OK Ive been seeing someone for oh about 1 yr now..
Shes 19 im 23.. She says that she wants to be with me and marry me... Love is never a problem.. We both love each other and care for each other.. Recently we planned to get a place together as my contract expires in april where im at and she wants to move
out of mommy and daddys home.. Well she got unexpectedly evicted from her parents and is now living with her cousin..
Her cousin is a very bad influence on her along with her husband
and theyve convinced her to move into the apt below them ..
Weve spent a few moths on or own looking for some apts where I live and have put in some apps and are waiting to hear back..
But now she doesent want to live in caldwell(where I live)
She wants to live in nampa because thats where all her friends she claims to have live.. I work in caldwell she gets ssi.. im not much for her cousin.. So I could move there with her or I could stay here and she could live there but I dont want to lose her
2007-01-18 20:43:12 · 12 answers · asked by Bri 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Separation doesn't mean losing her. Just see her every day.
2007-01-18 20:46:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she has valid reasons for not moving to caldwell I can understand.
Maybe she didn't like the place.
Do you not like the apartment she lives in now as apartments go? To heck with the cousins and her so called friends!
Why don't you try compromising and find some place you both will like , maybe even in a totally different town then either one of you has picked.
I would suggest this and see what she says .. If she is adament about this particular place she lives in now because "all her friends are there". Then I might seriously reconsider a permanent relationship with this young woman.
Relationships are all about compatibility and compromise.
2007-01-18 20:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by That_ blue_ eyed_ Irish_ lass 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are both very young, but that aside...........you should do what you feel is best for you.
You have been together for a year already, so living apart isnt going to be that big of a problem. However if youre ready to make the committment to live with her as a couple, just tell her thats what you want to do.
If she doesnt want to, then dont push her into it, otherwise it may come with regret oneday.
2007-01-18 20:55:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you are becoming co-dependant on her . Why ? and her being so young why is she on ssi ? does she have mental issues? If so perhaps you need to re-evaluate your relationship with her . I m not really sure this is the best thing for you because you are willing to give up a nice place where you live to move in with her ? No you are already willing to give things up for her . No you need to re-evaluate this relationship and think it over really hard . Sounds like you are truly becoming co-dependant upon her . Sorry. that is how i see it . Good luck and I hope I helped .
2007-01-19 00:08:30 · answer #4 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is too young to be in moving in with a guy. And why is she on ssi? I'm assuming she has some mental illness that qualifies her for that. If she is that easily influenced by her family, you may want to live on your own and see how the relationship goes before making anything permanent with her.
2007-01-18 20:47:14 · answer #5 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should discuss this with her. compromise. maybe you can live somewhere in the middle, you know, like meeting halfway. if you live with her, you might not end up happy. if she lives with you, that can also happen. you dont need to do all the sacrifice, mind you. besides, whats the hurry? maybe if you take it slower things will just fall into place. living together is tough, and you have to have a strong foundation that you'll both do everything to make it work. if either of you is half-hearted in this, then dont pursue it.
2007-01-18 20:56:13 · answer #6 · answered by rinkumi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
is she thinking of marriage to you or her family?if she really loves you she will move to caldwell where your job is as that is your way of supporting her.try and explain that you would be loosing time driving [how much wkly]gas money etc...and that you are NOT WILLING TO MOVE TO NAMPA as it would be to much on you,at the same time let her know that her friend's and family are more than welcome to come and visit or she can go visit them.if she is not willing then she does not love you enough to stay with you through thick and thin.sometimes we have to make choices,my mother told me one time it was her or my b/f now husband and i told her goodbye.we have been together 20 yrs. if she loves you she will follow if not find someone who does love you
2007-01-18 21:58:16 · answer #7 · answered by angel_ns_texas 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she is young and immature, if u don't like her co usin than living around her wouldn't really work. sounds as if your girlfriend has made some friends, and she wants to be around her friends, more than she wants to be with u. maybe it would be best to avoid living where u know your going to have trouble, may cause u nothing but grief, she seems interested in other things, and not in your relationship. she is really quite young to be talking marriage, and commitment, doesn't seem her interest still lie with u as much as they once did. stay where your at, let her come to u, than and only than will u be able to see if she truly loves u.
2007-01-18 23:45:05 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-07 09:37:23 · answer #9 · answered by erlebach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The appropriate time to move in together is if you get married. If you are both ready for marriage, there's no need to wait. Why don't you talk to her and share your concerns with her?
2007-01-18 20:53:50 · answer #10 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her you have a job & a place already, if she does'nt want to move to your town, find another g.f.. Sounds harsh but don't screw up your job to make your girlfriend happy. It almost never works out, if your the only one trying.
2007-01-18 20:51:51 · answer #11 · answered by Fab 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋