MY FATHER LIVES IN CHINA MOST OF THE TIME DURING THE YEAR FOR BUSINESS. during the last three months hes been making many friends mostly women,but my mother was very cool about it..now heres the actual issue....hes been tellin my mother that he actually fell love with a girl's thoughts,and i dunno wh other crappy stuff! well hes been elling my mother that he loves her and tha girl too...hes stopped saying 'i love you' to her...when asked y is this so..hes like i dont need to demonstrate my love to you.i had a talk wih him and i asked him to stop talking to her..but i know he still is talking to her! im pissed and really stressed..i live in a country where divorces are not that frequent! plzz help...tell me what to convry to my father so as to save their marriage! for the sake of his children!!!!
2007-01-18 23:14:33 · 15 answers · asked by m k 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well people im absolutly 18yrs old and very much a mama's GIRL! but i want them to stay together.well shes had a talk with him,but he refuses to listen since hes so pissed off with the bloody issue! hee thinks mom has created the crack in the wall...n hes not at fault!
2007-01-18 23:25:48 · update #1
you know something honestly. it's men that get the craziest ideas. its not going to be easy to get him away from this. have you read the book "the good earth"?
well basically right now all you can do to help the situation is keep your mom sane. make sure that she feels loved and that you'll be there for her
cos the way it looks you've tried to change your father's mind...but he's still doing what he wants. that can't be helped
2007-01-18 23:19:32 · answer #1 · answered by Layla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, this is none of your business. I understand that this is your father, but your mother is a big girl and she can surely deal with her husband without your help. With a man so far away for such long periods of time, it is not surprising that he has found another love interest. Under the circumstances, one can only hope the marriage stays intact. If it doesn't, life will go on. You can be supportive to both your parents, because they both love you. Aside from that, stay out of it. It's between your mother and her husband.
2007-01-19 00:05:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem, I told my mother that it wasn't right that my dad was making friends with other women. I found out by one over my dads coworkers that he loved this one woman. I went home and told my mom. She knew but until I told her it didn't sink in. My mom is a kind and meek woman but when she realized my dad loved another women, she took the computer that he talked with this woman all of the time with outside and burnt it. The first time I ever seen them fight is when my dad came home and saw his computer in flames. To make a long story short they took turns moving out of the house for a couple of years. I got the blame from the entire family for all the troubles they were having, so I tried to fix it but you cant. They are still together since it happened about 9 years ago. From all of this I learned you cant fix things just be there when your mom needs you
2007-01-18 23:53:05 · answer #3 · answered by MARMISACK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but unfortunatly people don't stay married for the children a person's happiness is what counts and if your father is not in love with your mother any longer maybe they should divorce and i would tell your mother
2007-01-18 23:24:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude it's your dad, give the guy a break. It's always bros before hos man. Get a clue!!!!! You'll understand your dad a lot more as you get older. Right now you sound like a mama's boy.
2007-01-18 23:18:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
why would you want to do that to your mother? feelings of betrayal, anger, low self esteem, questions of why? grow up, my parents were from a time when divorce wasn't in women were not able to support their families alone and my mom spent the rest of her life punishing my father for his mistakes its no fun for anyone!
2007-01-19 00:00:52 · answer #6 · answered by wallysrusty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all...the relationship between your parents is between your parents. you want your parents to stay together just for you? man that is very selfish of you. you want them to stay together just so they can stay unhappy? that is really selfish of you. stay out of their business. your parents just need to get a divorce and get it over with since your dad found another woman to be happy wtih. stay out of their business. you will see in the future that it was better to begin with. my parents divorce also. my dad cheated on my mom. my parents separated when me and my sister were still in high school. their divorce was not finalized until i was in my second year of college. but me and my sister stayed out of their business. because that divorce had nothing to do with us. they get along better now than they did back then. just stay out of it.
2007-01-19 01:51:20 · answer #7 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that would be really hard. But really it is up to your mother. If she wants to be with a man that cheats on her or if she wants to leave him.
2007-01-19 02:05:03 · answer #8 · answered by Lexi's mommy had twins! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not up too you
all you can do is tell your dad you are disappointed and convey this too him by your actions stop contact with him
stop talking to him
and be there to SUPPORT YOUR MOM
this is all you can do
2007-01-18 23:19:51 · answer #9 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just vbon't know. do you know whats going on in the bed room. it may be that kind of thing
2007-01-18 23:57:48 · answer #10 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋