why cant i leave my partner?

Question

we have been together for six years we have one child together and we cant go a day with out fighting..i mean serious fighting.We call each other terrible names every minute i rearly get called anything other than c*nt and i cant stand the sight of him.He play's pc games every minute he's not working which also requires the use of head phones so he never hears a thing i say, he does nothing around the house wont even take out the garbage he's not affectionate in the slightest way he's rude to people,bags out my family,he's gaining lots of weight cause he just sits on the pc and if i say one thing about him being a **** bf he yell and calls me every name under the sun,ive cooked him tea every night since i met him he has never cooked 4 me and i always threaten to leave and he wants me to go at that point of time but i cry and get angry and pack my stuff but i just never do it, its not like im in denile like i know how wrong this all is im not feeling sorry for my self i just cant do it

Answer 1

Stop cooking for him and smash his computer when he's not around.


Then leave him.

Answer 2

K_maree I'm sorry for whats happening with you and your partner but it seems that you have got used to that situation and getting used to something (anything) means it will be hard to quit it

So simply maree you just got used to the situation and you are afraid from the change so here is my advise : LEAVE ! I know its hard but when you do this there will be only two options available

1. Your partner will come after you begging you to come back promising you that he wont do what he did, which means that he loves you and he is willing to change to be better

2. Your partner wont come after you which means that he don't love you and he don't even care if you are around or not so in that situation it will be much better if you left and started a new life with a loving partner

I hope this answer helped you and if you want to talk more about it please feel free to mail me :)

Answer 3

i know what your going through, i'm in the same type of relationship with this girl, i've packed things up at least 3 times this week alone! but i can never get myself to leave, she changes her attitude the minute she thinks i'm out the door, LOVE is tricky, i think we both need to leave these people for a couple of weeks at least and see if the days are better or worse without them, go out with some friends this weekend and treat yourself to a good time, no fighting, no worries, just be happy and see what a difference it makes. good luck, i'll be doing the same

Answer 4

You sound co-dependent. But this isn't Healthy for you or the child it's mental abusive get out of that, you deserve better than some man that does nothing for you but berate you and thats going to have far reaching effects on you and your child. Maybe you need to talk with someone to find your strenght to leave this Bum, seek help and get yourself together and Go. Good Luck and take care of yourself.

Answer 5

this situation is quite difficult! i really dont know waht to advise u!
wake up everymorning say to urself ok! < i will have a good day today! no matter what!> smile dont make a angry face and try be be in a good mood and stay cool! dont ask him to leave his pc to help u! if u love him say it to him no matter what! even if its hard tell ur self that i love what im doing it make me happy! dont argue with him leave him alone. prepare the dinner and do ur best to make it a romantic one if u can. i hope that with time he will realise that u are doing ur best for both of u!
i cant find a better advise for u :-( but pray!!!!

Answer 6

u stay because u still have hope in this man, and love somewhere in your heart, and u don't like to give up, and know it defeated u. we do fear the future, but sometimes we need to make changes, sounds as if u have a very immature man who has not grown up. growing up is painful, requires alot of discipline and giving up of things we aren't ready to let go. he name calls because u are trying to change him ,and he finds it uncomfortable. u have his number, and he doesn't like it. u will feel sorry for u until he changes, or u change it by leaving him. u are frustrated and want more than he is willing to give u.

Answer 7

I bet you have already had an affair. It sure sounds like you're close to one if you haven't had one or two already.
You are just looking for someone to save you.
Then again, how do you look?

Answer 8

I've been asking myself the same question why? (on my side it's been 8yrs.)and we also have one child and I'm not happy at all.for my child sake I'm going for professional help so that i can be able to move on with myself and my child.

Answer 9

See a counselor and if that doesn't work, find someone that you can get along better with. Good luck

Answer 10

apparently you like being miserable, unhappy and abused....well, if you won't do it for yourself how about your child....is this the way you want this child to live....to grow up with yelling and name calling as the norm???? grow a spine and get out....you owe it to your child...good luck