trupti is patel and i m naidu from south our caste matters a lot and now she took a decision to marry in her caste but i cannot live without her i have once left my home also when she told to run but next day she changed her mind and told now our marriage is not possible but i luv her to and cannot live without her and also effects in my carrer so what should i do pls reply me and solve my problem
2007-01-18 19:19:48 · 13 answers · asked by kiran n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you live in a country with middle ages morality, until they wake up you may as well just forget love.
2007-01-18 19:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Caste are officially abolished in India since such a long time, but it seems, that the ghost is still alive...
It´s a pity, because all these caste matters are based on ignorance and many life's have been destroyed and many people made so unhappy.
Well, it´s you young people who should be able to change society and give a damn for these ancient and unmoral attitudes.
But in your case, it´s hard, because it seems, tat the girl is in love with you (as she already made serious plans to run away with you) - but the pressure of society may be to hard for her and she´s afraid of loosing her family... so she takes the easy way: Marring somebody her parents have chosen for her.
It´s a shame, but unfortunately there is nothing you can do. You can´t force her to leave her home and go away with you if she doesn´t agree and prefers to live a comfort life without taking risks. ´
It sounds hard, but you should forget about her.
Time heals all wounds... well, it´s true.
2007-01-18 20:44:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anita P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kiran n I can feel your anguish and pain and I really feel for you. I am Indian (Anglo Indian) but ignorant about your customs etc. In fact I loathe casteism. Having said that, you do realize that caste matters a lot to you guys so you should be able to understand her plight. Kiran, if you really and truly love her let her go…if you do anything to stop her marriage etc. you will be causing her a lot more grief and hurt. How can you hurt the one you love??? Oh Yes! You can and should live without her…give all the love in your heart to her as a wedding gift. What better gift then this sacrifice for her happiness??? However, remember she also loves you and will not be happy if you screw up your life because of this, so just get on with your life and concentrate on your career. As the days/years go by the wounds will heal and who knows man…love may strike again???
2007-01-18 20:12:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-31 12:25:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Naidu,
we are in 21 century,so we should not believe in such things like caste, religion,but i know it happens in India, But what is most important thing is love. if you love her, and she also do, then there should be no problem.Naidu you have taken too many steps so it is her turn, Let she think,give her some space to think about your relation. i thing more,dont spoil your career.
2007-01-18 20:02:41 · answer #5 · answered by Samir 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seems that you cannot rely on her because if she cared for you she would not have ditched you. You have come to know that right in the begining itself ,so you are lucky. You will soon be able to find a girl of your expectation.
best of luck and forget tripthi
2007-01-18 19:49:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Kiran,
From the points you have mentioned it looks like Trupti is not serious in this relationship. I can understand your pain since I have felt the same pain in my life before. Please concentrate on your career & you will come out of this pain as time goes on.
I wish you all the best.
2007-01-18 21:35:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to forget her coz she has already decided to marry in her own caste.
At the moment the best wud be to support her in her decision....coz you love her.
2007-01-19 06:25:01 · answer #8 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sometimes you have to sacrifise your love for your parents sake . May be her parents emotionally blackmailed her so she is doing this dont mistake her try to tell how much you love and if you are brave let your parents know about it and ask them to speak to trupti parents
2007-01-18 22:58:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget Trupti and look for Deepti
2007-01-18 19:33:15 · answer #10 · answered by Akki's Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋