I mean i've been married five years and just want somebody new im just getting tired of same old ways are lifes are going, but im afraid of being alone and not being able to find somebody new. But i dont want to cheat her or cheat myself by living in relationship that just is not fulfilling my needs. Is that selfish? I dont even know any more. any things help , thanks all........
2007-01-18 22:32:28 · 8 answers · asked by marriedman26 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well, welcome to real life club. i don't know anyone who wouldn't have the same feelings after long term relationships. and this is the first reason why people cheat - just to check what they re missing out there. i say if u re not satisfied with your life - dump this woman and go explore the world. we live only once. sure u will be alone for a while, but i have never also met any pesron who would want to be in relationships and stayed alone. u will find a new one sooner or later. and there is nothing wrong in being alone
2007-01-18 22:43:41 · answer #1 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you weren't ready for marriage. Unfortunately, when a man marries, that woman is to be his ONLY woman for the rest of his life. You can't have the security of a wife AND a lot of relationships that "keep your interest for a while". It also sounds as though you are being honest with yourself. Good luck. Above all, don't dishonor your wife or yourself at this time by cheating. If you have made a mistake by marrying, get a divorce and move on.
2007-01-19 06:52:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you as attentive & loving as when you were dating? If not, its time to put some romance back into your marriage & remember why you were attracted to her in the 1st place. I would suggest that the two of you 'date' at least once a week alone. If you woo her again she will respond to you & you will be a happy man.
Nowadays people give up on marriage to easily. It takes effort to maintain a relationship. Are you being selfish? Yes, if you don't 1st try your darndest to make it work. Also, if you leave her w/o trying to mend your marriage do other women a favor & don't remarry. Women want someone who can make a commitment & not leave her because the man is 'bored.'
2007-01-19 06:52:10 · answer #3 · answered by Judith 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It used to be referred to as the seven year itch, what you really need to ask yourself is 'do I love her enough to make a fresh start' , if you don't at least give your marriage a good try and I mean to the best of both your abilities you will spend over half of the rest of your life going through this 5 year boredom cycle, if you have children or will in the future you are responsible also to include them in this equation.
2007-01-19 06:44:28 · answer #4 · answered by polynesiachick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to marriage counseling with your wife. Marriage is supposed to be a partnership for life. No one said that it would be a piece of cake. You have to find ways to fall in love with each other again through the years while still maintaining the love and respect that you should have for each other and your relationship.
2007-01-19 06:53:23 · answer #5 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
when the honeymoon stage has ended, we than see that person as no longer an extension to us, but different. during the honeymoon stage we aren't able to see faults, in fact me minimize them and overlook them. it isn't all about your needs and wants, it's about helping that significant other achieve their happiness and goals in life. u want to escape it as u think it's not working for u, maybe escape the responsibilities involved in it, and the boredom that sometimes comes. but if u do this u will never grow, or learn what u need to in life, it will be an endless string of relationship after relationship.
2007-01-19 07:17:44 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my sister was with her guy for 6yrs, married 3yrs, and she is getting a divorce with him. Shes been living with him for 5yrs so its like they were married. But she found someone else who fullfilled her every need. So unfortuntally she cheated but she is happier then shes ever been. The guy she was married to she just thought he was everything that she wanted and it turned out he isn't.
2007-01-19 11:30:01 · answer #7 · answered by hm84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont know the answer, but do know the feeling, stay strong brother.
2007-01-19 06:51:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋