I feel my sister is taking over my identity...she is always telling people about things that have happened in my life..but says it like it is her life...if I tell somebody a joke..she always finishes the punchline...I started to do my family tree ..and I found a relative we were going to see...yes she got there before me..I do all the hard work and she wants all the glory....it is just getting worse lately...she is,nt a young person....and this must sound pathetic...but it really is getting me down.I feel I cant have my life because she is taking it...everything I do say.... even down to my clothes...is it maybe she is not happy with the life she has...I am single she is married...
2007-01-18 21:29:31 · 6 answers · asked by JBKS_10 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I was,nt the favourite in my family..actually we were brought up in a childrens home together...our parents died when we were young..I also have a grown up family ..so I have no intention of moving...and she does,nt live near me..but she phones me a lot...and she is the one who as had a ladys life..I have worked ...
2007-01-18 22:05:57 · update #1
I've delt with people like this. They tell my life stories like it's theirs or share my ideals with others. They are usually people that lack an identity. I honestly don't get too bothered by it because they will probably never contain the knowledge and skills I have. They'd have to live in my head 24/7 to really copy me to the point where they are ripping me off.
Really she isn't taking your identity. So you shouldn't worry. Read books, gain talent, live life. You know the experiences in your live are yours and that's all that should matter. Unless she's writes a book about you that's when you sue and cash in.
She admires you in some way. We don't borrow someones life that sucks do we? If it does really bother you. Learn many things she cannot possibly do or think. Gain much knowledge and intelligence in areas that are only unique to you.
2007-01-19 00:04:12 · answer #1 · answered by obscure 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One word: move. Really though, were you the favorite in your family? Why is she seeking out this attention? I'd suggest sitting her down and talking with her about it. On the other hand, if she's always been this way--and she's grown now--you might stick with my original idea and move. You don't have your own family yet. Now would be a perfect time to resettle somewhere else--away from her.
2007-01-19 05:47:25 · answer #2 · answered by away team 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She admires you, what is wrong with that? I would take it as a compliment. However, I always do everything I can to be different to my sister! We are twins though. If it's really bothering you talk to her about it or just try to distance yourself a bit. Go out with people she doesn't know and go places she hasn't been. She might get bored of it after a while lol.
2007-01-19 05:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your sister is probably a little jealous of what she sees as your exiting single life. maybe shes feeling bored and a little down in her marraige.perhaps a gentle chat might help to get to the real problem.good luck.x
2007-01-19 05:49:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So don't tell het what you are doing.. tell her after the event not before. Keep conversations vague and only tell jokes when she is not around.
2007-01-19 06:38:37 · answer #5 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short answer, carbomb. Long answer, c a r b o m b
2007-01-19 05:37:55 · answer #6 · answered by MaxPower 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋