Ladies, do you have any secrets about how to better communicate with men?

Question

or possibly how to get them to open up without being a nag?

i guess i should have specified, "wives, how do you communicate with your husbands" sry bout that! thanks...

Answer 1

Maybe I can help.
First of all don't be offended-just listen.
Women talk too much (for men). They use far too many words. Men (husbands) usually stop listening simply because they are "overwhelmed" by lots and lots of words. If you need to get something through to your man friend-make an appointment with him. Like, tell him that you need to talk, but now now. Don't tell him what you want to talk about. Just get him alone, then get his attention and say-"we have a problem". Wait until he ask what it is. Then tell him in as few words as possible-then stop talking. Don't say another word until he ask for it. Then again use as few words as possible. Don't go on about it-just say it and close your mouth. Give him some time to digest what you have said. Give him more information as he ask for it-not before, then give him only what is necessary-no more. most men can only handle about 1/5 the word volume of women.
You must have his attention-no distractions.
You must use as few words as possible.
You must immediately come to the point-no rambling or you will loose him.
Make it short and precise-then wait on him.

Answer 2

U should have asked us guys how to communicate better with our wives? First of all if she remembers how it was when we dated and how much attention she gave me before that first baby we would live in heaven now. I wouldn't get angry and want to get back at her for changing as the children came and expect me not to change along with her rudeness when I'm sleeping and the baby gets up during the middle of the night and i have important meetings or things I need to think about at work to keep the bills paid and a roof over our heads. I'm not asking for much except a clean house to come to to relax, a good meal and not TV dinners all the time, when I come home to the woman who used to care how my day went and I also cared how hers went instead of the constant nagging about chores that need to be done by "only a man' a handyman at that ( at home my mom learned to save dad's money by learning to hang wall paper and paint so they could cut corners on finances that she or both could've done together as a family). I want my wife to be resourceful and helpful in how to help protect for those rainy days, a wife who isn't frivalent with the hard earned money I make for all our enjoyment not just herself and the kids, I want the wife I thought would meet me half way and ask me when things don't seem right, why do I have to be a fortune teller and guess what's on her mind. COMMUNICATION goes and works both ways.

Stop ur nagging and sit down with ur husband and talk to him with that much needed love he yearns from that girl he married and not the witch u have turned into because of "female problems" we too menstruate right along with u and grow as old as u do, stop trying to analyze me and talk to me instead of nagging all the time. Becuz we have to put up with each others aches, pains, and complaints for the betterment of the family and the rest of our married lives. An overlooked husband and father.

Answer 3

How can men and women communicate better with each other


Women complain that communicating with a man is like trying to talk to a tourist who doesn’t know your language. Eventually, you resort to sign language. Men complain that all women want to do is talk, talk, talk. Here are some ways both genders can improve how they communicate with the opposite sex.




Tips for women:

Understand that men communicate to share information, not to establish relationships. This means a conversation with a man might not always be as satisfying as a conversation with a girlfriend.
Don’t be frustrated when he’s not as interested in chatting as you are. Men tend to speak half as many words as women do on a daily basis.
Try to talk less. Most men are bottom-line oriented and will be better listeners if you get to the point quicker.
Be more direct in your communication. Men lose interest when you take a circuitous route to the point of your story.

Tips for men:

Realize that women communicate to establish relationships, so they might be chattier and more personal in their conversation.
Understand that not every question from a woman is a problem begging for a solution. Be certain she’s asked for your help before you jump in with help because sometimes, she just wants to blow off steam.
Realize that it’s a fact of life that women use twice as many words as men do. Don’t be frustrated by it.
Listen, listen, listen.
Move beyond two-word answers and get chatty, especially on the phone. You’ll win her over for sure.

Answer 4

Okay, here goes nothing.
1) Make eye contact =) Don't be scared!
2) Laugh. If they make a joke about something stupid, just laugh. It'll help them loosen up because it makes you more approachable
3) Ask questions. That way, they know that you're interested and you want them to open up.
4) Look interested. Smile, respond nicely, turn your body towards them.

Haha, that's all I can think of. But good luck =)

Answer 5

the best time to communicate with your hubby is when he is not tired from work and not watching the tv. you both need to find some alone time, whether is when you go to bed or go out to dinner with each other, or just for a walk. you cant really communicate when you busy, he is busy or when the kids are around. make the time for you just you and him with no distractions.

Answer 6

if he dont want to communicate then give him the big silent treatment i go through the same stuff been with this guy for 9 years and open conversations is not our best thing pertend you can careless mind games thats all you can do

Answer 7

if you want your husband to be open to you without nagging, its is when you are having a real time with him, possibly when he is relaxed, nothing bothers him during that period. just a little romance and plays and you see him flowing like streams of water

Answer 8

That is the key communication. Find common ground.

Answer 9

just keep it simple! Say what on your mind. I understand what others mean with their answers, but women talk for an hour before they get to what they wanted to say, if they ever get there. example I had a ex g/f that had a 3 hour talk about what wasn't working with us before It realize that she wanted to date someone else, and even then she wanted to keep talking.

Answer 10

the best way of communicating with men is becoming their friend by not asking stupid questions like...'do you prefer your friends instead of me?'; 'how was your ex-girlfriend?' or any stuff like that..Men prefer to be let in their own world and to pretend they know all about women...they like to dominate in a relationship or in a friendship they like to be understood bu not understand our problems...and they certainly like to be cuddled and to make a women trust in them!