My Husband and I have been living together for 10 years and have a 7 year old daughter but for lots of reasons we are thinking about living in separate houses hoping we will appreciate each other more.We really like oneanother and get on really well we just feel the spark has gone and we want it back. What do you think ?
2007-01-19 00:12:30 · 13 answers · asked by Helen P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, it you both can afford the experiment, go for it.
2007-01-19 00:16:41 · answer #1 · answered by gamerunner2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The theory sounds good but seperate houses does seem extreme - can't you try separate rooms and a few new ground rules at home? Sounds like you need a break from the norm and a fresh start so maybe just a holiday apart for a couple of weeks would be enough to start you off? I think to actually move out would maybe make it too easy to start living separate lives and not bother putting the effort into your marriage? But I don't know. What does LAT stand for?
2007-01-19 08:23:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still love each other, I dont think you should move to separate houses. You say you still get on well, so think you can stay in the same house while working together to find the spark again. Do things that you did when you first got together; have 'date nights', or take a weekend away so you can just focus on each other without distractions. Hope it all works out for you.
2007-01-19 08:17:54 · answer #3 · answered by NCbabe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a prescription for self exploration, an experiment with tantalizing but unnerving unknowns. I imagine, under the right circumstances you'd discover "getting on really well" is no longer enough. If you are moderately personable, chances are good you'd bump into someone you wished you've met 10 years ago. Chances are good you'll realize what you thought was 10 spicy years were bland. If you have what it takes to go through all of that...the pains and the ecstacies, then wait no more. Who knows it just might turn your current "getting on really well" to "burning unquenchable desires for each other". Good luck! On the downside, be prepared for divorce.
2007-01-19 08:58:26 · answer #4 · answered by McDreamy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Separate houses is a guarantee of a breakup, not a way to get "the spark" back.
Why not just get a solid qualified marriage counselor? Hey, since you are actively working toward a divorce you could start your child in counseling now cause the kid is going to get serious issues. As a child of divorce in a culture of divorce I can say that your daughter is going to need counseling after you get your divorce.
2007-01-19 08:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by Curly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try going out on dates with each other. Give each other little surprises and small tokens of affection. Slip little love notes in his pocket on his way out the door. Let each other go out him with his mates you with yours so you get a break and some space. Moving is a bit drastic. It may confuse your daughter if daddy lives there one min and doesn't the next.
2007-01-19 09:12:23 · answer #6 · answered by itgirl23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you should get an outside party to help with your problems instead of just giving up. There could be loads of reasons, and you could save your self some money. Unless your loaded and can afford two houses.
2007-01-19 08:17:38 · answer #7 · answered by : 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rather than live in separate houses why don,t you try
and spend some time alone together. Have a weekend
away. Spice things up. But please, unless you can,t
stand the sight of each other, be happy and together
with your little daughter.
2007-01-19 08:33:38 · answer #8 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't that not going to confuse your 7 year old?
How will you appreciate someone who isn't there to do things for you? It is more likely one or both of you will get used to the other not being there, or even worse, meet someone else!
There are many other things to try (unless you have already tried them) to save your marriage before you try this.
2007-01-19 08:17:19 · answer #9 · answered by arealhighlander 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What a load of old tosh,one of you wants to play away in relative safety. Try being honest with each other for a change.
2007-01-23 06:07:15 · answer #10 · answered by Noadonis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it will prove expensive if nothing else. If you think it will work, go for it. I live somewhere else to my husband but that is for work reasons and I travel back nearly every weekend. That works for us but a lot of relationships couldn't handle it.
2007-01-19 08:23:43 · answer #11 · answered by Janbull 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋