Yet he says I am not emotionally involved so I am not cheating. Is this another form of cheating or is it some form of underlying unresolved psychological problem?
Issue he is he wants the marriage does not want a divorce and wants children with me After a separation said has changed - no prostitutes.
I am skeptical - plus I don't understand the prositute thing, seems too weird to reconcile in my head.
2007-01-18 20:46:34 · 21 answers · asked by bumble bee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree with him since there is no emotional connection with a prostitute. He just wanted a BJ maybe. Be more open minded and give him another chance. Good luck
2007-01-18 20:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
Whether it be physical or emotional it is still cheating. He isn't doing it with you but with someone else that is cheating. When you are married you are only to be emotionally and phyiscally involved with your spouse.
I think he says that so it does not feel or sound so bad.
Personally first thing I would do is see a doctor and make sure you are okay. You never know in the heat of passion what he could have forgotten to use. And the last thing you need is some incurable illness.
People who cheat always have some underlying problem. And it is never with the spouse it is within themselves. Maybe he feels inadequate around you. For what ever reason that is why he goes to prostitutes instead of like someone you know.
Have you talked about going to some type of couseling together? You know so he does not think it is all him and that you are willing to work it out with him. I mean that could be a start. And if the counseling does not work evaluate the situation and if divorce is what ends up happening well at least you tried to work it out.
HTH
Type A
2007-01-18 21:01:06 · answer #2 · answered by Type A 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
cheating is cheating---if it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck then it must be a freakin duck-----
Your spouse has a psychological problem and needs to be seen either by a psychitrist or a pshychologist to help with the issues he has---LOW self-esteem and control issues are very apparent!
You're also putting yourself at risk if you're sleeping with this man and not using protection. HIV/ AIDS, STD;s you're at risk of getting.
This issue is your spouses problem and he's making it yours because he has a problem that he hasn't fixed ---
2007-01-18 22:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay do you want a case of vd or aids? If so then stay with this man . Cause eventually that is what he is going to pass away from . Please divorce him before something major happens to you . No do not have kids with this man . run as far and as fast as you can to a divorce attorney and stay away from him . He is nasty and you would always be wondering . good luck and I hope I helped.
2007-01-19 00:03:24 · answer #4 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what children? They will be cute while little, and then grow up into a prostitute-cheaters like he. Have children with a decent man.
Plus, what if you are pregnant and he brings home a bad disease? Think about it, drop the guy and find a normal man.
2007-01-18 20:57:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Please tell me you don't believe that garbage. It doesn't matter if he is not emotionally involved--he is having a sexual encounter with another woman. That is cheating. If cheating were only with women that a man is emotionally involved with, married men would be having one night stands left and right.
The prostitute thing concerns me--these women have sex with many different men every night; Maybe they use protection, maybe they don't. Do you really want to risk it?
2007-01-18 21:12:42 · answer #6 · answered by rtobor84 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You must be out of your mind for even associating with someone like this. Do you realize the STD's you could now have because of this thing. I'm not even going to tell you what you should do because you obviously have problems yourself if you can't see what to do in this situation.
2007-01-19 01:16:00 · answer #7 · answered by Jersey Style 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple, if a married man has sex with another person, no matter what profession or gender or reason it is cheating if the wife does nto agree with it. sounds like he could use some councelling and sounds like he is not ready for the committment of marriage.
2007-01-18 21:58:38 · answer #8 · answered by denise b 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the chances that he has stopped are slim to none first of all.sounds like he is trying to place blame at your doorstep for his actions when he was looking for the excuse to go and do what he did.if you take him back there will be plenty more heartache in your and your children's future.best thing to do is be good to yourself and kid's and put the trash out to the curb before the trash bring's you home somthins you don't want and it could be deadly[hiv]would you really want to put children through that.be strong and good luck
2007-01-18 21:06:32 · answer #9 · answered by angel_ns_texas 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
all i have to say is ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER! it doesn't matter if its male/female/animal/or a plant. i don't care its cheating and you should stand there and be his woman in wait. I'm sorry girlfriend, dump his A** like last weeks garbage.
2007-01-18 20:51:00 · answer #10 · answered by princess786900 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋