I want to teach a lesson to my best friend. what to do?

Question

we are bla-bla-bla from the very childhood.
She infringes me. She shouts on me and says how much I am irrepaceable. I also have a bad temper but she is stronger.
this friendship became a duty. How can I teach her a lesson to respect me? (this summer we even had a fight because I went away when she yelled at me, and I lost this fight). but then she cried and asked to forgive her. I am fed up. I am human. what to do?

Answer 1

You are right, you are irreplaceable to her, your acquaintance is not your friend, a friend would not force a friend to do something. She needs you in her life, you are an easy mark, and a bully gets a RUSH by doing what she does to you. It is a mind thing, a RUSH is a cheap thrill of watching you squirm it is almost like a sick kind of love. This hurting and forgiving.. She has brainwashed you so much into believing that you are weaker.. She may be stronger but can she stop a bullet…the answer is no… the answer is you cannot make her respect you, it is up to her to understand that she is wrong. She may never understand that she is doing wrong.. When she has done this all her life, she may be insane. You can’t fix that you are not a doctor.. But you can teach yourself a lesson of respect.. By respecting yourself and placing more value on you. How much are you worth?? Are you worth a slap and a shout.??? That is the value she has placed on you.. You teach people like this to respect you by treating them exactly how they are.. Okay she is stronger than you… so don’t hang with her, make excuses, I can’t meet up with you cause I have to help my mother today, my brother, my boyfriend… make excuses., bully’s desire and have a greater desire then regular people to be liked or loved.. So you need to ignore her… it is a turn off.. Don’t answer your phone, tell your folks to say she is not there, unplug your phone, it will only hurt you more to hear her voice recording on your answer machine , she might threaten you and it will only bring you down, slowing make pull away from her.. She is toxic,….. You are already loosing… and don’t try to make he like you, you can’t…don’t know how you are in mind games, if you can give them… so I won’t tell you any. Just stay away, change your number. Say you have to go to the doctor. And make new friends… okay lets say you are at school. Don’t talk about her, go to a different area of the school., make new friends at the library, just hang in a different area and try to befriend stronger people than you.. They will back you up if it comes to that.. Also if you have a boyfriend that will break your acquaintance RUSH cause then she has competition on a control level, and she will not go against a bigger opponent. Keep your conversations short with her, it is a turn off if she cannot read you, she needs to understand you before she can attack you, keep it short. It messes with the way they think they know you…..when she comes up to you.. Stay quiet, let her say hi, first… cause they get a RUSH when they can intimidate a response from you.. She will say hi and then maybe sorry. Just keep it short… say… SURE if she says sorry to you.. If she says what does that mean… tell her it is does not mean anything.. It does not mean anything .. Do not say it is none of her business that is grounds for a fight… when she approaches if she wants to hang with you, state I will be right back, I have to tell John something.. Or use an excuse and find that guy and tell him, will you walk with me to the class or wherever, she will think he asked you to be with him… keep your distance… confuse your enemy…. Remember she will never respect you but you have to love yourself more and don’t let her hurt you no more… when she goes to your house to not open the door, you were in the restroom, shower, sleeping, not home… ask people to help you , the ones you trust.. Step out of the game that she has planned for you….. Step out… if you are not there …she cannot play with you….. Understand she cannot hurt you if you are not with her… remember a bully does not like to see itself, nor do they want attention…you can make a public scene.. By screaming out loud ,…stop hurting me….leave me alone… you are not my friend because friends don’t mess with friends and you are messing with me… you can also put her on time out for 1 month.. You hurt me bad , real bad , JANE , you are on time out for 1 months, I am placing you on time out for hurting me… and then ignore her.. Treat her like a child and ignore her… a bully hates to loose control of any situation….

Answer 2

Find another friend. The pattern for her disrespecting you and you forgiving her when she cries for forgiveness has already been set. To honest with you, it sounds like your friendship isn't a friendship at all. Friends support each other and yes, they do fight from time to time but, not over petty things where the two of you end up screaming at each other. If you have to keep tally on who "won" a fight, you need to reevaluate your friendship with her. Basically, if you fight with her more than you get along with her, the friendship is dead. There's no lesson you can teach this girl. Unless you're both 3, she's acting like an infant and you're enabling her to. Cut your loses.

Answer 3

You can't teach her to respect you. If she doesn't already have respect for you, after all the years you have been friends- Then she never will.. Seems like since you have been friends since childhood, now as adults it's just a friendship of convenience that isn't too convenient. Time to be a big girl and find new friends!

Answer 4

Walk away. If she wants you to forgive her- explain that that there is nothing for her to appologise for- she is just being her usual self- and you don't like that anymore, then walk away again- just make sure you seem completely un-involved emotionally.

This should make her have a good hard look at herself. It's up to you if you give her another chance- but regardless, please make sure you give her time to think about her actions first (a week or so).

If you are both acting like children you need to use the same tactics as when working with children. Good Luck

Answer 5

You and you friend are playing emotional games.There is some high to this,or I should say intense negative and positive feelings,If you guys make up, oh! so lovey dovey. Then you fight again. The best lesson to teach your friend, is totally ignore her. Do not take the bait to her trap. >don't take disrespect from any one",nip it on the bud".for any one who will do that to you. Tell her that you forgive her then move on to different direction.Good Luck.

Answer 6

Well I can see that you have a love and hate relationship with your friend. Look put it this way: Life itself gives you sh... when you are driving, or waiting in line, or your boyfriend or your boss. Friends are to be hanging out with them, having a good time, sharing nice and bad things, but when your "friend" start giving you hard time, it is very simple: Look, if you are going to cause me to feel bad, making me feel angry, and to be piss all the time, what's your point for being a ***** to me? Tell what it is your problem and I don't have nothing to do with it. If you can't change or respect me, it will be better that you take your way, because we have different destiny: I'm going to my home and you are going to hell". Period

Answer 7

I once asked my 'best friend'
(ann-almost-similar-situation-as-yourself) to leave me alone. Than, she criend like soooooooooooooo long and apologizes and apologizes and apologizes for what ever she did(since she never had a clue about it) and promised to treaat me better, and she really did.

I recomend you to show her how life would be without you in her life. That will teach her something (I left her alone for like a month or so, she cried, I enjoyed life)

Answer 8

Totally ignore her and never budge until you are 100% sure she straightened herself up. If it ends up loosing her... well and dandy. Forget about this "since-the-childhood friendship ****". People change. Grow up and have some self-respect.

Answer 9

If you want to continue this friendship, tell your friend that both of you need to grow up and stop this silly none sense.

Answer 10

you are adults teaching a lesson is for children so sit down and talk about what each of you want