If you have cheated, how do you feel others should think about you?
If you have been cheated on, do/can you trust them ever again.
All, Can you honestly say you trust someone that you know has cheated on someone else before?
2007-01-18 21:53:12 · 8 answers · asked by Common Sense 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is a huge issue, that most of us will probably fully not understand. The quick and easy answer to someone that has cheated is "oh, get rid of them cause they will do it again..." so on. I have never cheated on anyone that I have been with, but have been cheated on once by someone that I really loved and cared about. I did not break up with them, and over time I have been able to trust them more and more. I think that the whole situation nees to be looked at when something like this has happened. Don't get me wrong, I think it's the worst thing that can happen to someone when you are in a relationship. Deciding to stay with the person and work through the issues is extremely tough, and something that I thought that I would never be able to do; plus it takes a very very long time. Now that we have gotten as far as we did, I think our relationship is stronger than it ever was. I know that my girlfriend is not cheating on me currently, and am pretty confident that I will be able to tell if something like that was going on because we know eachother very well after all of these issues. Will I be able to trust her completely? No, but my trust level for her now is not that different than what it was before...but it is continually growing everyday and I think eventually I will be able to trust her again fully over some more time.
2007-01-18 22:05:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have cheated .......... It was one of my first relationships and I was 14!! He cheated at the same time though so we didn't start of very well! 6 Years later and no further cheating, I found out he was sleeping with my best friend. I felt so bad as all my other friends at school knew and only one had the guts to tell me! I felt cheated by both of them and all my friends bar the one who told me. I thought if they kept this from me , what else are they not telling me? Paranoia sets in and you start to distrust people.
So I find it really difficult to trust people who have cheated. My father was a cheater and it got him nowhere as the woman cheated on him and now he is alone.
I would never cheat again as I know how it feels and I would never be with a cheater. I just could'nt trust them fully and would always be paranoid and have doubts.
2007-01-19 06:02:15 · answer #2 · answered by leigh M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am still with someone 6 years after they cheated, you may forgive but you dont forget. I notice everything and I come out and ask 101 questions still to this day. He knows if he doesnt like the questions he more than free to leave. I am very clear on that fact.
2007-01-19 05:59:30 · answer #3 · answered by Cherry_Blossom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me i don't trust anyone in this world Its very hard to trust always expect the unexpected .
Life is not perfect just stay calm and live for yourself whether u've been cheated on or u cheated .
I don't care anymore for anything
2007-01-19 05:59:18 · answer #4 · answered by black cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i have cheated, i make sure no one finds out or else i won;t even bother to cheat.
If i have been cheated on, i will walked out and never forgive the person's stupidity on being found out that he/ she has cheatd
No, i won't trust ex cheaters.
Conclusion: Don't cheat if you don't know how to. It's meaningless to get caught in cheating when you will be found out
2007-01-19 06:01:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i was deeply hurt when I found out my husband was cheating on me. I thought I could never forgive him. But as the saying goes. Time heals all wounds. I try to accept him for whatever he is Love conquers all.
2007-01-19 06:01:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
After the trust barrier is broken...it can never truly heal..no matter how much you try.
2007-01-19 06:00:22 · answer #7 · answered by Natz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant really trust them once they do it they will do it again
2007-01-19 05:56:59 · answer #8 · answered by reshadow31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋