet there are billions of human beings in the international so i'm constructive you will detect a greater astounding chum i recommend ignoring him to work out if he cracks
2016-10-31 12:39:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had the exact same problem before!Just laet nature takes it course either she will come to her senses or she'll relize what a great friend she lost
2007-01-19 00:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her time and space...she will come around when she is ready to talk about it...you two have been good friends for a long time so I think she will come around soon..... just be ready to listen when she is ready....because obviously she is really hurt.... just listen and let her talk and then you ask her to listen while you talk and it will all work out for the best.....
2007-01-19 00:48:20 · answer #8 · answered by Mye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her a letter. That way you will have your say without being interrupted and she will not feel confronted if she reads it alone.
2007-01-19 00:24:57 · answer #9 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well should give it time and see what will happen.
2007-01-19 00:25:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋