my ex and i have been broken up for 10 months recently he has been calling me everyday at work sometimes 2 times a day and then i asked him if he wanted to go to the movies and then he kept making excuses. i told him i dont have time for a phone relationship and i havent heard from him for a week. he left me and i still love him. why is he calling all the time then? why is he doing this? he is getting jelous and asking where i have been who im with and what i have been doing. what is with this?? should i send him an sms and tell him i miss him?
2007-01-18 19:46:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He is stalking you..he doesn't need to know what you are doing and who you have been seeing..besides he is disrupting your work..you do not need a stalker in your life..no phone calls to him..
2007-01-18 19:54:19 · answer #1 · answered by jst4pat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys should stop playing each others mind games, the best thing I advice you to do, is sit down and talk as adults, face to face. If he just calls you, set up a boundary already. Tell him you still have feelings for him, and would like to work things out but, before that can happen you guys need to get together and establish what went wrong the first time and see that it does not occur again. If he answers coldly or vaguely to this, cut him off completely, he obviously doesn't seek a serious commitment with you and you deserve a loving relationship, yes all relationship have problems, but most of the time are you guys together, fighting, or making up all the time. It's going to be hard to just cut him of, that's because, you have practically had your life revolve around him I suppose. Reconnect with yourself and your friends, what did you enjoy to do before he was involved in your life. Trust me if he cares about you once, he sees you still have a life without him, he will ask you to forgive him. And if this happens do not revolve your life around him again, let him be just a part of your life not all of it. Good luck.
2007-01-19 03:59:18 · answer #2 · answered by Yesi20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, telling him that would be the worst thing to do. It would put you in a very vunerable position. He already knows you miss him, that is why he is messin with you.
I don't know why he is doing it, maybe he is lonely, but let him get jealous of you. Let him wonder what you are doing with your time. Make it sound like you are happy without him, and you are busy and having a good time, and he will probably soon realize that he misses you. That would be the only way to get him back. He doesn't want to be with some sad, self-conscious girl who can't get her life back on track after a break-up. He wants to be with a girl that shows control, and is full of life.
2007-01-19 03:52:15 · answer #3 · answered by allforasia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still want to be with the guy, be direct with him. Tell him you are still in love with him and would like to be together. On the one hand his recent contact leads you to think he wants the same thing; however, he is also being aloof and sending you mixed messages. Tell him that if he wants to be with you - or at least explore the possibility - then he needs to actually make an effort. If he isn't willing to make any kind of effort, ask him to leave you alone and move on with your life.
2007-01-19 03:52:04 · answer #4 · answered by Justin H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I recommend you that if you love or like him and if you sure he loves or likes you send a sms to him and try to arrange meeting with him then talk to him frankly for figure out what is the goal of this relationship, is in the end of this relationship marriage or the goal is something else. if marriage is not goal, doesn't matter, you can stay with each other just as a friend. something else if you love or like each other don't hide it unless there is something special between you and him that you didn't mention.
2007-01-19 04:04:33 · answer #5 · answered by sedaye_farari 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh dear.. take heed!... run...do not walk.... to your phone co and have your number changed. Do not accept his phone calls,e-mails,letters, etc. seems you have a drama king!!!!
life is too precious to get caught up in this foul tide.
please think about your future and where you want to be standing 25 years from today. is with this guy?if he continues to call you at work please consider going to court for a 'no contact order'. you'll be doing your self and your future a great favor!
2007-01-19 03:57:38 · answer #6 · answered by ifishthereforiam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
10 months!!!!
How can you possibly think he still cares?
Don't call him, don't accept calls from him, delete messages, sms etc before you read them.
He is dangling you on his macho string.
Wake up and smell the roses, self respect starts with you baby.
Stroke your own ego and leave him to wallow in his.
2007-01-19 03:52:28 · answer #7 · answered by Fred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he feels alone but doesnt want to pursue a relationship with you ad only calls you when he feels lonely?
2007-01-19 03:49:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
short answer is no. if he still had feelings for u he would accept your invitation for a movie
2007-01-19 03:49:12 · answer #9 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah...just do it..
2007-01-19 03:51:28 · answer #10 · answered by Ah Fye . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋