I am desperate to get out of the country for a bit, even for a little weekend break to Europe. I really want to go with my boyfriend, as it wouldn't be the same without him, but he hates the idea of planning and going away. Every time I get on to the subject he gets very defensive and gets really stressed. It's so frustrating, as I know he'd love it and have a great time once we were there.
He says I'm impatient - I just think I'm spontaneous! What can I do?!
2007-01-18 23:24:23 · 17 answers · asked by missscarlett 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just book it!!
2007-01-18 23:26:34 · answer #1 · answered by Jane H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine hates going because there's always so many jobs to do at home, and he doesn't see why I need to 'run away'. This was solved when we went somewhere that had his hobby, but better.
Be prepared to put up with some trainspotting, golf or whatever is his thing - at least you'll enjoy meals out with him - to do all the research, planning, packing & arranging yourself, and to take the blame if the hotel isn't as it appeared on the website or the flight is delayed.
Have you got to the bottom of why the stress/defensiveness? Perhaps he hasn't admitted to a fear of flying, for example? Suggest boat or the tunnel & see how he reacts, or perhaps he's afraid of feeling 'lost' in a foreign place so you could try Jersey - familiar but different?
Btw my own fear of flying was overcome very simply - Paul McKenna's CD (he has a website). It reprogrammes you to enjoy flying, and I can now get on a plane without feeling sick & panicky.
2007-01-19 07:48:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what you do ... go this time by yourself. Find some guy that is kind of friendly on the trip. No cheating or anything, just a fellow traveller. Have a few pictures taken with him. Give him a name like Georgio or something like that. When you get back tell him how wonderful the guys were on the trip when they found out you were travelling alone. And rave about "Georgio" what a gentleman he was, how interesting he was. And I will assure you your bf will be more than happy to go to the freaking Arctic with you on a moment's notice.
2007-01-19 09:02:47 · answer #3 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i dont get my own way i make a list in my head of all the things i do for my long term bf and rhym them off to him really quickly then i prepare the tears and say i do so much for u and u cant even do this small thing for me which wud be for both of us really(i know im cruel lol) keep the pace goin and the tears and when he tries to hug u cos he feels so bad pull away softly and say i luv u but sometimes i feel like u dont luv me back and by then hes sayin im sorry baby off course we can go away, one week or two? do u want me to make the arrangements..... and so on, now remember u have to be a super girlfriend in the first place for this to work lol good luck
2007-01-19 07:32:38 · answer #4 · answered by minxy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man thats so tough! i love holidays so i wouldnt like to be in your situation! Has he ever had a holiday? does he not like them because of a bad experience but doesnt realise it? I think i would try and think of all the things hes interested in and try and incorporate them in the holiday.. say for example.. if he likes the star wars movies.. take him to Tunisia where parts of the films were filmed? Or Maybe just tell him hes being selfish and to give it a try for your sake! its only a weekend! good luck :)
2007-01-19 07:33:32 · answer #5 · answered by peachesandcream 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him think about all the girls with next to nothing on while lay all oiled up on the beach this should persuade him and by the time your there he will only have eyes for you in your skimpy bikini
2007-01-19 07:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by Beverley D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some space. Men need their space an time to do things. If you really want to go plan a trip with your girly mates. He may come round when you have come back with amazing stories.
2007-01-19 07:32:15 · answer #7 · answered by itgirl23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just book something. Go on a city break somewhere quiet and ease him into the notion.
2007-01-19 07:28:34 · answer #8 · answered by James M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is afraid of flying. Make sure you include something he loves in the holiday and he'll soon be persuaded!
2007-01-19 07:30:25 · answer #9 · answered by ellietricitycat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go & book the holiday pack for him.Tell him a couple of days before your due to go & make sure he is free.Happy Holls
2007-01-22 16:54:16 · answer #10 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine too.
I remind him about the scantily clad sweet young things on the beach and he changes his mind.
2007-01-19 07:30:13 · answer #11 · answered by Janbull 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋