She was a virgin when we married 5 yrs ago. She doesn't know her self sexually. I feel like she is missing out on a wonderful experience of pleasuring herself. Perhaps if she begins to do that, she will be more comfortable and willing to have sex with me On the infrequent occasion when we "get down" we still have trouble finding her vaginal opening- this last time I gave up after about 2 mins of trying to get it in.
Maybe I'm naive, but I think if she masturbates, she will want sex more. LADIES!! Is that necessarily true?
2007-01-18 23:21:50 · 13 answers · asked by Larry 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well....why don't you help her....you can masturbate together...maybe buy her a toy to help her....there are also lots of really good reference books out there that could help both of you learn more about your bodies and each others bodies and also how to pleasure each other better....good luck
2007-01-18 23:27:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry if this is for ladies only but then..... The fact that you can't even find her vaginal hole just goes to show how inexperienced you are as well. The thing is, even if she masturbates, it will not mean she will make a better sex partner. I can't imagine that you can still be as naive as this even after 5 years of marriage!! Do you know that some girls will forego sex becoz they find masturbation more satisfying than doing it with someone else. Well if that happens, what's gonna happen to you? You wanna D.I.Y too? Don't you think its better if you help her discover herself like, finding out her erogenous zones and stimulating it prior to sex? Lots of foreplay always helps in couples reaching orgasms, so do the neccessary bro!!
2007-01-19 18:19:17 · answer #2 · answered by PhiloPhobic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humm! this is very special..you need to talk to a sexologue..She might be too religious to do so.. She probably not having enough knowledge to know or understand the difference., but..,I dont want to hurt you...But I do think the problem is you...
What kind of approuch are you doing to her..how to you handle her..what kind of conversation do you have...You should be able to enjoy both together sex..but we all have to learn things.
In canada, we had a show with a Sexologist (od woman doctor) on TV-Ontario.., and she was answering all those questions and explaining how to proceed..Now she is no longer on tv I guess., but here her website: I suggest both of you reading and questions and answers she is giving: this is not a joke,, this is medical ...I am sure 100% you find for you all answers but specially also all answer to the questions or anxiety your wife might have: ??? GO TO : www.drruth.com and also www.sexologist.com Myself I do prefer Dr.Ruth... I wish you the best ....keep loving her and taking care of her...happy sex life, and all steps in your life...bye (I was not masturbing myself before., when I learn the reasons..get educated I am). But If my husband giving me what my breain requested., satisfy me., I dont need to masturbing myself. I would prefer to show him ,.my appreciation and love.and keeping this gratitude only for him., that also must be a pleasure for him to hear my appreciation..right...
2007-01-19 00:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by joyeupitoupiteu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wrong. The only thing that will want her to want it more is love and support from YOU. This is an intimate thing that should remain sacred between the two of you. She will masterbate on her own if she's feeling the desire - it's nothing to do with what YOU think. Patience, and perhaps some education will benefit you both. Try getting a copy of the Kama Sutra, or other sexual guides, and try, try, try.
2007-01-19 00:03:16 · answer #4 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ladies Mastubating
2016-12-18 05:33:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
masturbation is a personal choice you can bring up the subject and even try to coach her with it but in the end if she is uncomfortable it won't be a pleasurable experience anyway
why don't you talk to her and find out where she stands on the subject and go from there
as far as having a woman talk to her......that is a very intimate subject in my opinion that kind of thing is your department.
didn't you see it there on your marriage license? yeah it is right there with all the other really important things like putting the toilet seat down----right there on the bottom--in invisible ink:-)
best wishes!
2007-01-18 23:41:59 · answer #6 · answered by dreamer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nope its not
and you cant make her she may have grown up with it being a bad thing to touch yourself pounded into her head most of us have
you can suggest experimentation but im sure she is not eager for that either
she is not a prude its just her thinking
move slow if she likes you touching her then thats where you start
when she is warmed up try taking her hand and guiding it doing what you are doing
move slow if she pulls away its ok
just remember you may not get there at all
try again another time
2007-01-18 23:30:12 · answer #7 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another case of an arrested sexual development....
You married someone who was not your sexual match... and really didn't know enough or care enough... thinking it was no big deal.
People just don't understand their roles in a human pair bonding.
I bet she thought you'd be happy being a celibate.
2007-01-19 01:06:45 · answer #8 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just chat with her about how you feel. some woman dont like to do that and others do. maybe you could get her some toys and use them on her at first then she can on her own if she wants to.
2007-01-18 23:47:11 · answer #9 · answered by ms01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
masturbation is not the answer. do it yourself afterall she is your wife she will understand do it with her give her sex but start we romance and foul play and you find everything going smoothly
2007-01-18 23:30:36 · answer #10 · answered by Jecs O 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋